My Boyfriend Likes Another Girl But He Does Not Know If He Should Dump Me. How Do I Win Him Back?

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Trust me, you don't want to win him back, this guy is NOT a prize. In fact, he is the complete opposite. Do yourself a favour and spend your time on more important things like yourself, your family and your true friends not wasting it trying to fight for some loser guy who can't decide whether to pick his own girlfriend over someone else. Don't do this to yourself it he is NOT worth the trouble.
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Amanda Cazares answered
Man when you have this kind of situation...the best thing to do is leave it and move on with life, because when you get back with your partner, it just won't be the same. What's the fun in that? I mean, oh well, another person now exists in his/her mind, means he has second thoughts. The best thing to do is cry it all out, start hanging out with friends, and have a good time, forget about the relationship, it doesn't matter anymore. I know this, because I just went threw it...and all you want your partner to be...is HAPPY..and if he/she is happy with that other person, let it be. Oh well. Move on seriously. No matter if it hurts so much! Just let go already. Trust me...you will thank me...and when you break up with your partner, do it in a calm, nice, romantic way..and once you start walking out the door, don't look back.
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MiZERY PeRez answered
First of all if he likes another girl then that's not a real man. If you love him talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. If he doesn't pay mind to you then forget him. Remember that there are other guys that are worth it out there.
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Julie M answered
The same thing has happened to me with my boyfriend.  When I first found out we decided to give it time but I was really becoming paranoid.  So I told him wed should go on a break and not see each other until he figured out if I meant more to him then this other girl.  He unfortunately misunderstood nd thought I was breaking up with him so we finished.  We started talking soon after and we decided we would be able to work it out however he found out from someone who I had confided in who I thought the girl he liked was.  I was wrong.  We got to the stage where he said he didn't want to see me anymore because we would never work but I had a feeling he was really hurting.  So I told him to leave me alone because I was hurting to much and that we shouldnt talk anymore.  I then saw him that evening and within an hour or so he was on msn asking why he couldnt speak to me anymore, and he explain how he had only said those things because he was hurting and thought I would be better of without him we are now back together stronger than ever and in love and he doesnt think about the other girl nemore.  Anyway point is just let him go and think bout it without you being around all the time if he really like you and cares about you he will realise this through missing you and he will come back to you and forget about the other girl.  If he does nawt forget about him because he isn't and never will be any good for you.  Just think about it as absense makes the heart grow stronger!
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preston esler answered
I'm a guy. I have a gf and a girl started flirting with me and I never noticed so I was being nice. But then it got out of hand and then she liked me. I was honest with my gf and told her that she had feelings 4 me and I felt something 4 her but if the guy is like me I don't want to hurt my gf or this girl. And if your bf truely loves you he will tell te other girl sorry but I'm in a relationship with a girl I love.thats wht I did and the girl understood. And my feelings left quick after I didnt talk to this girl for a bit. And my gf and me r still going strong.!
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Two things.  Number One, she aint your best friend...and number two. You don't want a man who doesn't know what he wants.
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The same thing wit me. My boyfriend and I been on and off.. We r both in high school but go to different high schools. He goews to an all boys high school while I go to co-ed. We met in track this spring and things got heated. Then after 2 weeks into my newly made relationship wit him, my bf tried to get me back and I denied him and I told my boyfriend bout it. But.. He tol dme tht he had girl issuses wit this girl who had feelings on and off for her. So I let him take a break from us so he could sort out his feelings. Then he came back but then got in trouble with his parents for seeing me behind their backs so he got into trouble. Then last night, he told me tht he was at the beach wit tht same girl all day. He NEVER told me first. He went to HER first. And he ALWAYS brings her up in the relationship... I don't no what to do.. She doesnt like him back. Yay. But still, he has to show me the attnetion. I'm not an attention whore but I want to be treated as the #1 girl in his life. But he doesnt.. More like #2 or #3. It will hurt but I will dump him before I leave for florida in about 2 weeks. He needs to no tht he hurts me a lot and I can't sleep sometimes because I don't no if he's true to me. But advice to everyone reading this.. If he really loves you.. He wont think bout another.. Not like mine..
