Why Is My Boyfriend So Insensitive To My Feelings?

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Karen Henchen answered
Some people just don't know how to console another person. Maybe he genuinely doesn't know what to say, or how to help you. On the other hand, how serious is this relationship? Is it possible that he really doesn't care? Do you think that he really is in love with you? When someone is really in love, they find a way comfort you just by being with you. Even without knowing the right words to say, he should at least listen to what you have to say and just hold you. It worries me, for you, that this will be a problem you will always have with him. My boyfriend gets very defensive if I say anything bad about him or our relationship. But, when I have a problem with work or family, he is right there to help me through it. That is the way it should be. Just imagine 10 yrs down the road when you have a job a house and two kids to worry about. How will he deal with those everyday problems? What will happen when you are having money problems? Will he just shrug his shoulders and walk away from you, so you can deal with it all alone? You need to seriously think about how important this guy is to you. I don't think it will be possible to make him change this about himself. He may never change. Is that really what you want? Can you deal with a partner that doesn't help you emotionally?
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Anonymous answered
He is a male... Most of them are insensitive jerks :( find someone who really cares about your feelings and then try to stay with them. Thats proly your best bet.... Those guys don't come around very often
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Anonymous answered
Boys don't see things the way girls do.  If they did the world would be too perfect. Try putting him in your shoes, if he is having a problem with something be unhelpful.  If all else fails maybe you should rethink your relation ship with him, maybe it's just not worth it.
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Some guys are like that, they are insensitive to girls feelings. Many men suffer from this thing called selfishness. Girls think and feel different than boys do, I have dealt with it many times, Now I just ignore them all together, if he does not change you should really consider ending the relationship.
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If you feel he's insensitive to your feelings, you shouldn't be with him in the first place.
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Nick Shaw answered
Well my gf is kinda like that sometimes and we have been together for two and a half years. I think its what happens when you care about your gf's/bf's feelings and stuff more then they care about yours. I know that sounds really bad and it hurts but I think its cause my gf is 700 miles away right now. But she did do it sometimes when she was home to.

Lol so honestly I guess she's a bitch. Well at least that's what she wants people to think. She takes pride in it sometimes, so I guess it just carries over into our relationship. Maybe your boyfriend is just a dick? Or her could just have a problem with relating to other peoples feelings. You should have a serious talk with him. Nothing that would accuse or provoke him, just a calm and casual discussion. Anyway good luck!
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I have the same problem my boyfriend is also insensitive unfortunatly and I don't know what to do about it either I feel like I'm putting to much in to the relationshiip but if you start to nag at him and he doesnt seem to care thats what bother us girls the most its what hes not saying that we went to here I know when I yell its for a good reason yea at first I get mad but I think I jsut need someone to yell at and than I'm fine lately when he acts like he doesnt care I know he does but I jsut ignore it because why would you want to paly games with someone you love you either love eachother or you don't its a 2 way street . And if ones doing it all than somethings not right
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My boyfriend does that same thing... Always turns \around fights and then I end up getting realy upset and blame the fight on myself
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Marie Giannini answered
FIND A NEW BOYFRIEND.  DO NOT think you are ever going to change anyone, because chances are you won't.  Just move on.
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Sidney Beavis answered
If he is insensitive you should fix it. I suggest talking to him. Say something like "I'm really opening up to you and you don't even care" along those lines. Maybe he isn't used to opening up. If he is showing no interest at all I'd be worried. Tell him how you feel is what you need to do. Be straight forward with him.

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