How To Win A Guy Over When He Has A Girlfriend?

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Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Be easy going, unlike his current gf. Be irresistable to him in every way. Smell great, look great, and feel comfortable in your own skin.
Try to offer him the type of fun he could never have with his girlfriend.
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Rena Chisholm answered
You may not like my answer, but I was thinking that if you win him over while he is with another girl, then you might wonder if he ever thinks about her. Maybe it would be a good thing to just be friends with him and see where his relationship with the other girl goes.
If their relationship ends and you had nothing to do with it, then you won't run into the chance of doubting how he feels about you or her, if the two of you end up together.
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Wendy answered
If you truly like him just be yourself and leave their relationship alone. Be patient. Like someone else alluded to, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't waste your energy on trying to steal someone's boyfriend. Obviously you're attracted to him.... but do you really think you might like who he is?

If they were to break up today and you two ended up going together how long do you think you're relationship would last? Would it have been worth it? How will you be perceived by other guys if they know you followed through with stealing someone else's boyfriend? Most dating relationships don't last an extremely long time when you're young. Just ask yourself these questions. Really think it over before you act on anything. Take care.
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Anonymous answered
It is really key for you to not be friends with the girlfriend, or else you are really just digging your own grave. If you don't know the girlfriend than I think you should look at the overall picture and how the guy acts toward you, if he shows affection then make some hints, possibly  if you get close enough, tell him that you like him but that you don't want to do anything while he has a gf- the last thing you want is to be called a home-wrecker, or even worse: The guy could just end up going with a hookup. So just stay cool and play it as it goes... If he likes you, he'll break up with her and see what he's been missing all this time.
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Anonymous commented
What if that girlfriend is your sister. My sister knew i liked this guy, and he said he liked me too and then my sister and him started dating!!! She is rubing it in my face! I still really like him! HELP!!!!!!
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Anonymous answered
Just be yourself and everything else will go on smoothly but don't ever tell the gf you like her bf then you would probably not have very many friends in the future if you know what I'm saying
Gillian Smith Profile
Gillian Smith answered
Why do you want someone elses boyfriend?
It would be far better if you looked around for someone who wasn't already in a relationship.
Is this a challenge because you want to feel more attractive than his girlfriend and you want to prove that you have the power to take him from her?

Ask yourself how you would feel if you were in a happy relationship with your boyfriend and some other girl was asking advice on how to take him away from you. I don't think you'd like that a lot.
It seems rather underhanded to ask advice on taking someone away from their partner. If you have to ask about how to do this he can't  be showing any or much interest in you and that might say a lot. Think about it - he must like his girlfriend as he's with her not yourself. If they do drift apart make a move but don't actively seek to undermine a relationship - that's unfair. But then they do say 'all's fair in love and war'!
Elizabeth Hayes Profile
Elizabeth Hayes answered
Look alright I can already tell you that your not going to like my answer.....I don't think you should do that....I wouldnt want some girl trying to steal my boyfriend away from me and I'm sure that if you had one you wouldn't like that either...you would want to kill her...so just don't do it...and if you do,,it never turns out well...tons of drama,, and you would have possibly ruined everything with the couple.....if you want him...wait till he is available... Thats all I have to say.
danee Profile
danee answered
Well to be honest I'm not the best girl with guys at the beginning of my school year I started going out with this guy but then like a week later I found this other guy that I liked more so I took a couple of  days and decided that I needed to break up with him because I liked another guy well I told my bff that I liked this guy named jj and she went and told him that I liked him and he broke up with his other girlfriend to go out with me so my advice its the luck of the draw go for the home run and see if you get it but just remember don't let the fear of strinking out keep you from playing the game!!!!
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Anonymous answered
Well this isn't really an answer, bur it's a true story. I met this guy and we became best friends. At the beginning of the school year we told each other that we would probably never have feelings for each other. Well that wasn't true, toward the middle to end I liked him a lot. One thing he had a girlfriend, which if you were to ask anyone they would say she was hideous and that I was a trillion times prettier. Well they had been going out for a little under a year and it was summer vacation at the time. Well me and him really wanted to hang out, so he told me to promise that I wouldn't tell anyone that we were. So my friend was with us, and she was secretly telling him to kiss me. Well then we went into my little sisters room, and she left, leaving only me and him in there. So then we both decided to sit in the bed and eventually kissed, my first kiss, and then did it like 5 more times. So later on that evening, she was starting to secretly tell him to teach me how to make out. Well we were all in my room at the time, she gave him the que, and she left. Well he was sitting in my bed, and gave me that sexy like finger call. Me being me went in the bed and laid side by side and were facing each other. Well are faces got closer and closer, and that whole time I had been shaking like a nervous re-ck. So he started telling me not to be nervous and everything, so I was like " I don't know what to do." and his reply was," Anything you want." Then slow but surely we started kissing and then making out, for about five minutes and then when we were done my friend came in. When it came to bringing me home, and we were almost there he grabbed my hand, and we held hands fir a little bit, and then he went home. Well we hung out again that summer, and that's when things got intense, but that's something I'll write another time. But when it came to school again, he was a complete Kirk and didn't talk to me as much as he did the previous year. So now I'm completely into him, remember the fact that he had a girlfriend while we did everything we did, and I sometimes regret it. I know it may be hard, but try not to win a guy with his girlfriend because it may lead you to do things that shouldn't be done in the first place. Trust me!
Sophie Ellis-Fox Profile
Can you help me it is a bit like this problem
I LOVE TOM (from my school) so much
 but he is with my ex friend and she always says bad things about him
he deserves so much better like me cause I will care for him and hug him
and wont talk about him behind him back
SO WHAT DO I DO xx xx
 
