I Like My Best Friend's Brother. What Do I Do?

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Joe Gilbert answered
Having any romantic notions about your best friend’s brother can be tricky.  There are many variables to consider and every situation is different.  If you have a good relationship with your best friend’s family and everything is up front and honest, the ages are appropriate and there are no legal issues there should no problems right?  There are the brother’s feelings to consider here also.  Then there is also the question of your gender.  Gay and lesbian relationships can cause huge family rifts and it may not accepted immediately so trod lightly.  Interracial friendships are no longer snubbed the way they once where but interracial relationships are still frowned upon by a large number of people in our society. 

Gay and lesbian relationships have carried stigmas in societies around the world for centuries.  In American culture they are becoming more widely accepted making it easier for those who lead these lifestyles to function freely without dual lives that where common in the past. 

Racial and cultural differences are still stigmatized in the US and in other areas.  Being in an interracial relationship can cause estrangement from family and friends and an isolation of sorts.  This is something you must be prepared to face going into it.  These differences can be cause for concern.  Some cultures have very strict beliefs about marrying outside of their culture. 

Regardless you still have to consider the feelings of your best friend (and their parents if you are underage) before even considering the brothers.  Do your best friend and their brother get along well enough to accommodate you dating?  What will happen if the relationship goes sour and doesn’t end amicably?  These are all things that you must consider and think all the way through before even thinking about how the brother may feel. 

