Oscar De La Huerte answered
If you're worried about the fact that your marital bed isn't seeing the amount of action you'd like, then rest assured you're not alone!
Many couples find that, as their marriage progresses, sex seems to take something of a back seat. However, just because it's fairly common, doesn't mean you shouldn't do something about it!
How to get your sex life back in three simple steps:
For me, the most encouraging thing is the first part of your question: 'I love my wife very much'.
This makes the 'but' part a lot easier to deal with. As long as the love is still there, dealing with the sex part becomes a lot easier.
Sex (and the urge to have sex) is as natural as getting hungry driving past Nando's on an empty stomach. Whether your wife shows it as much or not, the chances are she is feeling just as 'hungry'. If you're attempting to revive your sex life and your relationship to its former glory, I'd recommend you try out the following:
1) Communicate with your wife The first thing you need to do is sit down with your wife and communicate. It may be awkward or uncomfortable (I find that a bottle of wine helps) but you need to sit down and talk frankly with your wife about how you feel.
If things have got to the stage where they are affecting your marriage, then talking frankly (but sensitively) is vital. Come up with things you're both unhappy with, and realistic solutions to these problems. Approach things as a team, if you both want to make things work out then you'll find a way.
2) Get active together! Whilst there's no sense in expecting your wife to turn back time and become a teenager again, there is definitely a lot to be said for taking pride in one's appearance.
Maybe you could encourage her to join you at the gym or on some other type of physical activity. As well as getting you both in shape, working out will boost your sex-drive and is a great way to bond.
You might even want to consider an activity-based holiday together like white water rafting.
3) Go on holiday Even if white-water rafting isn't your thing, a holiday in general would be a great idea. Getting away from your regular routine and spending some time in a relaxed environment can be just what you need to reignite the spark.
There's no need to go for the 'big gesture' romantic holiday to Paris - even a weekend together at a spa or health resort can be just as beneficial.
Many couples find that, as their marriage progresses, sex seems to take something of a back seat. However, just because it's fairly common, doesn't mean you shouldn't do something about it!
How to get your sex life back in three simple steps:
For me, the most encouraging thing is the first part of your question: 'I love my wife very much'.
This makes the 'but' part a lot easier to deal with. As long as the love is still there, dealing with the sex part becomes a lot easier.
Sex (and the urge to have sex) is as natural as getting hungry driving past Nando's on an empty stomach. Whether your wife shows it as much or not, the chances are she is feeling just as 'hungry'. If you're attempting to revive your sex life and your relationship to its former glory, I'd recommend you try out the following:
1) Communicate with your wife The first thing you need to do is sit down with your wife and communicate. It may be awkward or uncomfortable (I find that a bottle of wine helps) but you need to sit down and talk frankly with your wife about how you feel.
If things have got to the stage where they are affecting your marriage, then talking frankly (but sensitively) is vital. Come up with things you're both unhappy with, and realistic solutions to these problems. Approach things as a team, if you both want to make things work out then you'll find a way.
2) Get active together! Whilst there's no sense in expecting your wife to turn back time and become a teenager again, there is definitely a lot to be said for taking pride in one's appearance.
Maybe you could encourage her to join you at the gym or on some other type of physical activity. As well as getting you both in shape, working out will boost your sex-drive and is a great way to bond.
You might even want to consider an activity-based holiday together like white water rafting.
3) Go on holiday Even if white-water rafting isn't your thing, a holiday in general would be a great idea. Getting away from your regular routine and spending some time in a relaxed environment can be just what you need to reignite the spark.
There's no need to go for the 'big gesture' romantic holiday to Paris - even a weekend together at a spa or health resort can be just as beneficial.