I'm In Love With 20 Year Old And I'm 14. Is That Wrong?

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Anonymous Profile
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I am 20 and I fell in love with a 15 year old girl, I myself am a virgin by choice, I just want a meaningful lasting relationship, Everyone tells me its wrong or desperate, I realize there is a risk of going to jail, But I am really in love with her and she loves me back, I guess what I'm saying is, people who say that its wrong simply because of age are so very wrong, People that say its desperate are wrong! Sure in some cases those things could be true, But I didn't know things would happen this way, And I really love her, I'll stay with her no matter what others say, Just follow your heart!
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Kai Duchesne
Kai Duchesne commented
That's not healthy. No matter how "in love" with her you feel, you are being manipulative by keeping her in the relationship. If you really do love her, break up with her. The fact that you are even in a relationship with a minor means that you are a pedophile.
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I'm a 14 yr old in love with a 25 yr old! People may think it's wrong but love has no age barrier as long as you keep it a secret you'll be fin and him and I have plans to get married when I turn 18 so try and keep it on the down low and don't arise suspition if you can help it beacause some people do frown upon it and as long as your not making any sexuall contact he can't go to jail! Have fun
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I'm in the same situation. I'm going to wait till I'm not a minor though . But I think its normal.some adults do say that its wrong a 14 year old dating a 20 year old,but seem to think a 21 year old dating a 27 year old is fine ?? Which is weird because its the same age gap. The issue is the parents really. :)
Ellie Cunningham Profile
It's not wrong if you love each other. But beware he could take advantage. I'm 14 too and I think I love a 20 year old.....so I sorta know how you feel. My advice is that you should follow your heart. It may be on your left side but it's always right xx
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I can assure you, it is not wrong, despite what anyone says, or any law that's in place, age is irrelevant, love is something that can't be gaged by age.

Of course some people have varied opinions, but if a 14 yr old is at the point where they believe they're in love, and the 20 yr old is returning the love, and not just in a sexual manor, then by all means, pursue it.
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Bikergirl Anonymous
.. that's IF real love is involved. REAL love is rare at such a young age, because REAL love is developed and grows. I know you'd love to think it's just as easy a 'feeling' of wanting to spend time with someone .. but, I can assure you .. it's not that simple. REAL love is complicated .. and is tested. IF and only if it can stand the test of time, that's when you can come to the conclusion that you have 'something' to work on.
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I'm 20 and in love with a 14-year-old.  I'm scared to death to tell anyone, for fear of being hated.  But she loves me back.  I didn't ask for it to happen this way, it just did.  There is nothing wrong with what you're doing.  The age difference of six years would be wrong if it was 9-15, but after 12 or 13, I see no problem.  Love is a funny thing, huh?
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Kai Duchesne
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No no no no no. If she is under eighteen, you are a pedophile. Stop. Please consider that she is not of the legal age to give consent to even being in the relationship. Even if she says she loves you back, it's not okay.
Bikergirl Anonymous
I would be less afraid of what people think, and more afraid of going to jail, and having pedophilia charge . Having a child sexual abuse record for the rest of your life will create boundaries you don't know are even possible.

And .. I'm afraid your logic is dangerously flawed in terms of differences of ages...when it involves minors. The age difference between consenting adults and a completely different matter. By YOUR logic, it would equitable to a 15 year old .. dating a 7 year old .. Are you of the opinion, age still doesn't matter? that there is 'no problem with it"?
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Izzy Lalime answered
It's not wrong... But you guys can't act on your love for now... Because if you do, the 20 yr. Old will go to jail.

