The Boy I Like Isn't Talking To Me After I Told Him I Liked Him! What Should I Do?


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Pippa Corbett Profile
Pippa Corbett answered
If a guy starts ignoring you simply because you told him you liked him, the chances are that he's a little bit immature.

He's obviously struggling to deal with the attention you're giving him, and this could happen for a number of reasons.

I told him I like him, and now he's not talking to me!
Guys can be difficult to read, and if a guy suddenly stops talking to you - the whole thing gets really confusing.

Most guys are flattered and pleased to a hear that a girl likes them, so there's obviously something that's making your friend a little bit uncomfortable.

Why is he ignoring me?

So you've told him you like him, and all of a sudden he's laying on the 'silent treatment'.
Well, here are a few thoughts that might be going through his head:

  • "Wow, she likes me - but I don't like her back. This is really awkward!"
  • "Oh my God! She likes me too! I just wish I could tell her how I feel... But I'm too nervous."
  • "I'm not sure how I feel about what she's just told me - I need time to figure things out."
  • "I already like someone else - but this has left me really confused. I don't know what to do anymore."
With all these different potential scenarios playing in his head, you can see why your friend might be feeling confused.

Give him some time to think things through, and then try talking. You'll only ever find out how he feels once you've asked him directly.
Dipa Suresh Profile
Dipa Suresh answered
Believe me, almost everyone who has ever been friends with a person of the opposite sex has had the same (or a similar) experience.

Sometimes, what happens is that one person feels more than a passing liking for the other person, while the other person may remain completely unaware of this, and pursue someone else!

Your friend may have been in such a situation: He may like you as a friend and a friend only, and not as anything further, and he may already have fixated on another girl.

Therefore, when you told him that you like him, he may have been shocked and at a loss for words, and that may be the reason why he is avoiding you.

If you are ready to carry on a platonic friendship with the boy, then you can approach him and convey the message, and you both can still remain friends.

However, if you feel that this is not possible, then move on, get involved in other activities, and meet more new people. You may find someone you like better than this guy.
Mark Westbrook Profile
Mark Westbrook answered
Oh dear, I understand where you're coming from, these things don't get any easier the older you get!

But let's sort the wheat from the chaff: He may be shy, he may be embarrassed, he may be not interested, but the silent treatment on his part is just darn annoying for you and you know what?
You don't deserve it!

The only way to resolve this, is for you to step up to the plate. Either he's too shy or he's not interested, but you definitely deserve an answer!

There's a couple of ways about this: You could leave a short note in his locker or desk (or wherever notes are left in your world), or you could text him or email him if you do that type of thing.

Make the message short and sweet, something like:
(names changed to protect the innocent!)

Hi Adam,

I told you I liked you the other day because I would like to get to know you better.
If you would like to get to know me better too, please send me a note back.
If you don't, I'll understand, and I hope we can still be friends.


Anna Marie

If he doesn't write back, at least you'll know how he feels!
Either way, don't worry, life is long and you'll soon be fighting the boys off with a stick!
thanked the writer.
Anna Marie
Anna Marie commented
Just to let u know that he does like me and everything and that he gets a little shy around me and does not talk to me that mcuh but he does to everyone else. we both go on runescape and that is how i contact him and he talks to me a lot on that. I am just glad that he talks to me on runescape! and i asked him one day one runescape if he liked me and he said yes! then he asked me right after he said yes and i said yes of course!
angelina kalashnikova Profile
I've got to say, I've been in the same situation as you. The guy's probably so shy and DOES like you, but just isn't ready to tell you.

If you really like him either you or one of your friends needs to get it out of him and then make your move
james wilson Profile
james wilson answered
That's just a situation among many, been there done that, just talk on a friendly level or go to him and let him know that you are willing to be just friends.

Let that situation work itself out. Trust me - it will go where it is supposed to. Just be happy and don't expect anything.
Britney Harris Profile
Britney Harris answered
Honestly, he probably just likes you back and is afraid.
Or, if you are friends already, maybe he doesn't want to ruin that friendship. I think you should speak to him.
marina lewis Profile
marina lewis answered
It may be that he is shy. Or maybe he doesn't feel the same way as you do. Were you friends before this?

Speak to him and tell him you didn't mean to make him feel bad - although what is wrong in liking someone anyway?
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I think he probably likes you and is just too shy to let you know how he feels. You should still be friends with him, and in time he might come to like you (if he doesn't already).
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Ever heard the saying that 'guys and girls can't be best friends without one having feelings for the other?'

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