Is Older Girl Dating A Younger Guy Okay Or Not ?

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Laura  Barbarise Profile
Laura Barbarise answered
I'm 20, and my amazing boyfriend is 17. I always forget that his age since he doesn't look 17 or act it. Age is nothing but a number, if you love him for who he is and he treats you right, that's all what matters :)
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Elizabeth D. answered
From my experience lot's of people don't like the idea. However I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost two years. He's 20 and I'm 27! He is the best guy I've ever dated. Very mature, educated, responsible, loving and most importantly honest. I love him so much. My family and his father didn't approve of the relationship but now almost two years later they're pretty much convinced that age wasn't going to come between us. He is my best friend... And we do everything together. Any other guy his age would of left by now because not only am I 7 years his senior I also have 3 kids... But he has a very mature way of thinking and he is not interested in partying or "exploring" if you know what I mean. He is very family oriented. He loves spending time with me as well as helping me with the kids. I actually dated my children's dad for six years, he was 5 years older than me and he was actually the biggest mistake of my life, So if any one tries to tell me dating a younger person is a bad idea I tell them they're wrong. If he's a nice guy I don't se why you shouldn't give him a chance. Good luck.
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Anonymous answered
Heck yes its ok! Age is only a number.if they don't have sex and if they love each other then go for it,when I was 11 this 14 year girl asked me out,I thought about and said whats the worst that could happen.she is now my wife mother of my 2 kids so it is perfectly ok
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Peter Buon
Peter Buon commented
Wow i am very proud of you for writing this although it was 6 years ago, Im happy for you that you married the girl you met since you were 11 :) Love is love.
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Impressive. Look before you leap though, remember.
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Anonymous answered
This is coming from a guy who just turn 24 this year: My girlfriend is 32 and I love her very much, age does not matter, its all about the chemistry and how well you both get along and understand each other.. There will be barriers no doubt; both socially and personally, but if your love is strong enough you can over come it. I'm hoping to propose to her on her birthday.
Laura Stephenson Profile
I feel it is ok because I am dating a thirteen year old and he is getting ready to turn fourteen. I am sixteen and I feel you all don't have it right because if you love somebody you can't control that. And if he loves you back you two are a good couple and yes my relationship is going strong too. So ha for all you guys that said it would be werid cause it isn't.
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Anonymous answered
Well I'm also kind of having this crisis. I'm 17 turning 18 soon and I think I'm in love with this guy I've known for like years now and hes 16 and has told me he loves me & I never told him now I felt. Everytime I'm with him I feel younger yet when I talk about it to my friends the whole age difference freaks me out. It just sucks that you can't be with someone without getting some kind of judgement from society. But then I think, why should it matter. Like many of you've said, you can't choose who you fall in love with. So it shouldnt matter...right? X)
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chantel strydom answered
I don't think there is anything wrong with that, it is only 3 years!!! I know of a girl, she is 32 that is in love with a guy that is 21!! The age difference is not that huge, it could be worse!
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Anonymous answered
All right. @Mba_ims - Just stop. Your grammar and spelling just makes you sound like an idiot.
Honestly, in my opinion it's fine as long as the boy is mature and understands that the situation is stressful for the older girl.
I am 17 and I am in a similar position.  The age gap is 4 years for me, and I'm not acting on it, at least not yet, because I am afraid of what people will say.  I know that people think it's weird that I even talk to him, so to go with him is kind of out of the question.
But in your case, I think that you should go for it.  This is my opinion, but there is a big difference between 13 and 14 (I know it doesn't sound like much, but again - opinion!) and if I can fall in love with a 13 year old, then your situation is fine 8)
Just be careful, I know I am.  Things can get pretty messy for girls like us.  We don't mean any harm, but we seem to get all the trouble and criticism. =(
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Anonymous answered
I am 16 and dating a guy that is 13...  I am turning 17 next month and he is turning 14 in Aug...at first I also talked myself out of dating him b/c I was scared of what people would say but know I can careless....I or should I say we are happy and thats all that matter =].
So I say GO FOR IT...what else you got to lose???
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Taz Denz answered
It is perfectly fine, its not the law, and it is accepted by communities and to be honest who should bother you about love, people like different things and have very different opinions.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Sunshine, my boyfriends 2 years younger than me, it doesnt matter. =)

