This is the situation I'm in, I figured though, that you should wait it out, don't make them split up cas thats bad karma. Talk to him, stay really close to him, and hope for the best. What hurts the most is thinking of them like kissing and hugging, but be strong, if its meant to happen, it will.
The thing that you SHOULD NOT do is try and tear their relationship apart purposely for your own selfish reasons. If you do this then you will be known to all girls as a boyfriend stealer and this is the lowest of the low person you can become. Furthermore, ask yourself if you really truely like this guy and make sure you don't like him just because he has a girlfriend. If you really do like him then be patient with him at first, don't rush things. Just be friends and get to know each other more. After a while when you both get more comfortable around each other then you should probably tell him the truth if he doesn't already know. Yes, I am saying that you should tell him how you really feel about him, and that you know he has a gf and nothing you understand and respect that. Most likely(and hopefully) he should understand too. After that you just have to wait it out and see what happens between him and his gf.
I would just start out as friends, friends make better boyfriends any way. I think it is ok to tell him you like him, but don't push him to break up with her, or cause him to cheat on her. Besides if he'll cheat on her then he will most likely cheat on you and that doesn't make for a good relationship. I wish you the best and I hope I was of some help.
I understand her because the boy I like has a girlfriend too.I think it would be better if you told him because if you don't your going to feel sad all the time.Just tell him,tell that you like him a lot but you know he has a girlfriend so nothing can happen between you guys and ask if you guys can be friends.And if he likes you too then he will want to be more then friends,in the end it is up to him if he wants to be with you or his girlfriend.GOOD LUCK n listen to heart.
Talk to the guy about it. I'm in love with my best friend, who is a guy. And recently he got a new girlfriend, which broke my heart. So I walked to his house and asked him straight up if he had a new girlfriend, since I didnt hear it from him, and he was honest and said yes. Then he realized that it hurt me, and said he would break up with her for me, but I didnt want him to do that, so I told him to keep her, but I couldnt be his friend anymore. And after an hour of talking, we decided bros before hoes. He's still gunna date her, but he promised me, if anything went down, he'd pick me no hesitation. So maybe it will be the same for you, I suggest talking to him about his girlfriend, dropping subtle hints that yout like him and want to be with him, without making it awkward. If he is going to stay friends with you and date this other girl, trust me it will be torture seeing them together. I know it is for me. But after a while, try and move on or ignore it. Also, you should make sure to stay friends with him when he's single and when he's in relationships, and show him that your the right person for him, so eventually he'll realize that he likes you too...but only do that if you really like him because it can be time consuming.
Actually, I have that same prob. Its probaly ok to tell him you like hin just don't push it to far. Try not to get him to break up with his girlfriend. Then what if another girl makes him break up with you? Then youd be heartbroken. And you probably wouldnt trust him cause if he did it to you then he'll probably do that to someone else.
I speak of personal experience right now when I say that there is really not much you can do. I mean, you could hope for a breakup, you could become his best friend but, if like me that is not enough for you. Or, you could get him by getting him to cheat on his gf but if you do this then whats there to say that he wont do the same to you? And, honestly if you really are that confused than maybe its best to spend some time away from this guy to figure exactly why you like him and weather or not you have the strenghth to b without him hope this helped
Keep it to yourself and be close friends to him it is better to be great friends with him than tell him and things may become awkard and you may lose a great friendship. :) only tell him if him and his girlfriend havve broken up
I have the same situation going on myself, and actually, I've liked him longer than his own girlfriend has, so imagine how much that hurt when I found out he got a girlfriend- she is also one of my friends, but not a really close one-. The guy I like is one of my bffs, and one day he came up to me and asked who I like, and I told him it was him. We didnt talk for a while because his gf found out, but we're all really good friends now. The most important thing that came out of it was that I learned not to let my feelings get in the way of our friendship, and I'm trying to get over him, because yes it's true, I still hurt every time I see them together, but this kind of thing is unhealthy. All in all, just keep trying to be friends with him, don't let your feelings show
I dated this guy twice. I broke up with him because I got pissy and bitchy and soo I just said it was over. The last time I broke up with him I told him to go after my friend since she is right for him. Months later.. On Fourth of July I told him that I loved him and broke down. He understood and stop talking to my friend. Then I told him to wait for the best. He thought I ment to "Move On" buut, I didn't. Soo, two months later I thought it was time to get back together. When I was about to ask him out. I found out that he was dating this girl from church. He didn't even tell me that he was dating her. Then I broke down.. He is still with her. I want him so bad. I love him. Buut, I'm just going to wait it out. Anddd, if he doesn't break up with her then it's time to find someone new. Waiting is heartbreaking. Buut, if you really like him then follow your heart. If he is willing to cheat on you then your mostly likely to be his rebound. Don't just wait there forever. Give it about two moths. If it doesn't work out then asking about it. If he says, "I'm sorry" then you know to move on. One day he will come back to you. If he comes back wiff everything he has then you have him. My ex is my first love. He has a girlfriend. When I see them together, I'm heartbroken. Don't be deprete and slutty just to get him. If he really likes you on that turns, he only is wanting to get in your pants. Hope it helps. Hope my ex break ups with his girlfriend for me and start relizing. /:
I have the same problem I was with this guy in the same class before for like a year but then he moved schools so there was nothing I could do about it I just moved on.But out of no where after like 2 years my friends encouraged me to go to this youth club that I absolutely loved and then it apeared that he was going to it as well so we saw eachother again. I remember that before when I was with him in the same class he didnt even notice me or talked to me at all. For the first time we started talking to eachother and I loved I was falling for him it seemed that we had soo much in common he seemed like the perfect guy honest,loyal and nice I was in love. I was so confused he talked to me he flirted sang songs about me and then out of no where I found out that he had a girlfriend I was so upset. I still think about him even smile to myself like a tottal idiot when I think about him. But if he is happy with his girlfriend then I'm happy for him I don't wont to brake them up or anything maybe it wasnt ment to be me and him to be together. It is what it is. I would just say to you to be patient like I am and to be really out there and to follow your heart and you feelings to this guy if nothing happens then he is not the one.
