How Do You Choose Between Two Guys That You Love?

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maria catherine gonzalez Profile
Whoever you fell in love with last, because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.
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Anonymous answered
In the end of it all, you have to choose the one that makes you laugh the most....After all, that is really who you'll want to spend your time with, other than a boy who is always uptight and cares what others think of him, and you two as a couple....Trust me, laughter leads  to love
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I think you should see who have a lot of fun with the most and who makes you comfortable when your talking with each other.
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You have listen carefully t your heart and not get confused with the thought of your mind pray for signs and try to find your way and be honest to yourself don't evaluate pros and cons because love is not like subject that you can assess its irrational it is not logical so you have to listen to your heart and that little voice that keeps on talking to you maybe you have to take your space and time from both of them and just clear your mind and have enough space to hear your heart
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Marisol Torres answered
One thing for sure, you have to ask yourself, is it worth taking a chance on destroying a friendship with your best friend if things don't work out between you two?  I must say, from true experience, it can really kill the friendship and you guys may never be able to face each other again.  The two of you may know the In's & out about each other as best friends, but do you really know the In's & out about each other as boyfriend & girlfriend?? Trust me, that is a whole new world you'll be experiencing.  Good luck on your decision!
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Well its not about the one who is better in bed but it sort of is.I am in the same problem, I have my boyfriend but I cheated on him with my ex.I cheated by loosing my virginity to my ex boyfriend.My boyfriend took me back and I had sex with my boyfriend.After I had sex I started to cry because I realized I love my ex not my boyfriend.My boyfriend is the best hes loyal and he is always there for me but my ex makes me happy.My ex I loved him ever since we broke up and I havent stoped loving him. I stoped talking to my ex that is the worst thing I have done and I regret it.My boyfriend I don't want to lose him because I think I'm going to regret it.
So learn from my mistakes don't lose them until your positive of what your doing.Cause then you will regret it just like I did.
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Katey Hurtman answered
Personally, I think it would be better to choose the person you can see yourself staying with for the longest time and the person who would truly make you happy. If you trust one of the guys over the other that would be a good thing to look at... Also, if one of them has a record of "dumping" a girl after a few days of dating, he wouldn't be the greatest person to date.
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Anonymous answered
Just think about it..... Who do you see yourself with when your 85....who could you put up with for that long...ha...well...thats probably who you should pick then ..huh???!!!♥
good luck
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Kristine Aves answered
I guess thats the answer.. Choose the person who "gives you more hugs". Who holds you longest. Or watches you as you leave. The one who isn't going to let go. This choice just became pretty obvious.
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Anonymous answered
Have a convo with both on the phone
see which one you had a better time wit
I chose my bf like tht [: Nd we been together for about 2 years and we've never really had a fight
OR you could see which one looks better or has better manners nd like tht...
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Little Rainbow answered
The best thing to do is think to yourself, is he the type to settle down, marry and have kids with?(if that's what you want) is he reliable? Trustworthy? Likable? And any others questions you can think of. And which ever guy is yes to the questions is the right guy, but if it's sort of awkward maybe you shouldn't choose any of them and wait for someone else to come along:)
hope I helped. And all the best!
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shannon dasvis answered
I think as long as you are honest 2 both of them about each other you should take IT slow a little, so that you pick the right one, without no regrets, they should understand, as long as you don't mislead them, good luck.
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jazmine sowell answered
Whichh one can you look in the eyes which one would you give your life for which one would give up their life for you which 1 has most in common with you which one is the kind of guy you like mostly send more questions the love jazz making the world a better place
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I think you just choose the one who loves you more than the other one. Because its really secure to have a great lover rather than having just a lover.
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It depends how you feel really which one is more close to you which one will you love to be with the most. If you can't make that decision you will just have to pick one or say no to both. But if you do pick one guy say to the other "if you really loved me you would want me to be happy right and now I am happy I'm so sorry this is really hard to do, and you will all ways be a important piece of my life" then just leave them they will understand if they truly love you.