all that matters, are your feelings, so long as she loves him then nothing matters =)
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Well in my opinion its not wrong because I'm 17 and I'm dating a 14 year old. It all depends on how the person feels and what makes them happy. Sure she'll probably get some crap about it like I did but if they really do like each other then why not.guys that are 17 date 14 year old and don't get crap for it..
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Anonymous answered
I am a girl 5 year older than a guy. We had already our first date. I really like him, and I think he likes me as he invited me for a second date. Since I  want so badly to keep dating him, I told him on a purpose that I am same age as he is. But now I think I am messing up...why is age such a barrier in our minds...urrgh
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brooke moorman answered
My sister is married to a guy that will be 22 in July and she is going to be 25 in April. There is no big deal in age. My mom is 38 and my dad is 43. I think it is only a BIG thing when ppl are younger. You are fine hunny just stay wit him! Her could be the 1!
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Anonymous answered
Personally I don't see a problem here. It's just stereotypes. A guy I know was much more mature than the rest of his peers at 14-15 or something and he dated a girl of 16 or 17. Why it seems weird... Stereotypes mostly.
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Anonymous answered
As far as you are happy, age difference is not important. I`m 24 and dating a guy who`s 20.
We are in love and haven`t had any serious problem and thats why even his parents are ok with it.
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lindsay vernis answered
Ive been wondering the same question for a while, struggling with the fact that others would look upon me or others in that situation in a negative way....the way I see it is you can't help who you like and the age does make it hard for people to get to know others due to all the stereotypes. The whole rape thing is so over used, just because they are dating doesnt mean they are having sex...yet again another stereotype. If she wants to date the kid go ahead...chances are because he is younger he can avoid all the peer pressure and influences of friends by having someone who is a little older to show him the mistakes they made and how to act and that....really I think that she would be a great influence on him and cause him to mature more so than any 17 year old is...age does not make you more mature thats forsure!... I don't think that others should be so quick to judge.
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Anonymous answered
I say that it's okay. I'm a 17 year old girl dating a 14 year old boy. Being a few years apart isn't that bad considering there are a lot worse out there. I'm in her situation, but his parents don't approve of us, so it makes it harder. But he is very mature for his age which helps a lot. But I believe that that age difference is fine.
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Anonymous answered
I'm going out with this guy, I'm 1 year and 9 months older than him, but I really like him and he likes me. I'm really scared because my birthday is coming up, and I hate when people talk about me saying "shes older than him" I just hate it. I am at a high school and I am meant to be in the year above!! People say I'm thick and stuff. Why can't everyone just stop .who cares about the age!!!
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Anonymous answered
I'm 15 dating a 12 year old, he's going to be 13. Age doesn't matter at all to me, it's just a number. I just won't do anything until he's at a legal age that's all. I know better. I do get some crap from people about my relationship, but honestly I don't care. We love each other and that's all that matters.
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Anonymous answered
I am 18 years old and I am in a relationship with a 27 year mother, she is amazing.it is like we are made for each other, she found me and I am only 18. Every other relationship I have been in I have never felt the bond this click,the love, the laughs, everything is so amazing.
I say do what you feel happy doing people, if you think they are the one then let it happen. You only live once and people make mistakes.
All the best Adam xx
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Sandra answered
I am in the same situation! Except I am a few years younger then you and so is he. I am 19 and he is 16.. I really find myself starting to like him a lot, and we get along so well its insane. I don't think I could bring myself to actually date him at this point in time because id be embarrassed and ashamed of what people would say.. Its really hard. But if I was in your situation, I would go for it. Trust me, you will be much happier doing it.. Instead of thinking 'what if?' .. I wish I could listen to my own advice, but our age difference is just a bit much eh?
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I don't think age matters at all.. Just as long as you feel secure around him or her it's no big deal.. I'm 22 and there's this girl I like who's 25.. We really get along well, calling up each other like almost evryday and I jus feel secure around her and I know she does too..
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AVRIK Kawasaki answered
Age doesn't not importantttt!!!!!
The most important thing in life is happiness and love between the both of them
age its just a number doesn't do anything in your life
so don't lose your favorite person because of age :D