By no means would I suggest you bypass your own happiness for the feelings of others, just consider your actions before you make the choice to act on any feelings you may have. 
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Anonymous answered
I have the same problem. TELL YOUR FRIEND. Do it slowly, see how she reacts. If she's a good friend she'll be fine with it and maybe even help you hint to her brother that you like him. Try to go over to her house and do things he likes to do so that he will join in. Then start talking about stuff. Ask him what he likes to do, what classes he's good at, etc. Say things like, "that's so cool!" when he answers, but don't go overboard. And get your friend to help with the hinting thing.
Best of luck!
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Anonymous answered
Hi,
I like my best friends brother also. I told my bestfriend ..and she was a bit akwarded out. Lol. K well shes fine to . She's you're best friend. She will Understand. It's not like you can't stop liking him. Do whatever you're heart tells you to! Tell you're best friend. If you want .. You can tell her to tell him. Trust me.. You will regret not doing this.
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Anonymous commented
Thats a really good opinion!
Jess Taylor
Jess Taylor commented
Hello,
I think I should share some idea to you. If you like your best friend's brother, it is good because you can stay close to your friend than ever. Then when you have chance you should show him about your feeling. Just try... and if he rejects give up then find another one. This what you need to do. Might be he is not good enough for you or he is not the right one for you yet. Anyway, try your best to get his strong heart to be your.
Good luck.
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Anonymous commented
I have the same problem. My best friend knows that I like her brother and that her brother likes me back. Me and her brother flirt a lot when I go over to her house and we might have kissed lol. She was there when it happened and she didn't care but now she cares if I have a "thing" with him. My mom is also a problem. She found out what we did and now she won't let me go over to to my friends house without supervision. I used to go over to my friends house with supervision all the time until that night. I really like him as can't get over him. If I date him than I can't go over to my friends house anymore. What do I do? I need some help :(
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Anonymous answered
Don't do it.
My best friend likes my closest brother.
And sometimes I feel like she comes over for him.
Like when she spends the night.
Shes with him.
And she really doesnt understand how much it hurts me.
And shes in love with him.
And hes in love with her.
And its so hard on me.
They just don't understand.
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Someone Somewhere
I completely understand. Have you mentioned this to your best friend? If you haven't, you should. But you should also try to understand your friends point of view. You've probably had a crush before and if they liked you back wouldn't you want to spend as much time with them as possible? I'm not excusing your friend from ignoring you, however. But at least try to let her spend SOME time with your brother. Or maybe you, her, and your brother can hang out together.
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Anonymous answered
Try being his friend first, see if there is chemistry between the two of you, see if you have similar interests, and if you enjoy each others company.
Do however not exclude your friend.
Tell her that you like him and you would like to be friends with him. Also tell her that you will respect her decision if she doesnt want you to get involved with him.
If you guys do become friends, do not make your best friend feel left out or like a third wheel.
Ask her opinion.
These situations can become tricky as both parties could feel rejected by you if you don't spend equal amounts of time with them.
But also, it can be a very pleasant experience.
Be sure not to "become another person" when you do go out with this guy - be true to yourself and don't pretend to be someone you're not, your friend might not like the "new" you.
Good luck.
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Anonymous answered
I like my best friend brother.he is so cute and friendly.but he is like 4 years older than me.I went  to my friends house this weekend and me and her brother sat together and played around.I even fell asleep on his shoulder.does he like me?or is he sending me false emotions.
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Anonymous commented
This was so helpful thanks
Nikki Ainsworth
Nikki Ainsworth commented
Me and my friend have been inseparable since kindergarden. Ever since around 6th grade i have had the biggest crush on her older brother who is 5 years older. Of course, i have always believed that a relationship like that was forbidden, but i guess i was wrong. He finally started showing some attention and interest in me. One night, we held hands under the covers at my friends birthday sleepover. A lot of older boys might just want a hit it and quit it.
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Anonymous answered
My best friend knows I like her brother and she is also ok with it. She knows I liked her first and I like her better and that she is my BEST friend. Plus she suspected all along lol. But I don't think she knows how much I like him. He is only a little over a year older than me and he truly is the most amazing guy I know. And I know he likes me as a friend because he is nice to me and we all three hang out all the time. But I don't know what to do about it. I want to know if he likes me but I don't want him to know I like him because everyone and everything living LOVES him (not an exaggeration) so naturally he has had annoying girls all over him before and I don't want to be one of them. HELP please
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Anonymous answered
Well I have the same problem I like my friends older brother and he is 3 years older than me and like I can only see his face in my head I can't stop thinking about him...I need help I really want to go out with him....but tell your friend...when I told my best friend that I had a crush on her big brother she laughed and syd  ok but she doesnt like taking about it and she trying to tell me things that are kinda embarrassing for him to try to make me not like him anymore :( I think you should go for it mabye he likes you and maby you 2 can have a future but if he doesnt there is plenty of hotter and cuter boys out there....and don't be scared of being rejected if he rejects you it is his loss and he just lost a really sweet thoughtful girl.
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I have this problem too. I'm 15 and so my friend and her brother. There twins so their really close and I've grown up with the two of them since I was about 1 years old. I've always loved spending time with both of them but lately ive grown to love him, we even talk about marraige, jobs and kids, basically just what we want to do in the future. I'm not certian but I'm pretty sure that he likes me too. Problem is his sister tends to be very two faced, ive always been a good friend to her but on many occassions she hasn't done the same for me. So now rather than being best freinds were kind of just friends and not as close, yet her brother and myself share several class and are always chatting and laughing. What should I do? I know no other guy in the school like him and I truely beleive that, if his sister and our families won't intervine, we would be great together. I need some advice, please help.
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Lauren Espinal answered
I have a crush on my BFF's older brother. He's so hot. I told my bestfriend and she shunned me for almost two and a half months. Don't tell your friend she will flip on you. But everything worked out between me and her and now I'm dating her brother Gabe. We've been dating for a steady 6 1/2 months. Do what you think is right and follow your heart
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Hey I'm back again to say what happened.I asked my friend if she would be ok with it and she said yes.I talked to him and now where talking but we havent got any where yet.so he wasent sending me false emotions.but to all you girls out there who are scared of getting hurt don't worry because I was scared to but everything worked out good luck to all of you.
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Anonymous commented