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Yo Man answered
The question itself is not logic, so I can not give you logic answer, you can just simply choose without any logic reason. Good luck.
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Anonymous answered
You should pick a person that's more kind and loving to himself and you and make sure you find out if he not cheating on you
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This is not about looks it is about personality!!!! ( Says to all people saying to pick the hotter one) I am in the same situation. One of the boys doesn't like me but I heard that he is going to tell me he likes me next year when school starts. The other boy is my friend and we have known each other since kindergarten. He just broke up with his girlfriend and my friend keeps telling him that I like him which I never said that. But I kinda do like him. I have been trying for a year with the first boy but he said we were just friends. I am not sure what to do either. I think you should get to know both of them and see which one you like better. Sorry that wasn't much help.
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I'm in the same situation. The one I'm no longer with knew everything about me, but he was controlling. The other I've known longer and is also an ex. He's so quiet, but he doesn't control me. I know the one I've known longer will benefit me more, but the other is so outgoing which is something I've always admired. I say just go for the one who seems to be a little lackadishcal rather than so out there. The one who seems uninterested will more than likely give you little to no drama. The other will more than likely give you a lot or nothing but drama.
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mac kerr answered
Ok, tip don't look at their looks, weight, or anything about their feature. Look at their personalities. Not about if they are obese or are not very attractive. Hope this helps.
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Anonymous answered
I'm having the same thing happen haa.. So I like my friend but he's the "popular jock" and I don't think he's really my type but then there's my best friend's cousin and me him and my best friend are all really close but I think I like the cousin more than the jock cause he's a skater and more into the music and stuff. Like the guys in all time low or four letter lie.. Those are my type guys and the cousin is more like them and I've liked him longer soo I'm sorry cause this kinda don't help but uhh go through all the things you like/dislike about each of them. Whoever has more like and less dislikes is the one(: Thats how I realized I love my bes friend's cousin and the "jock-popular" guy is just a really good friend(: Good luck..hope its all working
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NASSY NASCARNUT answered
Since you have indicated that you have dated them both, I would question the merits of going backwards in lieu of forwards...
Anyway when I am faced with a decision I take a piece of paper (or two)  and write down the pros & cons of each...when you have finished, the one with the most pros wins!  Good luck to you!
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I have this problem now. I think you should choose the one that you love and the one that knows how to treat you properly.also you have to see which one makes you happy when your with them and comfortable.I still don`t know what to do because they both say they LOVE me but I don`t know if I believe them. Am not going out with any of them. So I just said we should just be friends.It is working and no one is getting hurt, maybe you should try that. HOPEFULLY IT WORKS.I do love one of them but I am just afraid to tell that person because I don`t want the other person getting hurt and I don`t even know of it is the right person.....x GOOD LUCK.....x
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I'm having that problem now too I really like these two guys one I have never even met before but we talk all the time and he just seems wonderful and I'm leading him on :S but the other I have actually hung out with and held hands with him I just don't no what to do :S I like them both a lot
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It's a pain in the butt.  I was going out with this guy for over a year after I had broken up with his friend.  Then my boyfriend broke up with me and the other guy still liked me.  I had to make a choice between the two of them again and I really don't know how to choose.  In the end it comes down to what you feel is right for you, not what others will think.  Good luck!
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Rite now I have a Boyfriend and he is nice and all but kinda shy but he told me he loves me.then there a new guy how comes along and I spend time with him talking and stuff.but I want to be with the new guy and my Boyfriend at the same time...pls help me!!!
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I have this problem for the second time in my life. Except the guy I am kinda with I was engaged with until he thought he wanted his ex back so he left me and went back to her. So I started hanging out with my ex and I realized I never lost my feelings for him. Now I am having to choose between then and I don't know what to do. My ex has also left me for another girl so I'm kinda in a sticky situation.
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Sharon answered
Neither situation sounds healthy. Let them remain your FREINDS.  Start dating and  having fun. Friends have friends.  There are nice places to meet guys.  I know in today's world , one may think you are safer in a relationship with a friend. Remember others can become friends as well, so if you are troubled enough to seek advice, you need to move on.
danielle johnson Profile

