Friendship is one of the things needed in a relationship, trust and respect are equally important and all are priorities. Before you declare your love, let your friendship develop to the point where you feel that the other person and yourself have gained trust in each other. I once believed I had reached that stage and lost the relationship by writing a poem (not sappy) and not even suggesting love, just that we might have each other as comfort after both of us had escaped from bad relationships. It scared him so badly that he did something I call (the sweet kiss off) without telling me to my face. I did not want to trap him, in any way. I was shy of getting involved, too. Work on your friendship and don't reveal your feelings. To some people it's frightening and they'll run from what they think of as a commitment they aren't ready for.
This is what happened to me too. We still talk to each other but there is a serious awkwardness there that wasn't there before. I told him that I was attracted to him and would like to see how things would work out. Now, whenever we talk I can tell that he feels awkward. I wish I didn't day anything because even if the friendship survives it won't ever be the same. Give it time and let him approach you. But if there are discussions or signs that are completely obvious then you could maybe flirt with the idea. Just don't start off too strong. You'll scare him away.
Although Tiger made a few good points, and I rated her reply a 5 star, I differ in my reply. I believe the only way to have true love is to be a friend with that person. Reciprocation of that love may or may not happen, but allow nature to take its course, make subtle gestures of your feelings, and wait to see the others reactions.
NOW, if we are all way off base here, and you are asking because you two have broken up, and he/she wants to "remain friends", then thats a whole new ball of wax. I believe yes, but it will take time for the wounds to heal, for the friendship to continue.
I'm here if you'd like to talk. I'll say a prayer for you. Love, Happy2bgina
Hey you love him means you care 4 him and have respect for him. Friendship forms the base o love . Maybe that person hasn't felt the intensity of your love. Go ahead be friends , act cool(I mean be normal) to do away with the akwardness. At the end your destiny has best instore 4 you. Good luck with it:) as some great 1 said- for every problem under the sun there is solution or there is none if there is a solution go and find if there is none never mind!
What if you think about the question you are asking..."can you be friends with someone you are in love with?" Because when I need clarity on something personal like friendship or love, I also search my own self asking "would I like to be friends with someone I am in love with?" my answer is "yes!" . Is your answer "yes" or is it "maybe"?
I am not sure what you are asking specifically, but if you are not dating this guy yet, but you do feel like you are in love, then yes you can still be friends. A major part of a relationship is being your significant others best friend. Sometimes though I believe depending on how well this friend relationship is, it's not also best to pursue a relationship. I have been talking to this guy for a year now, and we are really good friends. He finally tells me he wants to be more then friends and even though I feel the same way, I just can't let our friendship evolve into something more. So it just really depends on what your real feelings are for this guy. I hope this helped you out! =)
