What Should You Do If Your Fiance Cheats On You With Three Other Guys?

Under ordinary circumstances, I would tell you to call it off, but, let's face it, your circumstances are by no means ordinary.  Canada and Asia are very far apart.  I could use a little more information, like how often do you get to see each other?  Long distances can put a strain on any relationship.  The two of you need to have a serious heart to heart.  If she really wants to marry you, she'd better grow up.  Marriage is about fidelity, and if she can't be faithful to you, there's little or no point in getting married.

That's entirely up to you. Do you believe she is sorry? Even if you do, do you want to stay with someone who cheats on you? Some people do. Make up your mind now before you get married

There is an old sayiing, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder.....for  someone else".  It is hard to keep a relationship going without having regular contact.  But it has been done.  It requires the commitment of two mature people. Your fiancee may not be ready to settle down.  I would say cut her some slack and be understanding.  However the fact that she cheated with three guys is very disturbing.  I question her basic morals.  Is this the person that you would want to be the mother of your children?  What would your mother say if she knew your fiancee had this sort of character?  There are many girls that would like to be your fiancee and would honor you and the commitment that is required of a fiancee.  You can have feelings for a girl like this but don't let that cloud your judgement.

Robbier44 is right about the difficulty of a long distance relationship and also about the need for fidelity.  I find it very disturbing that she cheated on you with three men.  Is this the woman you want to be the mother of your children?  What would  your mother have to say about her lack of of morals?  You can have feelings for a person like this but you should think long and hard before you make her your wife.

If it were only once, with one guy, I would say have a long discussion. I'm sorry. Three different guys? That's a little much. Obviously, she cannot handle being without companionship. If you did forgive and forget, what will happen the next time you can't be with other because of time and distance? I am a woman, and even I think your just being way too kind.

Three guys is 3 guys too many for me . But you have to consider all the ramifications and what drove her to cheating. I am lacking in these facts so the best advice I can give you is leave her ,because she is not faithful. It does not matter where one is and how far away you are as to how many morals you uphold and it does not seem to me like she has many.

Looks like she has a pattern for having relationships with more than one guy.  I don't believe she is mature enough for  just a relationship with one man.  It would be better you found this out now than after you got married.

If she is cheating on you with three other guys, than she doesn't treat your engagement very seriously. It doesn't matter if you are in different countries - She is engaged to YOU!! Of course she is sorry, but probably only because she got caught. If you hadn't found out about it, would she have told you? And if she is the one who told you, well chances are that she cheated with more than three men.
If she was honest, she wouldn't have cheated in the first place. For a long distance relationship, there is this thing called, and excuse me, masturbation.
In my honest opinion, I would call it off if I were you. Find someone that will take your love seriously. If YOU didn't cheat on HER during the time you are apart, than she should be able to do the same.
Engagement doesn't mean, "I'm thinking of you, but I'm with other people." It means, "I am thinking of you, only you, and can't even look at other people."
Hope this helps.

I don't want to come off as super angry my friend, but I have to be honest. I think you are a wonderful person to know, and you sure do deserve better than someone who is going to hurt you like this.
A relationship is supposed to be mutual and honest. It can't be mutual if her physical needs are so desperate that she feels the need to cheat, then the honesty and faithfulness are wasted.
Really defender, you should get rid of her, and find that one fish out there in the sea that is going to be who you deserve, and who will make you happy. You really do deserve that. I am here if you want to talk too. Love Tigg

So sorry to hear about this.But from past experiences, once a cheater always a cheater. And it is hard to ever trust again. The trust is never really there. The dought is always in the back ground. I will keep you in my prayers. Again so sorry you have to go through this.You deserve better then that.

Three other men!!!  Um, do you really want her to be the mother of your children???  I'm sorry if you do not like this answer but you have to dump her.  But that's just what I think, you ultimately will do what you want.  And how do you know that she won't cheat when you are married???  And living on two different continents is no excuse for cheating three different times.  Hope this all works out for the best!!!

If she is your fiance and loves you enough to marry you her lust for anothers touch shouldn't be broken. She is not done she will cheat again. Break ties now before she is married to you and you attempt to start a life with her. Find a real woman that loves you and you are enough for them not having them still crave others. It will never work. Good luck.

Three other guys? The woman's a tramp. Dump her, cut off her allowance, and get yourself checked out by a good doctor.

Ide get rid of her mate if she has done that she ain't worth it at all there are loads more girls out there 3 guys there is no excuse of doing it by accident what she do trip and land on him when she does it once she will again 3 times sod getting back she will do it again

Well, thank you all for your honest advices. I really appreciate them. Being a christian, I have the tendency to forgive and forget. People tell me all the time that for me to forgive my ex-fiance is stupidity not forgiveness, but I can't help it. It's not that I don't care, but because I loved her so much I was willing to over look her offenses like what Christ has done for me (I'm no where close to what he's done for me..). And because I love her, it is in my best interest to relieve her of any obligations due to me and she deserves to be loved by someone who can be there for her all the time. And no, I've not cheated on her.

thanks everyone for your advices, prayers, and concerns. I do feel like blurtit is my home! :))

Cry.... And then decide if it is worth putting yourself through that same pain every time you look into her eyes and think about what she has done.  Seriously because you may be able to forgive but you'll never forget.

I say that you need to talk to your fiance and find out if you truly love each other is your relationship a game to them. Tell them that if they refuse to stop cheating you'll "break up" with them and if they don't stop do it.

You need to move on to finding someone who loves you enough to be faithful. I caught my husband cheating on me 9 years ago, and I tried the "Forgive & Forget" route. It doesn't work. Even if you can find it in your heart to forgive, you will NEVER forget. I stayed with my husband for 10 more months and looking back, I wished a 1000 times I had tossed everything he owned out into the street that very night. But I know, it's easier said than done, and it's easier to give advice to someone who is not where you are. But I can tell you - you don't want to find yourself married to someone you can't trust. Someone who you have to wonder where they are every minute, wonder who's calling her cell phone so late, who's she dressing up for, etc. It is pure torture and nothing but stress. I hope I've been more help than harm....whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck.

Honestly you should leave him he is not worth the pain