Do you think we can honestly help whom we fall in love with?

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Kathryn Wright Profile
Kathryn Wright answered
But I just cant help falling in love with you...

To a point you can control who you fall in love with. For example, if you know that you fancy someone on first meeting them, but know that it is a relationship you should not pursue, you can make sure that you don't contact them and don't do anything that is likely to encourage any further interaction between you. However, sometimes it just happens. Maybe you have to spend time with them because of school classes, homework, or maybe you work with them. Love usually grows out of the initial admiration, but there are a lot of boxes that need to be ticked to fall fully in love with someone. Just because you admire somebody, maybe you admire how he/she looks, maybe his/her intelligence, maybe how the person cooks, and things like that, don't all simply add up to falling head over heels for someone.

Forbidden Fruit
But there are things to be considered depending on the situation. If you're falling in love with a person that has a relationship, no matter how long they've been together, if they're engaged, married or just living together you should start looking away and try to spend less time with this person, sometimes is hard if you have to work with him/her, specially if you are in constant communication with this person, but it is possible. The thing is, that no matter what, even if he/she says the relationship he/she is in now is going down and their getting divorced, you should step back. Never do to others what you wouldn't like others do to you.

Another good example of this is that some people who did not know they were homosexual, can suddenly realise that they are in love with their best friend. Often, we don't always choose the easy option, and in some strange way, love that is won and forged through arduous tasks and difficult times, seems to form a really strong bond between partners. The Shakespeare quote from a Midsummer Night's Dream phrase "The course of true love never did run smooth" explains pretty well, that falling in love is rarely simple or easy, or without its tribulations.
Chloe Brisco Profile
Chloe Brisco answered
Nope I believe we have about as much control over who we fall for as we do of our own future, you can't help who you fall for becauee if you could I believe life would be so much easier and no one would have to worry about forbidden love, un requited love and all the other ones that get people down, if you could choose who you fell for then you wouldn't have the hundreds of questons asking about what to do when your in love with your; best friend, cousin, a married man/woman or somone who is already in a relationship, if you choose who you fall for then I don't think it can be real becasue choosing who you fall for is trying to control love and you can end up tricking yourself, convincing yourself you love someone when you very possibly don't.
catherine adams Profile
catherine adams answered
Yes, of course, love is a two-way process and its wonderful and it hurts at times too, it goes with the territory.

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