I'm In Love With My Best Friend, But He Doesn't Feel The Same Way. How Can I Get Over Him?

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Lucy Burroughs Profile
Lucy Burroughs answered
You're not going to want to hear this, but the best way of getting over your crush is to distance yourself from him.

This is going to be particularly difficult if you're best friends, but it's not impossible. You can still spend just as much time together, but you need to stop seeing him in a romantic way.

Here are a few tips on getting over him without ruining your friendship:
  • Try to think with your head instead of your heart. Be realistic; if you dated and broke up, you'd lose him as a friend. Would it really be worth the risk, even if he felt the same way?
  • Spend time together as if nothing's wrong, but cut out any behavior that could be considered flirting. For example, if you're watching TV together, don't sit too close or lean against him.
  • Respect his decision. If he doesn't like you romantically, you'll only push him away if you try to change his mind. Just be happy with his friendship.
  • Spend time with other friends, too. You might even meet someone else this way.
  • A close friendship is something to be treasured. Remember that, and appreciate him for it. Whenever you catch yourself thinking about him romantically, quickly start thinking about something else. Romantic feelings often get stronger and harder to shake the more you think about them.
MJ Lee Profile
MJ Lee answered
Well, I know you don't want to continue thinking about him, but like you said, he is your best friend. Just because he doesn't like you more then a friend doesn't mean you have to completely block him out of your life. Continue being friends, best friends. And eventually, he will probably come around.

I understand exactly how you feel. When you're with him try to think less about loving him and more about being his best friend like you thought about when you first meet him. If you don't want to try this strategy, you could always try to spend time away from him. Try to hang out with different friends that won't bring him up a lot. Do things that you like strongly, the more you feel connected to the activity, the less your mind will be on him.

If you truly love him, just wait for him. If you don't want to then try those two approaches. Whichever you choose will probably work. But remember, you said he was your best friend, and best friends aren't the kind of people you can just forget about and pretend they're not there.

It's important to keep a strong relationship with him because he might actually like you but just doesn't feel ready to tell you. I wouldn't try to block him out. Just try to reconnect.
west side Profile
west side answered
For one, you can go guy shopping or get a boyfriend, maybe even go out with bunch of friends. You can start ignoring him and talk to him less.
Janey Profile
Janey answered
Try and move on with your life.Hang out with your friends and rely on them for love and support.Spend more time on your hobbies and try to go out and meet new people.

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