I would make yourself over and act natural around him and that way he wouldn't suspect anything unusual. Then when you think its the right moment tell him how you feel and hope he understands. Hope my advice helps xxx
I have the same problem! I told my crush that I liked him. The one thing that you don't want to do is keep telling him or have your friends tell him for you. Don't try to brake him and his girlfriend up because I bet that she feels the same way that you do. Just remember that if this guy you like doesn't work out, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Just try to give him clues that you like him if you are afraid to go up to him. I know with me, I am to shy to talk to any guy that I like, but I try to give him clues. If I embarrass myself in front of him, I just smile and act like nothing happened. For all you know he may really like you! Hope that my edvice helped you! ~Caitlyn O'Keeffe
I have the same problem. I'm bestest friends with the guy and I told him, and he understood, saying he would if he wasnt with his gf. He hasn't changed at all and nothing's awkward. Some guys are like that. We're still really close and he even invited me to hang out with him. I'm not sure how things are with his gf, except the same night I told him she was annoyed (but he hadnt told her) and he said to me that he couldnt be bothered with guessing what was wrong. We've never been in a mood with each other and he even waited with me for like an hour because my friend wouldn't turn up, at then it sorta turned out she'd already gone home, and by then we'd missed two buses/metros each. He didn't care. He even said to me we could be really good together if he wasn't seeing her. So I'm not entirely sure how he feels for her. I just hope that he feels the same way for me as I do him. :/
Whatever you do show respect for his choice in choosing his girlfriend and don't seem pushy in doing so if he is worth having and becomes available you may be first on the list. This kind of approach is much better than forcing the issue which can create more harm than any good. Any guy worth his weight will see how you handle this and notice that in you which makes you a good choice for ANY guy.
I've had a guy friend for 6 years, we had a thing but he moved. We talk everyday, thats just the way we are! When I found out he had a girlfriend it felt like I just got punch'd right through my heart. He knows how I feel about him, I've asked if he felt the same way, he said "well, right now I have a girlfriend, so I can't tell you that I wont "feel" something for you when me and her end." can someone tell me what that means? I mean I don't want to waste my time on hoping we might be together one day. I feel like I'm lost without him though. Someone please help me!
I have the same problem! I like this guy who has been my neighbor for 3 years. Over the span of those years I've had boyfriends and he's had girlfriends I've liked him inbetween and just 3 days ago 10-30-11 I realized he was the one I wanted to be with. I haven't told him yet and I plan on waiting for him and his girlfriend to break up... Me and him have been good friends and all I say is just wait out because you don't want to make things awkward. Although you should eventually tell him you like him because If you never try then you will never know what you two could have become. But if you two don't work out just move on remember there's a lot of fish in the sea! Also don't try and get him to break up with his girlfriend because how would you like it if someone tried to get him to break up with you? You would be crushed so just be considerate and remember always follow your heart.
I don't know what to do. The guy I think I like has a girlfriend. We were keeping in touch with eachother and she found out and didnt like it so we don't talk any more. I really miss him as a friend. I don't know if it would ever be more than that. But I do know I miss him when hes not around. This suxs! Ive known him since I was little
I am in the same kinda situation.:( but I just told him but he is still with his gf. They have broke a few times since I told him soo I keep guessin that I am gettin lucky. But then they get back together. I have been told he lyks me but don't wont the tear the realtionship up cause I kindaa speak to his gf. I still speak to him and her but I'm still waitin:)
I am also in this situation. My best friend, is a guy. I am totally in love with him. He has just recently gotten this girlfriend. We talked about everything a couple months ago and found out we've liked each other for 4 years! But, they had been talking about everything like two months before we found all this out, so he didn't want to hurt her. But, she doesn't even live near us! It drives me crazy because he's always writing stuff about her on Facebook, but still flirts with me and we are still best friends.. It really hurts :/ Bad! I am completely IN LOVE with him, and now I don't know what to do.