P.S reply on my profile
 
XX Sophie XX
 
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Why do you want someone else's man? If he has a girlfriend, then respect that and leave him alone. That's lowering your standards. Are you that desperate? Its not that serious.There are plenty of single boys out there so find one!
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malaika makamo answered
That is really bad, but you can try first by being his friend then may be if they end up breaking up then you can end up
AnnaRose Rice Profile
AnnaRose Rice answered
Just flirt a little and if your caught tell the girl that you where just best friends that have a lot in common
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I loved this guy a lot and we've been seeing each other for year.  Now I know that he had a girlfriend which saying that has been cheating on his girlfriend to go out with me.  Now they're back together. What should I do?
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Oh yeah well I am in love with a guy that is getting married and he is 16!!!
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Anonymous commented
Aww sad ! Id hate to be you ! Im inlove with this guy, but hes not getting MARRIED!

Wow poor you. Good luck with that =(
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Ahh, that's pretty awful. I wouldn't like it if some girl was trying to steal my boyfriend, would you?  And even if you get him, you won't be able to trust him. I mean, what happens when the next girl who wants him from you comes along?
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This has happened to me and is still going. I think that it really does NOT help that people are saying get a new boy and whatever, but I understand this. But I don't know if it will work out with me and him, because of that horoscope thingy. We are both in november, hes 2 days older than me. Well, I think you should keep trying.. But whats even worse for me is that he knows I love him and hes listening to others saying: Chloe, ill never love you. But I don't think thats true because whenever he comes online on facebook he says hi to me EVERY time. But lets get on with your problem, he might like you in secret, but acts like he doesnt infront of his girlfriend. Good luck x <3
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Daniella Smith answered
There is a very cute boy I adore and worship and if I find out he gets a girlfriend before I can get to him I will literally blow my top!!! But I wouldn't go so far as to steal him from someone else I'd just wait till they break up then I would be there to help him up.  I would then ask him out and such.

Don't steal some one else's guy, but if you must, make the girl look stupid and you look good, join the cheer leading squad, blah blah blah etc. You know the routine.
Ri Tam Profile
Ri Tam answered
See, now why would you go and say something like that?  Really!  Are you serious!  Leave the guy alone if he has a girlfriend.  You are wrong to even bother with someone who is dating already.  Can you not find someone else to go out with.  How old are you anyway?  That question sounds very immature.  Please, don't be like that.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
You could try and talk to him like a regular friend, then gently get stronger in your voice, like get urgent, like "Hey, How are you?" after a week, go for "Do you want to come over for a few?" If he seems like 'Why are you asking me?! I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!' then just act like you were talking to your best friend that you saw a few feet in front of you. I tried this, and so far, it's working. The result will vary because all guys are different. Good luck with it!
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Anonymous answered
Same position here.hooked up with a guy and I didn't know he had a gf.then he told me they were on a break and that she had cheated on him.he said they had been going out for a little over a year and that they were likely to break up and then we could be together.they didn't break up and now I'm here waiting.it SUCKS
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Anonymous answered

Honestly, if you really like this guy, you can wait. They will probably break up soon, or if not, he's just not the right guy for you. Please don't go around trying to get this guy's attention if he's in a relationship. It is one of the worst things you could do to another girl. There is nothing wrong with his girlfriend, even though it seems like it right now. 

The envy and the feelings you have for this guy are clouding your judgement on the fact that this is another girl, and we have to stick to girlcode. Just remember, this could just as easily happen to you with your next boyfriend. Just let them be together for a while, and don't try to break them up.

Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I can see how this may be a tempting question too ask lol but I think maybe you should just get too know him I mean flirting is probably the best thing too do and see how he responds. But I don't think you should intentionally hurt this girl and I absolutely hate the there are more fish in the sea cliche. If you love him tht deeply then just find out more about him talk too him about how you feel though maybe subtly so you don't freak him out.
And gd luck
xx
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Theres this guy I know and hes a total flirt and he says that he really likes me and all but I don't know if he means it or not because he has a gf and like I said hes a total flirt! I really like him tho! Help!
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Anonymous answered
Okay...the reason I looked this up is because I'm having the same problem... :(
There is this guy ryan and hes so amazing....I think I really like him, although ever
since summer school ended I havent seen him much, I'm waiting for the school year to start
we will both be freshman in highschool and I'm SO excited...when I first met him I knew he was
AMAZING...but little did I know he has a girlfriend...Gianna :p bleh. She isn't going to our school
Actually...me and ryan technically don't go to the same school I go to Xavier and he goes to Brophy
but they are like on the same campus and they are brother sister schools. So we like ALWAYS see the guys and we even are their cheerleaders!! (: Gianna isn't going to xavier so I'm thinking ill try and get close with him and just see how it plays out with him and Gianna before I make nay big moves on him....
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Brian Reed answered
I would not try and take someone away from his girlfriend . That would not be very kind on your part . If he likes you he will tell you and then go from there .Do not try and pry him away from someone just because you like him though.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Do not try! I did and I just got hurt, I got him to like me. But he still loved her. I would not recommend it!
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Never take someone away from his love just wait wait until the end of the world he will come too you if you love him a lot
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Anonymous answered
I really liked this guy and this girl that was supposed to be my friend knew that, but she went and hooked up with him, and now they're together.. What can I do to make him realize he made a mistake?
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jerome new answered
Don't try to win him over, it's not cool to break other ppl up if they aint ready.
Just wait till they break up on they own or move on..

Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I'm kind of in same position as you too...
About ten months ago I this guy harrison, really liked me and I also liked him. Nothing happened, we talked heaps and got along but then another older guy came into the equation.. I stopped liking harrison as much though still were close. He then became to clingy and I got with the other guy :\ it hurt harrison and I regretted it so much anyways, I kept in connection with harrison and eventually ended things with the older guy. Now 4 months from when harrison stopped keeping in contact by liking someone else (didn't bother me, I was well over him) we both moved on. But now over the past few months I've realised how much I miss harrison and want him back, I made some progress and he caught  a bit of interest but then all of a sudden he gets with this other girl, and starts to go out with her. Causing me to crave him even more! Its been about a month but I honesty want to die every time I hear/ see them together. After a lot of consideration (plotting plans to get him back ect) I have decided when the right moment comes to tell him my feelings and explain as he doesn't know I even re-started liking him.. Then I guess he'll know and react in whatever way, at least he has the consideration of you in the back of his mind. ;)
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Anonymous answered
Well I'm in the same problem. I'm in love with this guy but his girlfriend is my bestfriend! I'm waiting until she moves(because she is). But I still want him like crazy. I think about him 24/7 and I know he likes me too but he wont break up with his gf. I told my best friend/ his girlfriend that I love her boyfriend, and then she went off and told him as well as everyone else. What kind of a friend would do that? So I was thinking, If she's aloud to do that to me then why can't I break them up? I'm still not really sure what to do but I don't want to go down to her level. So I'm going to wait until they break up because if I can wait for him and still love him in the end, then I'll know he really was meant to be. I know my answer to your question sucks but what other chose do you have? What other answer is there that will give everyone a happy ending? If I new the answer to that then I wouldnt be on the computer every night looking for advise on this exact problem.
 
Good luck! If you do get your guy then let me know so then I can use your strategy!
 
Teagzz xox
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Vivian Darkbloom
Vivian Darkbloom commented
I understand why you might feel that way, but you're friend did nothing wrong here. She feels the same way about him as you do and you aren't allowed to "break them up" because she did something you didn't like. In fact, I think telling people was a good way of handling it so congrats to your friend. And don't assume he likes you back unless he actually says he does. And if she really is your best friend, you should put her before any guy. It sounds like your happy that she's moving. It shouldn't be how you feel if you're her friend. And even though she's moving, exes are always off limits so whether or not she's there, have character. Friends are so much more important
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Ree Ree answered
Why would you..leave him alone there are plenty of good people who are not in relationships outhere. If he likes you he will come to you..you should just leave it alone..

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