Yeah, I can't stop thinking about a guy who I work with. He has a girlfriend as well, they've been dating for 4 years.
I know he likes me (he's told me) but about 6 months ago he said he couldn't deal without me, and was leaving her.
I asked him if he's honestly happy with her, and he said it's not that he's "happy" or "unhappy" with her, he's generally just "comfortable."
He admits that he's chickenshit and afraid of change. He cheated on her with me on multiple occasions over the past 9 months. This does not make me feel good about myself at all.
At the same time, I don't feel any sorrow for the girlfriend because I hate her guts. I worked in an office with her for a year, and she was never nice to me.
I'd come in to work, say hello, and never get a response back, if anything I'd get a cold look. And at this point I did not know her boyfriend existed, I did not meet him until the following year, so she couldn't have hated me for that... And before I liked him, he'd complain to me about how she's "controlling" and such.
We've been TRYING to be just friends for the past few months. I haven't communicated at all with him in the past 4 weeks, because I told him I couldn't handle being just friends, it was torture. He said he really does understand.. And he will respect my choice.
It'd be best to get over him, but what is getting to me the most is that I find myself wanting to think there's going to be a chance eventually for me to be with him. I'm thinking about how I'm ticked that I didn't get to have the chance to be with him like his jerk of a girlfriend got a chance..