The best way to deal with a situation like this is to be a grown-up... Now many people would tell you that THAT means that you are the better person, and out of consideration, you be friendly to them... I think that's a load of dingo's kidneys.
What being an adult means, is that when you have strong emotions about something or someone, you express yourself in a calm and rational manner, and simply deal with the situation responsibly.
In this case that means, arranging to speak with them both (or if you feel the whole outrageous 'friends' thing comes just from him, then arrange to speak to him alone), and calmly and clearly say 'Look, I know that for some reason, you want us to all be friends... And I guess I can understand the idea, after all you no doubt want to make sure there are no hard feelings between us... However, you need to understand that you have no control over that. There may not be hard feelings on your side, but there ARE on my side. I'd rather that neither of you speak to me again, unless it is important, or a result of something at school. In which case, get straight to the point, speak your piece, I'll reply clearly and calmly, and you will then leave me alone again. I'm sorry if that's not the way you hoped things would turn out, but I REALLY don't want anything to do with either of you. I hope you can respect my wishes in this, and we can simply part ways, and that's that.'
To do this properly, you MUST force yourself to swallow your emotions, and blank yourself out (this means that under NO circumstances will you allow yourself to feel or express any emotions while talking to them. No matter what they might reply. If they try to appeal to you to change your mind, wait till they pause in their plea, and just say 'I've already said what I intended to say, and have no intention of changing my mind. I'm asking you to respect my wishes in this. Please be mature enough to simply accept that this is how things HAVE to be for my sake, and let it go.' Then get up (or if you're already standing) and walk away. Don't stop if they call out to you, just keep walking calmly away. Very little makes a point clearer than someone refusing to acknowledge a call as they simply walk away.
This prevents there from being any misunderstanding, and you will find that it is quite liberating, and you will feel quite empowered by having had the courage to stand up for yourself, and clearly tell them how you feel. You don't need (or want) to be petty or cruel about it, just be matter-of-fact and calm. The sense of control over your life in that moment will be very strong, much like the first time you realize that if someone calls and wants to yell at you about something, that you have the power...to hang up. And keep hanging up every time they call... But that's a different lesson. ;)
I hope this helps in some small way, and that you are able to calmly and maturely handle this situation in such a way that there are no further issues of this kind. Good luck!
What being an adult means, is that when you have strong emotions about something or someone, you express yourself in a calm and rational manner, and simply deal with the situation responsibly.
In this case that means, arranging to speak with them both (or if you feel the whole outrageous 'friends' thing comes just from him, then arrange to speak to him alone), and calmly and clearly say 'Look, I know that for some reason, you want us to all be friends... And I guess I can understand the idea, after all you no doubt want to make sure there are no hard feelings between us... However, you need to understand that you have no control over that. There may not be hard feelings on your side, but there ARE on my side. I'd rather that neither of you speak to me again, unless it is important, or a result of something at school. In which case, get straight to the point, speak your piece, I'll reply clearly and calmly, and you will then leave me alone again. I'm sorry if that's not the way you hoped things would turn out, but I REALLY don't want anything to do with either of you. I hope you can respect my wishes in this, and we can simply part ways, and that's that.'
To do this properly, you MUST force yourself to swallow your emotions, and blank yourself out (this means that under NO circumstances will you allow yourself to feel or express any emotions while talking to them. No matter what they might reply. If they try to appeal to you to change your mind, wait till they pause in their plea, and just say 'I've already said what I intended to say, and have no intention of changing my mind. I'm asking you to respect my wishes in this. Please be mature enough to simply accept that this is how things HAVE to be for my sake, and let it go.' Then get up (or if you're already standing) and walk away. Don't stop if they call out to you, just keep walking calmly away. Very little makes a point clearer than someone refusing to acknowledge a call as they simply walk away.
This prevents there from being any misunderstanding, and you will find that it is quite liberating, and you will feel quite empowered by having had the courage to stand up for yourself, and clearly tell them how you feel. You don't need (or want) to be petty or cruel about it, just be matter-of-fact and calm. The sense of control over your life in that moment will be very strong, much like the first time you realize that if someone calls and wants to yell at you about something, that you have the power...to hang up. And keep hanging up every time they call... But that's a different lesson. ;)
I hope this helps in some small way, and that you are able to calmly and maturely handle this situation in such a way that there are no further issues of this kind. Good luck!
