Oscar De La Huerte answered
To overcome romantic feelings for your boss, I'd suggest trying to keep as much distance between yourselves as possible.
Whilst it may be difficult for you to control your feelings, you can control how much time you spend around your boss.
If things get too intense, you may want to consider looking for alternative employment.
In love with my boss- what to do?
Although workplace relationships are fairly common, they have a habit of not turning out quite the way people plan. Mixing love with work means you're running the risk of turning your work environment into an awkward and difficult place to get work done. It sounds to me like that's what has already happened in your case.
If you've already been in a relationship with your boss before his marriage, then at least both of you should be aware of the problem and will be able to tackle the issue together.
Ironically, I think that working together is the only effective way to find a solution to this problem.
Avoiding a boss that you still have feelings for
Working in the same place means you are inevitably going to have to spend time together, so coming up with a solution will probably require you guys to sit down and discuss things openly.
Keeping your feelings to yourself will allow them to bubble up and eat away at you, so let him know how you're feeling, tell him that your respect his marriage and his decision to move on, and that you are going to try doing the same.
Once you've got everything out in the open, I'd suggest exploring different ways to 'move on'. Fill up your spare time with activities and objectives, and perhaps consider getting romantically involved with other men to keep your mind off your boss.
Whilst it may be difficult for you to control your feelings, you can control how much time you spend around your boss.
If things get too intense, you may want to consider looking for alternative employment.
In love with my boss- what to do?
Although workplace relationships are fairly common, they have a habit of not turning out quite the way people plan. Mixing love with work means you're running the risk of turning your work environment into an awkward and difficult place to get work done. It sounds to me like that's what has already happened in your case.
If you've already been in a relationship with your boss before his marriage, then at least both of you should be aware of the problem and will be able to tackle the issue together.
Ironically, I think that working together is the only effective way to find a solution to this problem.
Avoiding a boss that you still have feelings for
Working in the same place means you are inevitably going to have to spend time together, so coming up with a solution will probably require you guys to sit down and discuss things openly.
Keeping your feelings to yourself will allow them to bubble up and eat away at you, so let him know how you're feeling, tell him that your respect his marriage and his decision to move on, and that you are going to try doing the same.
Once you've got everything out in the open, I'd suggest exploring different ways to 'move on'. Fill up your spare time with activities and objectives, and perhaps consider getting romantically involved with other men to keep your mind off your boss.
