I Have A Boyfriend That I Love, But I Have Strong Feelings For My Best Guy Friend.

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He feels that he needs to end the friendship because you have a boyfriend. He is NOT making a move on you and he doesn't want to ruin what he percieves as your happiness. This is the real thing angel, he is being selfless, THAT IS RARE. You need to evaluate your feelings and the realities of both relationships. You need to see clearly where you and your BF are headed, and if you WANT to go there. I don't envy the decision that you will have to make. Keep in mind that you will regret not knowing what could've been, if he walks away. Take time away from both of them and really do a deep self examination to show yourself which way you need to go. Good Luck!!
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thanks missytay, the problem is that just last week we hung out and we made out, since that day we both have been confused on what to do. few days after that he told me that he had those strong feelings that he feels is love, and now in order to get over me he wants to end it, although he has told me that deep down inside he doesnt want to but feels is the best thing for both of us.
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I have the same problem.
I have been with my boyfriend for  2 years now.
I have known my guy friend for 4 years. I have dated my guy friend before.. But we broke up. 2 years ago and I have had feelings for him ever since.
Now I am dating my boyfriend and everything has been going smoothly until I started texting my guy friend a lot.. And until my guy friend broke up with his girlfriend..
My boyfriend and I have been fighting quite a bit and my guy friend seems to know me sooo much better and I can relate and just be myself around him.
It's hard, I know.
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Karen Henchen answered
You should make a list of the pros and cons in both relationships. You really need to figure out who is best for you. But before you end one or the other relationship you need to be sure. Once you decide, there probably wont be any turning back. If you do pick your boyfriend, then you do need to cut ties with the friend, because those feeling don't just go away. This is a very hard situation you are in. You are at a crossroads, and only you know which way to go. Search your heart, you with find your answer there.
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I have the same problem, my best friend of over a year has told me recently he loved me. I currently have a boyfriend of 1 year and we went through a massive rough patch just before my best friend told me his feelings, unfortunately we kissed and he left to go back to uni. Trying to decided what to do, whether to stay with my boyfriend who I do love or take a chance on my best friend who I couldn't live without. I chose my boyfriend as we've been through good times and bad times and he's still always been there for me, then worst came to worst and my best friend is back at uni and has just told me he has a new girlfriend and he is sorry for all the trouble he caused and has to move on. This has now destroyed our friendship. So choose wisely because you know in the end its too difficult to have both in your life. I really hope I'm not too late.
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arsenio barker answered
Yes, there is. You need to tell your boyfriend how you feel. And also need to tell your guy friend how you feel also. Then after that you would know what to do after that. But if your guy friend really loves you. He shouldn't want to tell you goodbye. He should understand where your coming from. He knew you had a boyfriend before hand, so he shouldn't be acting like that.
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natalie cruz
natalie cruz commented
No let me make myself clear.. He has steped back a lot like you do not understand he respects my relationship.. He told me with all due respect how he feels about me.. He said IN THE FUTURE who know what will happen.. And i told him how i felt... So its like we both know that we like eachother.. But we are like ignoring the fact.. Right now... But i dont know why but im thinking about him
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I feel like I am going crazy bc I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and loved my best guy friend since 7th grade and I am almost 25. This guy is always on my mind and I am not even sure if he cares about me like that at all. He is also one of my best friends which is making it really hard to cut the ties. I know that is the right thing, but something won't let me let him go. I feel so horrible and guilty and bad about myself. I don't know what to do.
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emma robinson answered
I'm suck in the same position too, but these people are right and we have to chose who we love the most, but  also can we see ourselves with 'him' and you have to make sure he is right, the good point is firth that he is your friend, so that's a good start to a relation ship, but can you stand certain things he does? If you can then its not going to last long :)
I don't want to leave my boyfriend encase my friend isn't as good as a boyfriend.
You're not alone honey so keep cool ^^
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I Know Egsacly How You Feal But My Boyfriend Happens To Be Best Friends Wiith The Guy I'm In Love With , Just If You Feal Bad When Your With Your Boyfriend And your tHinking Of The Other Guy , You Honestly Want To Be With The Other Guy More & don't Just Stay With Your Boy Friend Because You Feal You Have To But don't Just Go With The Other Guy Because You don't Want To Loose His Friendship.

