I Love This Boy But He Likes Another Girl And I Get Jealous When I See Them, What Should I Do?

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Okay well I had this same problem. I was in love with this boy, I would do absolutely anything for him and were Bff, but he hurt me so many times that I just couldn't take it. Listening to your friends would also work. My friend kept telling me to get over him and that hes not worth it. And it took me a couple of weeks to realize that and that's okay. Try to find someone else. Maybe he's trying to get you jealous? Now I tried it with this boy and it didn't work out. So maybe you should ask a friend to find out if he likes you or just get over him. Boys are stupid. Haha just remember that. I know it's hard to get over him but if he doesnt like you then just relax, wait and you'll find someone else. Don't waste your time on this one boy.....because you deserve better :)
Thanks I hope this advice works PS: Don't do stupid things for this boy bye! ;)
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If you like this boy, become his friend. Let him take the time to get to know you so he can discover your good qualities. If he is worth the time, than he will have the chance to get to know you and decide if he likes you, than he might tell you how he feels. If he sees you simply as a friend than it is good that he at least respects you as one. Show him how fun and caring you are and if he can recognise a good girl than he will realise you are the best person for him.
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kayla plant commented
I would advise against entering the friend zone. Once you enter, its hard to get out of cleanly. The best thing i can think of is sharing with him how you feel and if he doesnt feel the same you will have to grit your teeth and bare the pain of it. At least you will know how he feels and you arent wasting your time pining away for someone who you're unsure of
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I'm in the exact same boat!!!! I really like this guy but he likes this other girl in my class, he even told me that he likes her and I didn't know what to say. I told him I like someone and he was begging me to tell him who so I gave him clues and I thought that he would notice that I like him cause I kinda flirt with him and he even FLIRTS BACK!!! He is SO confusing!!! I would say be yourself and ALWAYS look into his eyes when he talks to you!!!
Good Luck!!!!
Xx xxx
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Hi, I know exactly how you feel... I know the butterflies you get in your stomach when you see him and the rush you get when you talk to him. I also know the unending pain you feel when you see him with the girl he likes. You literally feel as if you have been punched in the gut whenever you think about them. In my case, he liked a friend of mine that would talk about him a lot. Whenever she would mention his name my mouth probably dropped to the floor. It truly sucks, but you will just have to wait it out until they break up. This doesnt mean you can't subtlety flirt and spend time with him, you just have to remember that you never want to act out of impulse and tell him you love him. That would only turn into a huge mess, if he has this "girlfriend" at the time. Stay strong and use you charm to sway him away from this other girl and to you. I hope it works out for you :)
  - claire
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Yep. I'm in the same exact situation.
I'm actually constantly mad at the boy, but I know that's a terrible way to be. If you really feel that you love him, eventually, if you keep waiting he will forget about the girl. As soon as he does be really nice to him and if you are lucky he'll be yours! I've been in this situation for 4 years now! He's gone through about 6-7 girls. Whenever I look at them together (which they always are) I litterly feel a gagging reflex and my stomach burns. Don't worry. You are not alone! Just please try the advice!
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lovely rose answered
Well I'm kinda in that situation but the guy and I just recently broke up. He started going with another girl but I still held on to him. After the broke up like four days later I was right there hoping he was going to get bak with me but according to him he needed time. But now I feel like he likes this new girl and the hopes of us being back together look hopeless. While he was with his ex me and him texted everyday and we still do saying I love you and its like were in a relationship but its like I have no say. He talks to girls and I get jelous or I think he likes them. Then I get sad and want to just die! Its hurting le so bad a I am afraid this is the end. But now that I realize I'm going to let him go its going to be so freaking hard I already know it. I'm so crazy about him and all I want to do is make him happy. But every attempt seems to fail... But its healthy to move on even if you feel like you can't live with out them. There is going to be someone out there to love you just as much as you love them and you will have a fairy tale ending.. Well I'm about to go and cry and let the pain flow so my heart can mend..
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Anonymous answered
I think you should tell the boy how you feel
say it face to face not online or texting
and then just leave him to think about it
and wait and see he mite feel the same about you
just talk to him tell him how you feel ::) hope that helped x
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I am in the same position!I really like this boy but he "acts" like he likes this girl so nobody knows if he really does like her because hes fridge and shes a slut!Anyway....I think you should tell him! And if he doesnt feel the same way Make Him! :D- Always talk to him- FLIRT!- Make him laugh- Show him that you like him without even telling him.
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I guess I could say I'm in the same situations as you are, except it is with two guys. I've liked one of the guys since the summer, and we hung out everyday. We talked about EVERYTHING. And he told me that he would always be there for me no matter what, and all I had to do was call him. He didnt keep that promise, he got a girlfriend and that was basically the end of our friendship. He knew where I stood and he knew how I felt about him. I havent talked to him in over 2 months.