Sometimes you can't help who you love!
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Noo its not wrong at all I'm in the same situation but except that the guys is 24 I'm 14 yes wer deeply in love its gunna be 2 yrs now don't let other ppl bring you down listen to your heart it will always lead you
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Rose Ire answered
I don't think it is wrong, other people would just judge you from your age difference.I know a girl that is going to be 15 that is dating a 21 yr. Old guy. They just are keeping their relationship a secret until they get older and can be together.
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Alyssa Smith answered
It's not wrong.I know somebody that's going out with a 23 yr old .and she's 13. They love each other a lot. ButT they haven't told a soul....
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I really really really like a guy who is 20 (I'm 14 too) but I'm not sure if I should tell him how I feel or not because he might think of me as a little kid :/
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Just follow your heart. Theres nothing wrong with that. Tbh age has nothing to do with it. Good luck (:
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Well I don't think its wrong because I am also in a situation like that lol but yea I think that age is just a number and it doesnt really matter what other people think as long as your happy wit him and hes happy wit you... I hope the best for you and do what you think is right not what others say is right
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jemzz answered
No its not wrong at all...I am 17 and I am in love with a 26 year old guy!!love is totally blind...
Elizabeth Dilworth Profile
There is nothing wrong with being in love with a 20 yr old man, the question is do you love him enough.  At the age of 14 teenages can go through things like that, they may be in love with their male teacher at school, or their P.E teacher. If your really sure your in love with guy then good luck. But that is a 6yr age difference and what do your parents think about it.
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Sarina Afiat answered
No don't think it is wrong! Do you know that someone whose 10 years older then me felt in love with me? I'm 15 and he's 25! I don't know what to do! Well I'm waiting to find a wasy I don't know why but I feel it's not so good. For me of course not you!
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No it is not wrong a all if you are I lve then you ae you can't help yur feelings but do not tell any1 for a while because he cud go to jail wen I was 13 I was in lve wif a 18 yr old buh I was matture and old looking for my age like I knew what  I wa doing
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You cannot help who you fall for. You need to make sure your not being used and the relationship is secure. Aslong as he treats you right, with respect and an approachable attitude regarding your age then its all good. Follow your heart. All the best. If you want him, don't let the heartache be worht nothing (L)
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Winter answered
No, it is not wrong. Love can fall upon anyone. If it was wrong, you both would be the same gender. (just a belief of mine : No offense) Edger Allen Poe married his 13 year old cousin when he was 40. I don't think it should have been his cousin, but still it shows how "Cupid's Arrows" can go in an unexpected direction. If you two do decide to get sexual, then the 20 year old can go to jell for sagitory rape, since you are still a minor.
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No it is not wrong because if you love somebody there should not be a age limit on that
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I'm 15 and I'm really in love with a 23 year old man and I think he likes me back, just follow your heart, if you love him/her and he/her loves you don't let anything stop you being together xx
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No I don't think its wrong, I was 16 dating a 25 year old guy, and I still wouldnt trade the moments and memories for anything I think that if he feels the same about you as you do him then go for it but of course he can go to jail so be careful, I'm currently 20 and I'm with a 17 year old boy who I love with all my heart and I'm sure he loves me the same, so good luck
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6 years is no age gap days like an 18 y.o going out with a 24 years old sounds ridiculous
20 is so young cum on wen he's 26 you'll b 20 so don't let these fools spoil your love just keep it a secret until its finally out in the open...many celebs date 12 / 18 years younger people y does it matter besides your gona regret it once its gone this love of urs
Lillian Eldridge Profile
What matters in all actuality is: Are you mature enough.. Emotionally, physically, etc.. And in some cases mentally and/or spiritually if you want any sort of 'dateing' relationship. Therefore also consider how you will feel.. Your future.. Will it work out or bring sadness.. Etc. Before you are attached and committed. As for following your heart.. It will, of coarse, most likely bring sorrow. Simply use your mind :) choose wisely.
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Anonymous answered
I don't think its wrong either...to tell you the truth my situation is pretty much the same, don't get me wrong sometimes it can be dangerous, but if you love him and he loves you and you trust him, Then its fine I guess...
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Hy,
if this is your true love then this love is right but you attract only there body face and other then this love is wrong in love no bond any age
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I'm 14 and I'm inlove with a 23 year old..he and his friend are staying with my family because they are going to college!!!!!! I'm happy that hes living here because I can see him everyday. I think he knows I like him, would it be weird if he liked me back ?
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Jey obregon answered
I'm in the same situation...well alittle different..I'm in love with a 16 and I'm 34....its weird but she loves me and I love her...we havent had sex and I would nevr push that on her...
becca angel Profile
becca angel answered

No, it should be alright as long as he is Nice and everything. But a warning, be careful, he could go to jail for that if you too went out.

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

Wrong?---No.

But knowing it will work out is like knowing that the next lottery ticket you buy will win the top prize.

Dream away, but don't spend the money yet.

Lilmpress Corenzo Profile

I'm 14 but I look 17 and I'm in love with the boy who works at zerhs lol , we talk al the time , and he's flirty , but there's two things, it's illegal , and he has a gf , well he had a gf , Befor he broke up with her for me ....the thing is now , he wants to hangout more , but like not as friends and like ... Hes never asked for my age , and I really like him and Ik I should tell him , but like he would get so mad because we've been talking for a year, and he dumped his girl for me ... And I'm a 14 year old little girl , and he would never talk to me again if he knew my age

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Lilmpress Corenzo
What I'm trying to say , your guy is kinda a pedo if he knows your 14 , and yea you guys might be in love but it could be becuase he can't get any girls his age for some reason...
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Megan goodgirl answered

What you may have is just a crush. I use to like my Science Teacher and at the time he was 28 and I was 13.

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mary adam answered

Having read this I'm concerned how many 20+ men are in love with young girls just going through puberty. What on earth does a man have in common with a young teenager?  Another concern being these young girls being interested in relationships with older men at such a young age, there is so much more to life than jumping into relationships with immature men.

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Right or wrong is a matter of opinion .. However it IS against the law. So unless you want him to have a criminal record for the rest of his life, you might be wise to stay away.

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tough love answered
Well , I don't think its wrong because I my self love someone older then I am but I'm 14 and he's 18 ' I  mean Yul can't help who you love if you love the other person that much yull do anything to be with them . Hell be wrong to college soon and were not together because I have a boyfriend and he has a qirlfriend but we talk all the time and like  were thinkinq about qettinq together before he qoes to school and just havinq a lonq distance relationship and its only because I have really stronq feelinq for him and he has the same for nme so I say if Yul love the person do whaty Yul have to do to be with them , and itll work out the way you want it to if Yul trust them enouqh
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Yes he can take advantage of you and rape you
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It is wrong from a legal stand point also. If the 20 year old and you have sexual contact before you turn 18 it is statuary rape, and the 20 year old could end up in prision.
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Hannah Ashley answered
You can get hurt. I would try not to think about him.Your 6 years younger, just say NO to being with him.

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