Me & The Guy I'm In Love With Are Best Friends And Thought To Keep It That Way  & We Just Informed By Boyfriend We Were Extremally Close To Hide Eny Weird Behaviour.

But JUst Think For a Moment Close Your Eyes & Think Of Them Both Who Comes Into Your Head First ? You Should Be With Him RightNow Shouldnt You ?
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natalie cruz
natalie cruz commented
Yeah your right.. But i dont want to brake up with my boyfriend i cant do it!! Not now!! But the other guy is constantly in my head..
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Depends..maybe you like your guy friend because your starting to pull away from you bf. You might be seeing things in your friend that you want in your boyfriend. I always heard being good friends first leads to great relationships. It also depends on how this guy friend is to you, and if youre really good friends with him youll know the answer. You should know both of them pretty well to tell who is more right for you.

I really like my good friend who has a boyfriend and I really want to tell her but I'm too scared. I wish I knew if she felt the same.
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I'm in the same predicament.  Although, it just happens that my best guy friend is going out with my BFF.  We hang out at my house, but we are both still in love with our others.  Thing is though, that he doesnt like me as more than friends.  So we don't sneak around our others.  We tell them every time we hang out.  Which is nearly every day.  I just came clean with the three of them.
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No its not wrong at all. If that guy friend is really a good friend of yours you should tell him about your real true love and make sure that you tell your guy friend that you and him could still be friends. (and still be friends) and you said you like your guy friend as well but look closer into both of then and see who your real true love is. And you can look closer by just seeing the way the guys act to you, doing simpe things like asking them to the movies and if one of then has something really important but for you he will change all his plans just for you. Any way look inside them and see who is your real true love. :)
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I might be a bit late to be answering this but... I have sorta like the same problem ...I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and he proposed last saturday and my biggest error was to say yes... However I tell my boyfriend that I love him or how we say it in spanish here in Puerto Rico "TE AMO" But I'm completely and Inconditinly in love whith him...  He means the world to me and I never want to let him go. And now its getting worse because now he even throws hints at me that he loves me thoug he can't ever find out that I love him because I'm going to marry me Boyfriend (and it sucks)... So yeah... Don't let him go... You will regrt it ... Believe me ... We both know!

Much love Didy !
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natalie cruz
natalie cruz commented
Thanks and I'm trying not to let him go but the temptatation of my boyfriend being so far and my friend being just around the corner.. Its really hard
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I have an amazing boyfriend. My family loves him, but I don't know about my feelings for him. He is so nice, and generous... But having a gentleman sometimes makes me upset. Hes too nice and generous for me. His jokes sometimes hurt.... I have an amazing best friend who I hang out with everyday, and talk on the phone with recently every night.... I will sometimes switch who I am on the phone with. I can see myself with my boyfriend, and can see him being a good father, but I am still young. He will be working a lot soon. My best friend I can see us together, I just don't know if I could see us in a serious relationship... Or with kids, but I feel like that could change. When I first became his friend, he had this girlfriend and I liked them being together but recently they broke up because he had a crush on someone else... (not me).... I told him me and my boyfriend were having trouble and he told me to take a break away from him for a while immediately.

Someone please help with my decision.....
Break up with boyfriend and stay single for a while to see if my best friend likes me? Or
Stay with my boyfriend?
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No its natural
Me an my bf been dating for five years and I have a crush on my best friend but he doesnt know it I want to tell him but I'm really shy and I don't want to make our friendship seem strange I would like to know if he likes me to but I'm not for sure but don't take things to serious with you and your guy friend because you will ruin a friendship and relationship
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natalie cruz answered
I have a boyfriend and he is a wonderful guy.. But we are on a long distance relationship.. We have been going out for about 2 years.. So I've known him for about 3 years... I love him.. But there is this other guy that I see every other day.. I have known him for 6 years we basically grew up together.. Just recently he told me what he feels and I told him everything that I feel. He Isn't going out with me right now because my brother is his best friend and he thinks it would be awkard to come to my house to see me and not my brother.. So we both have decided that for now we will be friends..  I don't know why but I think of my "friend" everyday.. He is with some other girl at the moment and I am with my guy. I feel that its not fair to my boyfriend.. Plz tell me what I should do..

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