This other guy that I like is my bestfriend. I know that he likes this other girl because he asks me advice about her all the time, but sometimes I don't know what to say because I wish it was me that he was talking about. I just tell him to go with his gut feeling and if it works out then good but if not then move on. I guess I should take my own advice and tell him how I really feel. My friends all tell me that he doesn't really like this girl, and he is just using her name to replace mine so I don't find out but I don't know what to think.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you really love this guy tell him how you feel. We only get one shot in life to find the one who we are really supposed to be with, and when that chance comes you got to take on at full force. Wish you the best of luck
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I'm in the same positon too! I like this but I think he likes another girl so I'm just staying friends with him. Anyway I think if you really like this boy then you should be happy for him and don't try too ask him out because he might get annoyed at you and start ignoring you. So in the meantime try to find another boy thats available and ask him out and if this boy you 'love' breaks up with this girl he likes then go for it! But for now just be happy for him because there are plenty of fish out in the sea. Hope this helps! Xx
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Welll its happening exactly the same thing to me just the girl he likes is my best friend and I get really mad when I see them but I should get over it someday he will look after me but he wont find me anymore just go and forget about him when you think about the good things happening to you and him think about something much more better like a outgoing whith youre friends and funn things.
When you see that this is not working try doing something just to not think about him.
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Just take a deep breath whenever you see them together or talking. Or, you could just ask him how he feels about you. Let him know how you feel about him.
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That's me. I hang out with a bunch of guys at lunch and soon they started talking about the guy I like and the girl he likes. And I guess he was completely oblivious to the fact that there were others around that liked HIM and they just kept talking about her and I was so jealous. But you know, I'm not going to mess things up by telling him I have feelings for him. If you like someone, you want the best for them. I don't want to rip him away from this girl that obviously puts him on cloud nine [and has a great ass apparently, according to all the guys there]. Anyways, I don't want to hurt him so I'll just leave him alone. Maybe you should do the same.
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You should be friends and support (spelled wrong) him or maybe find somebody else that you kind of had feelings for but not that much of it. I am in the same problem I was not there for 1 day because of the dentice and when I came back he is with his old girlfriend's best friend well  and I really love him too. But I hope this kinda help sorries
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Whatever you do don't ask him out you will just look stupid ! We have all been there
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You should try to move on or try to make him jealous by hang in out with other guys nd make sure he knows or become friends with him
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Wendy answered
You need to be at peace within yourself about this. I know that may sound like a pat answer but getting mad makes you miserable. It's ok to feel that but it's not healthy for you to stay in that place or for the people that you care about. I understand your protectiveness of him especially when you care about someone but you have to trust him. Just keep being his friend. When you truly love someone there is a peace about it.
*This is just something to think about.... sometimes when a person is infatuated with another person feelings go through the roof almost scary when it comes to having anyone else having interaction with the person they care about.
*Is it possible that you are infatuated with this boy?
*If you're not then cool. I just wanted to make sure that you realize where your emotions can go and why.

Try to relax and be his friend and allow him to have other friends that are girls. It's ok. You're doing great. I'm proud of you. For expressing how you feel and for asking for advice.
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But what if they get closer?
Im trying to relax and stuff but i still cant stop thinking about him!
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Anonymous answered
Ok....

Be rather cautious about your feelings for him, because what you are describing to me
sounds more like obsession/infatuation rather than love.

Like a previous person said, when your in love with someone you will be at peace when they are with someone else.

For example, I heard that my crush has a girlfriend, and even though my hopes are crushed,
I feel happy for him because at least one of us has a significant other, even if it is not with each other.

