How Do I Know If My Ex-Boyfriend Still Has Feelings For Me?


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Fred Hamill answered
Common feelings after a break up

After a break-up, it is likely that it will take you both some time to move on. Feelings don't just stop overnight, and it is likely that you both feel a degree of confusion.

Of course, it can depend on how long you have been dating for, but many people say that it takes a month for every year you were together for the feelings to subside.

Many of the things involved with being in a relationship become habits, and many people find that these are what they miss the most after a separation. However, with this can come the freedom of doing things that you enjoy again, or getting in touch with old friends with whom you had lost touch.

But how do I know if my ex still has feelings for me?
I assume you're asking this question as you still have feelings for your ex yourself. If your break-up is quite recent, the answer is probably that he or she does still have feelings for you - but that doesn't mean that they are necessarily the sort of feelings that are conducive to getting back together.

It might just be that your ex still feels physically-attracted to you, and many people find that this can be the hardest part of the relationship to get over. Normally, people only truly move on when one of them meets someone else and starts a new physical relationship.

The main way to tell if your ex is still thinking about you, is if he or she finds ways to talk to you or text you, maybe about something totally irrelevant, just to have some communication with you. This should be treated as them 'keeping their foot in the door', which you might want to go along with, if there is any chance of you getting back together.

Other signs that your ex has feelings for you could be that he or she turns up in places where you always go, or starts making friends with your friends in a bid to know what you're doing and whether you have someone new in your life yet.

What does it mean if my ex still has feelings for me?
It means that they haven't totally moved on, but it might not mean that they want to start up the relationship again. Sometimes, people love each other but, because of other circumstances (like distance, or family commitments) they break up, and then the feelings definitely don't go straight away.

Because of the emotions involved, some people find that a clear break-up with no communication is much simpler and cleaner, and causes less pain in the long-term.

The majority of people would say that it is virtually impossible to stay friends with your ex, especially if both of you still have feelings for each other, or doubts about whether you should have broken up in the first place.
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Anonymous commented
well I think that if he still loves you he would got come out with it and say will you date me again!
Anonymous commented
My ex and I have been broken up for 5 years now. After we broke up we both still clearly had feelings for each other that we tried masking. We stopped all communication for about 7 months then I started dating someone after he had gotten together with someone. I went to a party where I found out they were together and it tore me to pieces seeing him with her. I start dating and he comes and starts interfering with my feelings even while he was dating this other girl. Both of our emotions were getting to us. We have managed to stay friends for these 5 years, but there happen to be moments where one or both of us have our old feelings for one another come flooding back to us. I got married almost three years ago and now things have gotten very awkward between us all of a sudden. We used to be able to hang out just the two of us and we'd be fine, but just recently there has been this awkward silence between the two of us when we hang out. After that last time we hung out together he has been avoiding me like the plague. We were supposed to hang out together a few times but he never showed up. The only time I have noticed that he is okay to be around me is when he is dating someone else. The thin about it is that I may be getting a divorce soon cause my husband cheated on me shortly after we got married. Apparently my husband never cared and my ex still does.
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Anonymous answered
How do I know if my ex still has feelings for me? He still hugs me.

I'm in the same situation. I still care about him and there is a part of me that still loves him too.

After we broke up he sent me a message saying he will still love me and still think about me, but when we are at school we act like we don't know each other and it hurts. I want to talk to him but I can't and it sucks I want us to be at least friends.
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Nick Shaw answered
I can relate to your situation. If you care about someone, and it doesn't work out, there is nothing wrong with still caring about them. People say I'm stupid for still loving my ex, but just because I love her doesn't mean she will ever get or even deserves my heart again. But there is nothing wrong with at least being friends, if you can.

I would call him up or e-mail him and ask him some questions. I would recommend e-mail if he has one, because for some reason people always seem to talk more freely through e-mail.

Anyway, good luck.
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lilian commented
thank you for the answer i feel really weird because i feel hes going to say something i dont want to hear but i still care a little but i just wonder if he does. Well thanks for everything and bye bye
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I think my ex still has feelngs for me, he hugs me and he always knows how to make me smile. He seeks for attention but I think being friends the only way things get better, but if you want to get back with your ex it's okay, but just think before you do it.
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I can totally relate. I may only be 14, but I went out with this boy, and we broke up about a year and a half ago. He's exactly the same. We were complete opposites, and now we don't ever look at each other.

I think that he thinks it's still awkward and he wants to leave it a little longer between you so that you can both have you own space and slowly become friends again. Maybe not best friends but at least friends.
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Well, mine broke up with me about a month ago. Since then he was texting me and still seeing me. I was thinking he was getting better and thinking about going back out with me again until he got back from his holiday and started seeing someone else.

He claimed that he didn't love me any more. It's just that we had a pretty strong relationship that lasted 18 months and in the end it only took him a month to move on after 'he'd been playing with words'.

What I really wonder now is that if he really loved me when we were in a relationship, because it didn't take him very long to get over me. It's even worse that I may have said something over Twitter and that caused him to have a go at me and say that he doesn't care, which I then calmly explained and that he said it would taken a long time to forgive.

The hardest part is watching him behave in the same way to her as he did with me - you don't feel special anymore. He acts like we didn't have anything together, but we did.
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Katherina Jim , how i get my ex back, answered

So many answers on this page miss the obvious: why don't you just sit down and talk to him about it? You were in a relationship together once, can't you at least have a truthful conversation anymore?

Just look into his eyes and ask him and you will know before he even says a word

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I can relate.... I and my boyfriend have been dating for four months,,,and I've broke up for a reason that I was not understanding according to him...he once in anger proposed his best friend whom i envied coz i felt she took my place....he promised he would tell her the truth but started falling for her for a silly reson that I didn't undrstand,,,,

How am I to understand wen he didn't tell this gsl the was very difficult for me take that he is now with someone else

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angie zhang answered
Don't think about it. Think about "Is he the best for me?", "Can i get someone better?" (don't think pessimistically). If he still likes you, he could probably stare at you still from a distance, and blush when his friends tease him about you !
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I guess you're afraid to find out the clear answer and that's why you haven't talked to him directly. Go talk to him and, if he's over you, you should get over it, too, or it will never go away.

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