Guys, I think it's best to leave the guy alone. Imagine if you had to choose between your girlfriend and some other girl. If you really care about him, leave him alone. That will be best for both of you.
Wow. I'm going through the same thing. I like this guy and he has a girlfriend and we started talking to each other on facebook and he gave me his number. So we started texting each other everyday! But he has a GF. I like him a lot and he knows I do. We can text ALL day but he gets shy when he talks to me at school, and his GF moved to Texas and I live in Ky. So I don't know what to do. ): I'm sooo confused. And I get very Jealous cause his GF leaves him stuff on Facebook. HELP.
Hi I have the same problem :/ I met a guy when my guy friend brought him over and we got along really well... We watched a movie and he was moving closer to me but not making it obvious and then I fell asleep on his shoulder... Then he carried me to my room and tucked me in and gave me a kiss on my cheek. Well anyway he didn't think I liked him but he definitely liked me... I liked him a lot but I have a problem with showing my feelings... Then when the holidays ended and we were back to school and he still didn't know I liked him back... He found a new girl and they have been going out since... I was so hurt when I found out :'( and they have been going out for 2 months but it feels like FOREVER! And they're really happy... Me and him now are just really close friends... I think how you will have to handle the situation is not to try break them up because imagine how hurt you would be if you were the girlfriend... Just stay close friends with him and when him and his girlfriend break up... Be supportive to him and give him heaps of hugs... After a few weeks just start flirting with him and compliment him a lot then when the time's right tell him how you feel and just remember the worst thing he can say is that he doesn't feel the same way... If that happens it wasn't supposed to be... Also if you find that he is with his girlfriend for a really long time find a boyfriend and show to him that you can be a great girlfriend by being near him with your boy... And if he breaks up with his girlfriend just stay with your boy for like another week or 2 and make him jealous and he will see that you are the one for him if you're lucky :) good luck with the boy!!!!
Hey I also need some help. So I like this guy but he is like my bestfriend. He has a girlfriend but he told me he also like me along with his girlfriend. He told me I couldn't tell anyone cause he doesn't want his girlfriend to think he was cheating on her. My friends are starting to question why I am still waiting around for this guy but I can't tell them the truth. I really like this guy but I just don't know what to do?
Well if you really have strong feelings for a guy that has girlfriend I guess you can ask one of his friends or one of your friends to talk to him about how you make a much better girlfriend than the other girl and just like the surfxgirl said try not to let it get in the way of your friendship cause it is really unheathy.
Okaii...I have tha same situation too..this guy and I have known each otha for a gud while now..nd he's goin thru a lot wid hur she doesnt treat him right but yet he still wants hur ..I gues she is goin thru a lot herself and I'm always there for them..he tells me his feeling havent changed eva since we met.. Nd I had a boyfriend then. Buh now that me and my bf are over ..me nd this guy tawk buh he is havin issues wid this gurl and I want tha best for him which is me!..I can't do that if he's wanting her so I stick around and I'm his bestie that he tells everything to. I kno it hurts to hear it all buh I'm glad I'm tha one that he turns to for ANYTHING! So I tell him try make it work and follow your heart..until then ima jus wait nd see if they r ment to be because I'm reali left wid no choice ..buh to be that friend and for him to notcie I was there from the start
I am in this situation right now, and I already dated the guy and I made a mistake dumping him. He has a gf now and I'm not jealous or trying to tear them apart. But my case is different. He loves me and her at the same time. He doesn't know what to do. I told him to wait awhile. And I told him it would be best if you were single cause if you were still dating her then you would only think of her and I may not have a chance, so do this. Wait it out. Wait until they break up then tell him. I made mistake and already told him. But I don't know. I'm only 14 but I'm wise. Just wait it out and see how things go if they go great then everything jusy may fall into place.
Well I like this guy but he has a gf... I was sad but happy for him. I'm best friends with his girlfriend . I am afraid to tell him so what should I do???? I found out when we like became almost more than friends..... We slowed dance and almost kissed dang so close. Please tell me what to do. I don't even have his number!!!!!
I don't know what to do he broke up with his gf and a week later he got a new girlfriend I never expressed my feelings to him and he was desparate to get a gf so he said yes when she asked him but I think that he doesnt really like her what do I do??