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My boyfriend and I have been together for over 10 months now and he recently told me he has been on and off about feelings for a girl he works with. Obviously I was distraught, but I love him too much to let go so I said to him make an honest decision. He says I am the only one he wants and he doesnt want anything to do with her so I will try to carry on the relationship with him. But now he tells me he has sexual thoughts about her and that he thinks she is hot and sometimes compares me to her and that he could be better off with her. I cry all the time about it and explain how I feel to him but he just tells me they are OCD thoughts that don't mean anything. How do I trust him? I need help and advise asap!
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Carla Taylor answered
Honestly which I always try to be I think that if he loves another girl then you should get him out of your  life and NOW but if you really love this guy then tell him about this but make sure you know it's true first otherwise you might destroy something beautiful. Hope you liked this answer
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Lena JH answered
I'm sure that even if you could win him back you wouldn't be completely happy. Something similar happened to me... All you'll think about is if he still has feelings for her, even though he's with you. You may get jealous of your friend, it might even ruin the friendship. Be thankful she doesn't feel the same way and let him go. At least you'll walk out of it all with your best friend.
thanked the writer.
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This same thing is happening to me at this very moment. My boyfriend has relocated to another school made new friends, and started to realize that a week ago he has feelings for one of his friends, a girl. It was hard for him to tell me, but i give him credit for doing so. HE feels like such a horrible person about the whole things. For some reason in stread of being mad at him, i want to do what i can to help even if it means hurting me. He says he won't leave me, but he doesn't know what to do.
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He does not know how to get rid of these feeling for her, i gave him the best advice i could. I said that he should chose whoever makes him happiest no matter the cost to me or her or even both. I also said to imagine a future and who would you see with yourself. That was the best i could do without sound like a jelous monster. Haha.
If anyone can help, please do, I am dying. Also ladylena is right about one thing, you will always think about the girl he likes and whether or not he likes her 2.
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So yeah my boyfriend and me have been dating about 3 months and I found out that he was writing to a girl that was his friend he liked her since he first meet her and said he didnt know who to choose from and that he cares  for his gf..and when I confronted him about it he said he was sorry and was stupid and that he wouldnt do it again and that he likes me and wont leave me...so do I just shake it off that he did that or what do I do??? I think he might still have feelings for her
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The same happen to me. I found out that my boy friend is still contacting his ex and trying to get his ex back. When I asked if he still love his ex, he said he is. This is very hurting. I said why do you still with me if you still love your ex. He said that it will be difficult to go back to his ex since his family does not approve their relationship. I told him that if he still wants with me, he should stop contact his ex. Seems he don't want to do that. I really don't know what to do. Seems that I have him but not his hurt.. My brain said that I should left this guy but my heart said that I still love him..
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I'm in that situation right now. My boyfriend likes me a lot but resently started liking this other girl. He says he likes me more but who knows. And for his b day they had planned awhile before we started dating that they were going to hang on his b d;ay. So shes going to his house. Thats upsetting. I mean how am I suppossed to know there not going to do anyuthing. I trust him but not with this girl.
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I'm having the same problem as most of you....it really does suck....
My bf well I shud say ex... Went out one nite with this oda grl to a grads... I was obviously unhappy about it but he promised this grl even before me n em got 2gther. Now afta one nite, he is confused and has feelings for this grl ... We broke up and I don't kno what 2 do..I love him so much! But I plan is to let him miss me if he really does love me more he wud make the right decision..... If not well its really his loss ...
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The same thing is happening to me, but the other girl he likes also likes him. I just think if there dating you and like another girl then there not the type of guys you want to be dating. They obviously don't know how to treat a girl.