The only time I DO get jealous is when he talks with this 1 girl, who used to be a friend of mine but I dumped her because she's a boyfriend stealing b****. (I'm Just Bitter, And shameless about it to!)

But, to the situation at hand, if he likes the other girl, theres nothing you can do.
If your friends with him, then that's better than nothing.

Cheers Darling
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Well, I have experienced this it sucks! The think to do is just play it COOL. How do you know that he does not like the girl but just pretends to because he really likes you. That's what happened to me. All I have to say to you is GOOD LUCK!
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I'm forever giving this boy I love, advice on how to get another girl. I can totally relate to the song 'Been Waiting' by Jessica Mauboy. Unconditional love I think is the first step. But I'm just a friend to him. I will probably never tell him what I really feel, but I am just glad that we're friends, telling him would ruin the friendship. I've accepted this, doesn't stop me wishing but its better than not having him at all. Try looking for someone else.
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That's exactly my situation. But the girl the guy likes is so horrible to me. I feel awefull
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i really like this guy in my class, but he doesn't really notice me. He likes my friend, and my other friends are always saying how cute they are together and I just get a little uncomfortable. This guy has all the qualities I want in a guy: Cute, funny, and laid back. I can't try anything with him because im nowhere close to him. I haven't told my friends or anyone. I guess you could try to be friends, and be nice to him, and start hanging out.

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Hi
I cn understand hw you r feeling, bt let it happen it will make you more strong than ever. You knw why he is'nt with you jst coz you don't deserve him.  You should never be good enough for someone ,but be the best for them who deserve you. I wish you all the best!
Love always
vish (india)
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Alexus Deese answered
You should try to get close to him and start to know each.Then start to get busy and then the other girl will get jealous .
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I'm in the same position. I hate thee girl he likes. Just become friends with him, then when the moment is right, tell him how you feel
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Well.....if you love him that much then tell him. But don't really tell him you love him tell him you like him and see how things go from there.    You can't make ppl love you, although some ppl would be a lot happier if they could.
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Get to know him first and have trust in him.. Express him your feelings... Spend more time with him.. Don't care about others  and before being late tell him you are consider him more than a friend...
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How do you lot expect the girl the be friends with the guy its not easy just to go up to him an talk give her some advice
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Like another boy it is not easy but I benefit from be sure you will be happy and you are going to forget that boy
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Try not to let it out be funny and talk to him more than the girl he likes and try to see if you have things in command
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Well I know how it feels because I am feeling the exact same,I know this guy from school and we are great friends we always joke around and hes so funny and cute,he also jokes only with me and I thought that he liked me.But a week ago I hung out with him and my friends and my bf likes him,so my friends told him and then they asked if they wanted to date.He said that he liked her and that he wanted to date her but they got to confirm it with a kiss.They were suppose to make out one day but he didn' t want to but his friends are pressuring him.Now he is on vacation but I'm scared that it will work out between them and I really like him and by some things that he did I thought he liked me,so now I'm a little bit bummed out and I don't know what to do...HELP!/?
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I had this feeling before, but it wasn't really that true I barely knew him, but if you'd really like to jump in front of a bullet for him then tell him that only if your sure he loves you! But if you don't think he does then don't take any risks. If that girl is your best friend talk to her about it, and if she doesn't understand then I don't know what you could do but what I suggest you do is do what I did, I loved this guy so much and after he broke up with me he went out with my best friend and so I talked to her about it, but after that convo she got closer to him (that bitch!!!!!), so next day I saw her we were in science and science class was taught by the principal of the school but I didn't care I loved him so much and I was so jealous of her so right in front of the head I punched her and I got expelled from the school but I didn't care it was worth it! :P but if that girl is a girl you don't really know then if he still likes you then you can make him jealous like go out with one of his best friends, but if your not sure if he still likes you or not I'm not so sure what you should do but you can ask my friend: Kara Rose she is an expert on love, boys, and friendship and the problem they bring along.
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Aly Kate answered
You can't make someone love you. The best thing to do may be to try to get over him. I know that that may be hard, but think about it. If he doesn't feel the same way about you that you feel about him, there's nothing you can do about it. Yes, it hurts, but this girl isn't at fault either. Put yourself in her shoes. If he liked you would you give him up just because someone else liked him too? No, probably not. If the boy and his gf ever break up, go for it! Until then, you might want to find a new crush. I hope everything works out.
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M in the same condition rite now . He is like a friend to me bcoz he only told his best friend n me ,about his gf . I was like cheering him but wen I came home I bitterly started crying . N that girl is also like my friend so I don't want to hurt both of them . I think its better for me to suffer the pain n let them be happy . After all  I want to see him happy n if its possible with that girl then.... You know
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Maxine Chan answered
You could be his friend and see how that goes from there if you really want him in your life but if this is just a crush, than get over it. I am not sure if you know what love is. Love is when you care about him so much that you will want to be with him forever. The thing you are feeling might be lust. Maybe that other girl stole his heart which makes him like her. You should give him chocolate and a note saying you love him or you adore him:) I do not know your age so I can not tell if you really are in love, sorry if you are young. If not, than maybe you should try getting him and telling him how you feel. That way, he will know how you feel.
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nidhi patel answered
Even I like a guy very badly.. All of his friends know it and they use to tease him by my name so he also had an idea about my attraction towards him... We use to chat for late night but then I came to know that he is seriously committed with a girl but then he does care for me... He likes me but doesn't love me... Sometimes I feel that his girl leave him but when I think if a boy did the same to me for another girl I just take my thought back.. I had leave everything to destiny because I had a belief in it.... And else we are still texting each other now let see what is there in my destiny just stay calm sweetheart!!! Everything happens for something good but don't ever take a wrong step!!!
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lauren bedford answered
I happen to know the answer to this.. I'm in the same boat right now.
You got to tell him how you feel before its too late, lifes to short to mess around, were getting older everyday, so don't let these moments pass you by, if you love this guy just tell him, take a chance.
Best of luck
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Ambreen Misbah answered
Become friends with the guy first. Most likely he will be able to figure out that you think of him as more than a friend. If he likes you too, he will make a move. If not, go find someone else. Its a big world.
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I am the SAME this boy is constantly on and off what ever you do don't ask him out I asked my crush out on I'm but know he signs off wen I sign on
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Id say try to find a different guy who you mite love even more but if you can't seem to and can't stop thinking bout him then id say become friends with him and so on...
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I am in the same situation. The guy I like is shorter than me and he is my best friend though. I think you should just be his friend and work your way up or you could just tell him how you feel. I think I will try that.
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My guess is don't be afraid but just tell him how you feel I'm sure he will understand      