I'm gonna tell you this:

Be yourself around both.

If they look at you weird when your being yourself, he probably dont like it. Don't go out with him!!!

If one of them dont look at you weird you can go out with him, have your parents get to know whatever one you choose. Once they know them well, ask him over and do homework together at your house.

After, discuss something fun to do together (like the movies or roller land!)

good luck!!! :)

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Marwadi Sambandh , Listen your heart, answered

It is not about two guys. It is about you. You must need to listen your hearts voice and then chose the guy.

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Kassandra Rodriguez , This is hard , answered

Just belive in who cares for you most and what your heart really tells you. Ask yourself who do you wanna see when you wake up in bed next to. And can you see yourself with that person in the future.

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Talk about it with them and go on a couple of dates with both boys kiss a lot and make sure they like you back
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Well I have the same problem but  I can't chose like on hannah montana  she had to  chose but I think that you should ask them 3 Q and see witch one likes you more but my problem is much worse than yours
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I like two guys but I'm dating one but I like this other guy more than my boyfriend who do I choose what can I do please help?
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I have the same problem both want to date me and they re both nice . Do you think I should just keep dating them both until I see which one I like? And I don't know if I should tell the other that I'm dating someone else "/
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I don't know what I'd do but I am in the same situation as you and am really confused. X
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I am single and 14 and 2 guys like me 1 of the guys has just started trusting me again and the other asked me out Plz help me Reply
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tosin olaoye answered
One of the guys I like is here and he knows I like and he's said he loves me before but I don't think it's for real while the other just says hi and stares into my eyes what do I do
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saam emma answered
Well you should find out which one you love more and who has the best personality :')
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I like these two guys....one is 3 years older then me and the other is my age.....they r both rly hot and sweet and funny and I just can't decide which one I should choose....plz help!!!
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Same here I'm in the same double trouble. This boy is telling me all this nice stuff bout me and the other hasnt said none of it to me.
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Monai Martin answered
Pros and cons list (Pro are the great things about each guy seperately and Cons are the bad things) Once you've done that, go out w/ both and see which date was better.
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This is a good question! I'm currently confused.I'm a person who never imagined myself in this situation because I am a total faithful person and am hating myself for feeling this way. I had a old love who done me wrong but was young and there are guys that grow up. He completely acts opposite of what he used to 5 years ago. But the past 3 years iv moved on hiding away my feelings for the other guy because I didn't think he really cared like I did. Thought the feelings were gone, moved on started a family an thought I was starting the perfect life iv always wanted. Then my ex comes around not just talking but showing an acting like hes different and I'm the one hes always loved and can't live without. I know people can change bc the man I'm with used to be a player in his younger days but I'm pretty sure hes never done anything to hurt me. So its like I'm blessed an have maybe the perfect life it seems, but my heart keeps going toward the past person and iv never questioned my love for the present person until I felt my feelings for the old one...its so confusing.I feel so guilty even though I have not cheated but talked. I feel like I'm cheating emotionally.....
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I have 3 years going out with my boyfriend.And I really had in my mind to spend my whole life with him. But recently there is this boy that I really feel a connection with him and we have so much things in common like we are from the same country and we like the same things . The problem is that I don't want to risk everything that I have with my boyfriend and start a new relationship that I don't even know if it s going to work. My BFF told me to choose the boy instead of my boyfriend but that didn't help me because she never approved my relationship with my boyfriend.  I'm really confuse I don't want to hurt my boyfriend he is my best friend and the only good thing that had happen to me in my life but at the same time I feel like is no the same anymore.... Please help me
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Laura answered
Ive been with my bf for like 7 months and we have been through a lot. But now this new guy comes along and says he likes me nad hes HOT :) well so is my current bf....I just don't know who to pick! They are both really nice and I think I might need to move on from my current bf...but I don't know!
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Annie McManus answered
For me I had the same exact problem. I liked this guy for a really long time but it was not happening so I chose the other - it was definately a better choice he likes me and the other didn't. For you though I think that you should go for the one that has the most in common with you. When I asked out the oher guy the whole time I had a big knot in my throat because we had nothing to talk about.
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Well I am having a little problem that relates to this. How do I get the guy I want without hurting the other guys feelings?
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C which 1 is more of a nicer person like who is more politer nd if both of them is polite then break up wit them because you noe that you will probably find sum1 better den them ok so good luck!!
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I think you sould have sex with them both see witch1 is better at it and theres your man lol I hav be with my bf 4 over 2 years;]

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