please I'm having trouble with my gf she is 5 years older then me and she loves me a lot and I do , but she always says that she is shy or I don't know how to explain , but I need her to forget everything about age can someone give me a good sentence that to let her agree :( please I need help ,she loves me a lot so I can tell her anything I dated her more than 30 times but she still thinks about age :( she doesn't love anyone else please I need help.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I'm 18 and dating a 37 yr old...its not a big deal between us...but the rest of the world definately has something to say about it
ally monica Profile
ally monica answered
Well how many years r they apart it dosent matter 2 me bacause if you love some 1 than age shouldnt matter
yvette Profile
yvette answered
I think it's ok for them to date. When I was 17 I also dated a 14 year old and I lasted with him for 3 years and we have a baby together but I left him cause he is on the wrong path. But I always tend to go with guys a lil younger. I feel its her desicion and if she really likes him to go for it and not to care with what other ppl say. :D
Kelly Profile
Kelly answered
In my opinion I think it's fine because it's not against the law as long as you have feelings for them or just want to give it a shot!!! There's nothing wrong with it don't listen to people who sayy there is it's not your fault how long youu've lived it's your parents lol (:
Trust me bestthing!
It's honestly fine,
don't listen to the people who say if youu get pregenant at 18 and they're say 17 well who says that's going to happen
youu have one life why give up on a boy because they're younger than youu I mean who honestly cares,
if youu get concsious it's fine just remember your doing nothing wronge are youu ?? :D
hope I helped
Kelly-x
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I an 12 and my gf is 13 and we are in love each other and age don't matter. If you love the person and you don't do anything you will regret, its ok.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I'm 15 and I like someone 2 years younger but where still at school :S and my friends would rip me if they found out :(
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Yes, it is okay. Age really is not a factor. As long as both people are mature and they do not have an issue with age there is nothing to worry about, and who cares what other people say as long as you are happy.
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Kaley Mayhew answered
I don't think that the age difference is quite small enough.. My boyfriend is younger than me but it's by little over a year..
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I'm 20 and I'm dating someone who is 17. It can be very stressful and he can be very immature at times. But younger boy/men are a lot of fun. When it comes down to it the age difference really doesnt matter.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Kinda. But I'm 14 (girl) and I like this guy who will turn 12 in a couple months. I think he likes me too. I'm soo scared of what my friends/parents would think though. Help?!?
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
If hes way younger than youu then yes but if hes like 1 year or a few months then no
Charlie Profile
Charlie answered
In most states the law is 16 to 24. Anyone UNDER the age of 16, doesn't have the right to say they want to have sex, so if they have sex with anyone, that person will be arrested for statutory rape... I am not saying that your two friends are going to have sex, but that's usually what happens. Your 17 year old friend risks going to jail and frowned upon in society for the rest of her life. This is a big deal. The law is 16-24... If one party is over 16 and the other is under 24... It is okay... If they are not... It's not okay. If you hit me up on aim, I'll explain how I know this, if you want. =)