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Pleaseee listen to me,,I loved him from 8 years and we got engaged,,no words can describes how much I love him and I jealous about him..we were at the beach with his sister and his cousin she's a girl,,in the beginning he was not giving attention to her,,p.s she was wearing t shirt over the mayoo,,so he didn't saw her wearing bikini,,,then when we finished and got home,,he saw her wearing the bikini,,he looked at her very strange way,,like he likes her,,I got jealous,,but I didn't told him anything,,then after that I found him giving her attention and always looking at her and talking to her and not giving me attention,,then I found her doing the same thing she's giving him much attention,,then when we all are back to our city,,then I called him the second day he told me that she is at his home sitting with him and his mother helping them in things at home,,and that didn't happend before,,now I 'm sure that he likes her and hedon't want to talk to me this days ,,what should I dooooo plzz helllppp
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HI, so the same thing is kinda happening to me but I caught my guy and talked to the girl. I was dating this guy for two years and he finally came clean when she said she couldnt talk to him anymore. She was dating a guy as well. Now he wants to come back into my life. I don't know what I should do as well.
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I have the exact same problem right now, I asked my boyfriend to make a list of reasons why he should pick me and reason why he should pick the other girl and he said they were equal. Maybe try that out and see what happens and if the lists are equal then your as stuck with it as me! X Good Luck x
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Same kinda thing happened with me  my good friend who I confided in talked to about him started sleeping with him  he is away at min texts me saying he is just friends with her and he really likes me ,   but she has had same msgs  sent to her ???   Confused  because I love him / but I shouldnt , he lies ... Etc etc
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Same thing is happening 2 me, my boyfriend likes my ex bff. Now I said 2 him if he likes her we should break up, BUT I really don't want 2!!
When I see him he will go and jump on her 2 make me feel sad. I don't think he gets it
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Same thing is happening to me well I just broke up with him. He was telling me how much he liked her while I was crying and I thought that made him an asshole like he was telling me how he gets butterflys when hes with her and then he asked me if I even got butterflies and I said only when I'm with you, and yeah it sucks because I really loved him but he obvessily didnt love me enough.
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Talk to your friend about your feelings for him, and have her make a promise that she won`t date him. Then FLIRT LIKE CRAZY. But not too much.
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The same thing is happening to me I'm in 6th grade and tis 9th grader likes him and he likes her and I luv him and I asked him I luv him but he didnt text back what the heck should I dooo
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Sam thing is hapening wid me as wel.....simply ask your bf..that its question f your life..either leav that gal or.....b wid you....common one canot share his feelings...love lik this
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Brittany Dillon answered
Ignore him! Flirt with other guys even if you're not interested, make it so he's in the same position youre in right now, or atleast pretend to be. I had a similar problem where my boyfriend was interested in my bestfriend, so I said screw him and started flirting with someone else, he noticed that what he felt was what I was feeling and now I'm always number one! It's a 50/50 shot though because either he could undrstand (he can't really get mad at you though because you're doing EXACTLY what he's been doing and if he tries to leave you for that reason, he was just trying to play you), on the other hand it gives you both a chance to realize where the relationship stands. Either it's you or "her" even though she's "not interested" however if she isn't interested than why would she spend all that time with him, I'm sorry but it's a good point. My ex bff said the same thing and when my bf and I went on a break (for other reasons) she immediately tried to get with my bf! Think about it and I hope this advice helps. If he doesn't come around than it wasn't meant to be, if he does congratz
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I'm having the exacts same problem my girl friend iv been dating her for 8 months and I like another girl should I dump my other girl friend
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The same thing happening to me!! My boyfriend likes another girl but he says that he likes me too. He says that he  know what to do but I told him that if he likes her that he should break up with me and stay with the other girl. This is hurting me but I don't want to be with a person that  ike me even though if we break up I will always have something that would remember hi. What do I do? I STILL LOVE HIM!!!

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