get him into a quiet corner and just tell him if he laughs I'm sure you will find someone who loves you
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Well just break them up and talk to him about stuff he likes like moter cycles to get his attention!
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I No the answer to this ... I have had the same Prob I went out with the boy for a week and 3 days but then we split up and we are still friends but 3 days after we broke up he already had a new girlfriend I was upset and jelous because I still love him very much but he don't like me no more den a friend , So I told him how I feel bout him nd he was ok with it all he told me how he understands everything , So just tell him how you feel about him , Its beta ova message / facebook or anyother message type
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Okay, well, first, like most people said, b his friend and get used to him. Then, go easy and start dropping hints..... If he doesnt get it, don't go straight out because that doesnt work and it'll crush it... If it doesnt work, keep giving more hints. BUT..... If he doesnt get it for 3 weekz, tell him... This is goin to take some nerve!! I'm trying out this procedure myself! AND: If he rejects, don't take it TOO HARD. He's not the one, well, you'll find sumone else! So don't wrry!
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I cried when I found out that my crush liked my friend..... All I did was told how I felt like all of you said but now when I see him on facebook he makes an excuse to log off. Trust me if you find out that he likes your friend make excuses to sit beside him. In our class we have name tags so I always sneak into the class and switch ours so we sat together. Eventually we became friends and HE ASKED ME OUT!
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Um, you should just let it go. Who cares if he dosent like you. I know that may hurt, but their are plenty of fish in the sea!!!!!!
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Um, you should just let it go. Who cares if he dosent like you. I know that may hurt, but their are plenty of fish in the sea!!!!!!
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By him candy or flowers or be honest and say you like you as soon as he breaks up and ask him to be your girl friend and if he says yes, that is good but if he says no, give him more time and ask him again and he says yes that is really GOOD!

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