As far as age differences in itself... I am 25 and my boyfriend of 8 years is 52 ....that's a big difference and sometimes I worry about him, how life would be if anything ever happen to him, and he has two children and doesn't want anymore... Sometimes that bothers me and sometimes I am okay with it. There's good and bad in everything, guess you have to find the good, cause I wouldn't trade him for a younger model...ever!
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Anonymous answered
I'm 16, born july 93 and I'm going out with a guy whos 15, born january 95...I really liked him and then found out the age gap. It was strange at first and the first time I walked thru town holding his hand I thought everyone was staring, but even the people who thought it was weird and joked about me being a cradle snatcher now say that me and my boyfriend look so cute together. So I think sometimes acceptance just takes time?
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Anonymous answered
Theres nothing wrong with that they are both teenagers and still in high school. They are still young and into similar things it's different if its a 14 year old going out with someone in college, but at that age they are still very similar.
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Anonymous answered
I don't think it matters, I'm 21 and I'm dating a girl who's 24, and we both love each other!!!
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Anonymous answered
Well I've always felt like you can't choose who you fall in love with but you can choose if it is the right thing to do. Boys are about 3 or 4yrs. Behind girls on a maturity level so she actually would be dating someone with the maturity level of about 10 or 11yrs. Old doesn't quit sound sensible to me but that isn't for us to decide it's a little different when people become adults as to where they are in their lives and what they want but when your that young it may be more a problem than anything they need to look at he big picture like where they are in their lives and what they want like will she be feel comfortable going and hanging out with a bunch of his friends who are 14 or would she want to be hanging out with kids her own age?
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Anonymous commented
That is extremely unfair statement to make and i feel is very hurtful to me,
I do not have the maturity level of a 10-12 year old,
And how do u measure maturity, in decibels?! /have your own little scale
Just becuase i guy likes his xbox at the age of 15/16 or baseball cards doesnt mean he is less mature. I know their are expections to this,for instance i can say that i am one of the only guys that arent typical and want only one thing (we all know what that is) but we arent all like that
Taz Denz
Taz Denz commented
I agree that is extreamly un-fair, but i see where you are coming from, and if men are behind on maturity then its not proper maturity if you get that.
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shriman adhith commented
It is not wrong...if u r truly loving him
Fred Jones Profile
Fred Jones answered
This really depends on your maturity levels. In many cases, a few years have not made a difference or have been a positive thing to the relationship. The younger you are though, the more variance there can be in maturity levels. But there is also a certain amount of trying to understand the other persons level and a bit of willingness to forgive when the gap shows itself. The only way to know if it is right for you is to stay with it and give it a try. Sounds like you are already there.
Danika Montgomery Profile
I'm dealing with the situation myself. I'm 16 and I met an amazing guy a couple weeks ago he's a year and a half younger than me but he is just the sweetest person, he tells me I'm beautiful everyday, he's always making me smile, and treats me great. At first I didn't want to give him a second thought but the more I got to know him the more I'm starting to care less about the age gap and more about him. It's easy to judge by just looking at the numbers but if you ask your friend about how he treats her and why she wants to date someone so much younger you might understand why she feels that way. Because when you find that right person for you nothing else matter but you and him and I'm sure she'd want your support of the relationship.
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Anonymous answered
I don't see anything too bad with it I mean I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 16,, 17 next month,, but I really don't see anything wrong with it. Boys can be immature true,, but atm the end of the day if you are calling a 15 16 or whatever year old immature its because they are only young. Hun age doesnt matter believe me. I'm in love and I think if you love someone age shouldnt matter. As long as you are happy go for it (: Do what your heart tells you aye (; you one tip don't do anything until he is legal,, you don't want anything happening that you can't handle,, be sensible and enjoy yourself hun (:
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Anonymous answered
I'm gettin married to a younger guy hes is almost 2 years younger than me we have be together for goin on 4 years an I'm 22  I don't see nothin wrong with it as long as yall are old enough to be matcher about it it should not make a differents  if its ment to be it will be an my mom told me that 4 years ago an we r getting married this fall
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Vannah Boo answered
I'm 22 nd this guy I date is 18 4 yr difference is that wrong I'm scared what should I do?
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Trainer Red answered
It does not seem right usually it is the other way around but if they both truly love each other it will not matter love prevails over a lot of things
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Anon amous answered
No, it is not bad my cousin is 18 and she is dating a guy who is 34 they love each other so much and he would bend over back words for her because he loves her so much he does anything just to make her smile they are perfect together just because of an age difference doesn't mean your not meant to be.
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Anonymous answered
We live in such a politically correct society that only dating people of the same age and color is acceptable.  In real life you have many happy marriages between people with huge age differences.  I think most people think that a teenager is very vunerable and not capable of making good decisions, therefore anyone older and wiser would have the upper hand and might lead them astray.  I think it has to be on a case by case evaluation.  The teenager in question must involve their parent in this important decision.
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Anonymous commented
Show yourself..the slimeball that gave this answer a low rating and explain yourself. This is a good answer especially from a woman who is nine years older than her husband. Most people that see us together remark that he is a lucky man.
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Sivchour Sun answered

From my personal experience, no. I once dated a guy who was a year and a half younger than me. It was a total disaster! He was so immature, he always acted like a kid and never took me out on a real date. He just always wanted to hang out in his house. Months later I found out from his close friend (who he had a fight with and they stopped being friends) that he just wanted to be sexually intimate with me because apparently I have a "hot" body and that's all he wanted from me. Good thing I'm smart enough and never gave it up, so he just wasted his time. It was a total waste. Girls, I advice all of you to NOT date younger guys if he is immature, but if you are 100% sure that he is mature then that's a different story.

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rudalf desuja answered

I think there is not anything wrong with it. Dating or love does not depend on age, it depends on the crush.

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Anonymous answered
I say that if you are in the age difference of 1 year its ok anything more is just not!
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emo elmo answered
Yes it is age doesnt matter I'm 14 and I my gf is 17 I love her so much we make love all the time and we are perfect for each other! So I say yes.
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Mouse or Nette answered
When both parties are 21 or over the age differences matter less.  But 14 is a young teen still.. And 17 is getting close to adult.  Those few years can be critical in development.  If it were the other way around a 17 yr old boy.. And a 14 yr old girl.. More people would say.. OH NO.. I don't think there should be any difference here.  17 thats like a jr in HS and 14 is like an 8th grader... Think of it like that...
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I gave everyone a high rating but someone had already given you such a low rating that I could only move you up one star.
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No. It's not correct , a younger ought to be looking for his or her aged partner or fellows. Its very bad manner to participate alder's. But after adult age it's correct because 3 or 4 years is not a difference to become a partner of each other. Because after adult age they become mature and understand what is good and what is bad.

