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I'm in love with a 22 year old guy and I'm 14. He's in love with me too but is it wrong to be in love with a guy that much older than me?

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Anonymous answered

I hate to break it to you but yes it's weird. This guy is an adult and you are a teen. If you guys go on a date it will look weird and it will be uncomfortable when you meet each other's parents. If I were you I would tell the guy sorry but you're too old for me, and then you can go find a boy your age if your ready for dating. Again I'm sorry but that's how it is sweetheart.

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Marta Catalano answered

Well, it sounds like you two are both in love with each other and I think that's the most important thing. Age is a number, what matters is how you two behave respectively. I met loads of people who were 30 and acted like they were 20 and vice versa. Just because there's an age difference, it doesn't mean things between you two cannot work.

Sure, you might have different experiences and habits but that happens also in relationship where there's not an age gap. Plus, it is 8 years which now seems like lot, especially because you're still a teenager and he's not... But let's say, when you turn 20 he will be 28 and I don't think that it is THAT weird.

You should do what feels natural to you. If you two want to stay together, why should that be weird? You might be mature enough to be around his friends or you could be on the same wavelenght and share a solid common ground. Don't give up on what could be a good relationship just because other people might think that an age gap of 8 year is weird and socially unconventional.

True, problems might arise if your parents are against it or if things become more intimate between you two and you might feel pressured... There are pros and cons like any other relationship though, so I think that you should do what makes you happy, and hold on to it if it is what you want!

Best of luck! (;

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Johnny Chin answered

Of course it is a problem. Love is natural, but it also matures along with life experience. Just because you have the feeling of love does not mean that it is matured. I know that "maturity" is subjective, but age 14 definitely falls short of "maturity".

thanked the writer.
Awesome  Autumn
Awesome Autumn commented
What does "maturity" have to do with love? You can't necessarily control who you fall in love with. It just happens.

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