I'm going through the same thing now...but I had something I consider a miracle. She was with one guy before me, her only other serious relationship. They "did the deed" and when I first found out I was hurt. I personally had saved myself for marriage, I was devastated. However, as I got to know her I fell in love. Some of the things I said I'd never do seemed to change...I proved my love by doing that deed with her, once, just to prove to her (she has some trust issues because of that same guy) that I love her and want to be with her forever. I mentioned a miracle right, well here it is: Her hymen was still there! Fully intact! The guy before me never broke it, she said afterward she was told it's still there. I was the one to break it...so technically I took her FULL virginity, what I prayed for from God and he granted me that miracle. Yes she has a past, she did things with him that still hurt me a little but I must admit it's getting better. As time goes on I'm starting to see how much she loves me and how much I love her. One line I heard once was: "Don't worry that you're not her first, just be thankful that you're her last because that's what matters." Also, think for a second, she's yours, not the other guy's. You're in love so you know how great a person she is...that guy was a MORON for letting her go so feel sorry for him he let such a prize go...revel in his unluckiness, sneer at his stupidity, hate him not her. She's yours, all yours so focus on that. I've never replied to one of these before because I was looking for insight...but I can see God's hand in our relationship and I do consider the fact that the hymen was still there completely to be a miracle! I love her and that's all that matters, she's mine and not his, he doesn't know what he let go, he lost the crown jewel, the best and now I have her and I'm not letting go! Don't let this ruin your relationship, let it strengthen it, she told you means she trusts you and that she's serious because if she wasn't she'd lie just to get what she wants, right? She's trusting you not to judge but to love her and you're breaking that trust. Look at it this way, if one of your family members does something wrong, really wrong, will you still love them? Of course you will, they're family and you'll always love them! If you love her that must mean you may want to marry her, making her family. How can you hold something up against someone that's family? Would you want your father, mother, sister, brother to hold up a mistake you made in your past and not want to see or be with you anymore over it, of course not! Love her for what's inside. You've touched a love that nobody else has. You've touched her soul if she loves you back...and that might be something that other guy never got to touch! Physical beauty is important but isn't the end all be all of dating...it's what's in the mind and heart that count, right? That applies here as well, she loves YOU, not him YOU! The physical doesn't matter as much as the spiritual and if you're in love that's a great spiritual connection. Could she have been in love before? Yes. However, every time it's a little different. Think about this, it really helped me: If you could have a girl with NO sexual past but you aren't really compatible or a girl with a little sexual past but you are VERY compatible, which would you choose? Another point is that many that haven't done anything EVER may crave it more later in life, thinking they missed out on other opportunities and want to explore those. If you have someone a little experienced, they know what that's like and they want to be with YOU. None of the others. They've experienced a few other things but they stick with you because it's YOU they know they love...you can't know what love is until you know what just liking a person of the opposite sex is, right? I know this was kind of long for an Anonymous post but I had a lot to say, this is a topic that is VERY close to me because I'm dealing with it too, writing this has helped me as well. She loves you dude, don't screw that up, that's not something that comes by every day...plus in today's society, odds of finding a virgin are less and less...plus odds of finding a virgin you LOVE, almost astronomical. I can see God's hand in my relationship, look for signs she's the one, little signs of similar personality, past, interests or even running into each other unexpectedly a lot or chatting a lot. Other things too. If you love her, stay with her, it gets easier over time...I don't think it ever FULLY goes away but about 99% away after a while. Hope that helped and hope you read this far! Good luck!