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Anonymous commented
I agree with your perspective in regards to teenagers. After you get into your twenties and beyond......well you just have to follow your heart!
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Nick Kiiski commented
Okay there is this girl at Lifetime Fitness that i met the other day. I went in the hot tub that they were in and one of the girls just started talking to me. The other one just stayed and wacthed. I Then we started talking and she just stared at me for 1 minute smiling. And when I asked her what was she doing she just giggled blushed then turned around. I think she likes me what should i do. Ask her for her phone number and ask her out. Do you guys think that she likes me?
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sherrie hunter commented
This is for niko..i thinks she likes you and when you asked her what she was doing she was shy cause you caught her staring at you. I think you should ask her if she wants to go out and do something. Take it slow so you don't make her nervous and be a gentle man. How old are you and her? Comment back on how you did!
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Anonymous answered
I don't think it should be a problem cause I know in order for a young kid to have any type of relationship with an older girl the consent of age have to be 16 so if the boy is 16 going out with a 20 year old I think that's not statutory rape cause he's already the consent age so my ......questions is what do you think about a 20 year old girl going out with an 16 year old????
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Anonymous answered
I'm dating someone who is almost six years younger than me, and I have to admit that there have been many barriers.  There have been lots of highs, but definitely some lows.  I tend to find myself more worried when he goes out with his friends, who tend to cause a lot of drama between us. He freaks out if I'm out with my friends and his maturity is no where near where I want him to be.  I'm sure you're asking yourself, why is she still dating him.  I really don't' know.
Jacquelyn Mathis Profile
No, if it was like one year younger, that might be o.k. But that many years, it is dangerously close to molestation, or rape. She should be 50 miles away from him or better.

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john rambo answered
Yes some where down the line he will feel bad and might not be interested in you further.....
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Anonymous answered
Am dating a guy who is 6 months younger to me....I hardly remember that fact he is younger to me.....its just so awesome to be in luv!!...so age doesnt matter!!!!....
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Mr. Adamo answered
There is never just 1 answer to anything as 'This is the only answer' so to speak.. It depends on what is appropriate at times. And with adults the youngest age is 18 years old on either side of it.
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Gabriel Baker answered
In my opinion it wrong. But it depends on how your friend feels with him. If he makes here happy, an they truly have feelings for each other, then I say yes.
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Anonymous answered
Okay I'm Seventeen years olf guy, and I'd like to get with a 19 year girl is that good or bad ?
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Valentina Villa answered
I am dating a younger guy but I am only like 4 months older not 3 years so I don't really know. In my opinion, I think it is weird to go out with a guy that is 1 year younger than me; just the same feelings with 3 years younger. Just my opinion! Luv yal
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No that just doesn't look right plus with as advanced as this world has gotten it may just not be the greatest of ideas. If she got pregnant and had the kid when she turned 18 she could be arrested for statutory rape.
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Anonymous answered
Err to old dude if it was only one year and he was mature enough then maybe but the difference between you two is disgusting
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I was in a play with this younger guy. We got along really well, spent a ton of time together and really got to know each other. He's intelligent and can make me laugh. We read the same books, listen to the same music and have very similar interests... The only thing is: I'm 18 and he's 15. He's going to be a junior in high school and in a month, I'll be leaving for college. I know he wants to make something work... And I'd relly like to but because of the age difference, I'm hesitant. Help!
Auroa
Auroa commented
Oh you're wrong for that.
I'm 16 and I have the biggest crush on this guy who's only 14, and he likes me back. So what?
To Mjoan, I say go for it. Enjoy the time you have left.
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Anonymous answered
Its okay for a girl to date a younger guy but not when the guy is underage like in this situation if he was say 16 and she 19 that wouldn't be so bad but 14 is very young.
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I am 18 and he is 16 and we r getting marry in a year and prego and I don't know what to do
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Anonymous answered
Take it from me, I just got out of a 3 year relationship with an older girl. Me 25, her 28, she was always rushing for marriage and a serious commitment when I wasn't ready yet, we were in love but she didn't have the patience. It will spell trouble.

An older girl will always try to dominate the younger man, a big reason why we broke up.

Then again you guys are 17 and 14, wont last at all anyways, promise you.

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