Okat I'm just going to speak my mind as noone listens to me anyway? But you have 2 options.. Opinion 1 as soon as you offer it to him hel take it,, the g.f will find out and this willresult ina breakup,, but thats not the end exspecialy young hearts because your hormones and then in the future you might kick her head in for steaking your man, so I say have dignity and leave them alone and find another guy who you like to speand time with as he is yours not someone elses, you don't like it happening to you so don't do it to others coz it comes back
I'm in the same situation... It sucks. I'm 14 and the guy I like is 18. He is dating a 16 year old... I told him I like him a little over a week ago and ever since he has flirted with me like crazyyy. But I can't tell if he's serious or just joking. But I don't want to ask him because I don't want him to stop. But I told him that I was trying to keep my mind occupied so that I could get over him faster... But he told me that he didn't want me occupied and that he likes me having those feelings. He knows how bad it makes me feel when he is around her, so he tries to avoid bringing her up in conversation. But I'm just hoping that he'll realize how much I truly like him and that I'm not giving up. My advice would be to just be honest. Tell him you like him, but don't say anymore than that. Wait for his reaction. If he reacts badly, brush it off and say "that's why I'm trying to keep myself busy so I don't think about those feelings." But if he reacts well, keep talking to him, maybe flirt just a little. But NOT too much-- you don't want to get a bad reputation! Good luck (: Hopefully we both get the guy we want in the end...
My ex-boyfriend and I dated for 6 months. Well when we broke up 3 weeks later he got a new girlfriend. Well I still like him. So I told him that I liked him. I simply said over a text message hey I like you. And now he wants to hangout.
I used to have the same situation when I was in gr. 9. This guy I liked, asked this girl out. Probably because he liked me, so he would make me jealous...I'm not saying that, because I would be jealous, It just feel't like he did, because he was looking at me and wasnt even paying attention to the poor girl. But she dumped him, and moved to anew school. Just be patient, and wait until they break up. Don't do anything fishy, because he might not forgive you. Hope this helps :)
The guy I absolutely LOVE has a girlfriend and even though I hate her I don't want to mess up their relationship but I feel he should be with me. We went out twice already and I broke up with him but this time I'm really sure that I am in LOVE with him. I don't know what to do.
Hi I'm in a situation where I really like one of my guy friends but he has a gf. He used to like me but my ex lied to him that I had a bf when I didn't. So the guy I liked gave up and now he is going out with one of my friends. He says he would have asked me out before he asked my friend out if my ex hadn't lied to him. The guy like see each other a lot at school. He says I'm pretty a lot and he always hugs me. And tickles me. Should I move on?
Yeaah I can sympathise with all you lot .. I have just got into the same situation but I just don't no what to do for the best ! It might be best to just keep talking to him and do the usual and let him decide if he wants to be with you or not. So yeaah just try your best but don't do anything that will make him dislike you ! Thats the last thing you want! It will hopefully work out in the end if it was meant to be! Hope this kinda helps!
You just need to relax...I'm in the EXACT situation and I am usually happy when I see him but now I just give him THE LOOK and now he wont stop looking at me or stop talking about me in a good way. He is always trying to look at me now but I just squint at him and he wants to talk to me about how I'm feeling. I hope I helped!!! :-)
Stay away from him you wouldn't want someone to be around your bf n be friends with him when they have feelings for him. You can't be friends with someone that doesn't probably have feelings for you your going to be the only one that gets hurt. Telling him how you feel isn't a good idea either chances are he would tell his gf if they tell each other everything and you'll just cause drama.
You can talk to him a little bit and ask him about his favourite movies than after a little bit of that ask to go out or something and then do that at least twice and then finally ask if you love him and if he says no then say ok and walk off if he says yes kiss him on the cheek. By sophie
Well, if you talk to him on a regular basis, start talking about how you would like to try a threesome someday not necessarily him and his girlfriend but in general. Being that he's a guy he'll talk to his girlfriend(probably that night) about it and if shes curious that'll at least get you in the door. Thats one way or you could just tell him you like him and would like to take the frienship to another level. But before you do any of that, how old did you say you were?
Ok well I like my bestfriend I'm 14 and hes 19 he considers me as a little sister and that gets me really mad sometimes because I have these feelings for him and he calls me mad about his gf & I tell him to stay w.her even though I want him do you think I should pursue or not : /
Look it doesn't matter if you like a guy if his take that it forget about him don't only think about your self and think about him and his girlfriend don't do something men think one thing if his with her that means he loves her so leave him alone and then they say why Du men cheat because of girls like you leave him alone ok its the best thing to du bye...
Well I'm a girl age 13 and I like a boy who has a girl friend that is my worst enemy. Well what you do is you have to stick it out until they break up, ONLY IF YOU WANT TO TAKE A RISK, do some **** stirring on the way but be really careful because they musnt know it was you. Well when they break up tell a friend to tell the one you love that you like them, then get to know him/her a bit more and arrange outings etc until you get so close he might ask you out... (hope this helps xx)