This really helped. It shows theres hope. I like my best friends brother. She knows and shes ok with it. Everyones been telling me to tell him before i lose him. And ive been debating whether i should or not. I think you helped me see that what ever happens happens and to always be positive because youy never know. Thanks you sooo much =) now i cant wait until i get the chance to tell him.
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kimber greer answered
I like my friends bro2! It turns out he liked me2!(: So later  that night he asked me out!? I told my friend I liked her bro and that he asked me out then I asked her what I should do/say and she said its kinda weird 4me but do what yur heart says to do! So I told him yes I would love to be his girlfriend!! And now we have been dating for 2months!!! Hes 15 and I'm 13!! I love him to death!!!
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Anonymous answered
I'm in the same situation...I totally like my friends's brother since the beginning of the year when he tried to talk to me and get to me and maybe get with me but at that time I didnt like him and I was dumb enough to push him far away...and now he doesnt like me and I totally do and I can't get over him:( and me and my friend knew each other but wasnt that much of friend's until this new school year ..now were like best friends...but I'm afraid to tell her how I feel about her brother...because she's trying so hard to get me to be with this guy I don't like and I have to pretend to just please her...:( I'm afraid of what she'll think and especially if she thinks that I was just trying to be friend's with her to get to her brother..:( maybe the best is to tell her ..that's my advice...things could end up good or bad but take a change...you never know how things can turn out..:) and trust me I havent have a boyfriend since like the 3 grade and I afraid of rejection too but if you friend's boyfriend rejects you then its his lost not yours because he's going to miss out probably on a great person he could of been with..:) and if your friend doesnt support you then she wants a good friend after all ...
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Anonymous answered
I don't know if you should go for it because it depends on what type of guy he is. If he is hard to get and rejects girls even though he never dates, then it might be harder. If he is desperate, he unfortunately might just date what ever comes his way. I hope it works out for you because I am in the same situation. My BFF's older brother is amazingly cute, smart, and nice, and everything a girl could want. But recently he turned a naturally pretty girl(who wears no make up) down. And she, I thought, was gorgeous. So I have liked this guy for about 2 years and I haven't acted on my thoughts at all!!!!! I go on vacation with them every year and he talks to me a bit. And then this last time, we were watching a movie on the way home and I was bold enough to rest my leg against his(the whole last hour!!). Now everytime he sees me in the hallway, he always says hi to me and smiles at me. Being nice or curtious????- guys are ridiculously difficult to figure out!!!
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The first time I went to my best friend sarahs house her brother Johnny was there. He is 15 and I'm 13. But one night we played truth or dare and Sarah dared Johnny to kiss me. We played the game for 5 hours until 4:30am. I got his number the next day and it turned out I would spend the whole spring break with them. So I slept over for a week. Then a couple of days after I left he asked me out and he was my first kiss btw. But I said yes to him so I wept Sarah a really long letter telling her how sorry I was and that I hope she wouldn't be mad at me and she wasn't mad she was just weirded put by it. She let me have sleepovers until my parents found out. My dad hates it when people don't tell him things so I was in slot of trouble.. 5 months later after spring break I got to see him again. We both realized the feelings go eachother never went away and I convinced my mom to let me sleepover with Sarah (and Johnny) and she thought she could trust me and I thought she would never fond out but in the middle of the might me an Johnny made a plan so I went in his room and I slept there with him but we woke up and I went back to sarahs room before she woke up so I thought she wouldn't find out either. Me and Johnny did NOT do anything bad we just fell asleep together but days later I told my other friend about it and she told Sarah and my dad can read msgs on my phone and Sarah said "y did you sleep with Johnny!!" and then my dad found out.... I have a lot of new rules around the house and the phone. I can't even go to school football games without my da being there and o have to keep my door open at all times unless I'm changing, I can't text johnny, and I have to give my phone to him at 9pm every night and I can't use the computer after 9 either.. I have never felt the way I do about Johnny with anybody else. I'm not saying it's love but it is something special to both of us.
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Anonymous answered
I have also been in this situation, I went round to my friends house and we were sat on her trampoline talking about guys and she asked who I liked atm so I admitted it to her there and then she thought it was sweet and was totally fine with it. We are just friends atm but its nice to just be his friend! I havent told him yet how I really feel as I don't want to ruin it but I love them pair so much! But I wouldnt be able to cope in having 1 but not the other... :( any advice?
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Anonymous answered
Tell your best friend that her like her brother. If he likes you that would be great, but think about how much your best friend means to you. If you and her brother get involved at all and something goes wrong, that could cause problems with you and your best friend.
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Hope Clen
Hope Clen commented
Thanks! I like my best friends brother and I was going to tell her but now you made me re think tht
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Anonymous answered
Well tell your BF. I had a crush on my BF brother & she really didnt care, she actually tried ti hook me up with him. He was so cute I remember when I 1st laid my eyes on him. Love is crazy.
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Dear,
  be a optimist. There is no excuse in love. You should tell the boy about your love to him without any hesitation.
Be success in your love. God bless you.
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Nacia Arvaniti answered
I once used to like my best friend's brother, so I told her, and she had no problem with it. The only problem was that her bro didn't like me lol.
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Anonymous answered
My friend likes my brother and he is only a year younger than me. I hate it. But I don't know how to tell her that without starting world war 3. Everytime she brings him up we argue. But neither of us knows how he feels. But it hurts me. I don't want it to happen because truth is she dated my OTHER brother of the same age as the one now and it was a disaster. I don't want our friendship to be ruined like that again. Especially since we just fixed it and it is strong now. Or was until this happened again. It is putting me through so much and it hurts worse than I can explain to her. My advice is if you really truly care about your friend and your friendship you will just stay friends with him and not expect anything more. Talk to your friend about it. If she says she doesnt like it or no she doesnt want it to happen respect that she has her reasons and I swear she is only looking out for you and her and your friendship thats how I feel towards my best friend and I wish I could tell her that too but she doesnt understand. :(
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Anonymous answered
Hey I'm not answering this but maybe one of you
people can help me? So one day in the summer I was at my best friends place, and her brother, who had always loved me said, " hey, can you come upstairs I want to show you something really cool!" so I said ok, and I went upstairs, he took me by the hand and said we need to talk. So I said ok, he placed me on his bed, and started talking. He said ever since that first kiss (may 29, 2010) I have been thinking about you non stop, and I want to be with you, and blah blah blah. Anyways that day, he kissed me about 50 times, a couple of them were French kisses. Then when I was done, and went back downstairs, she said, well you two were up there for quite a while, in a tone of voice. So I said yeah that speaker system is soo cool, and I really like his turtle! Making it sound like we didn't kiss! Help because I think she knows but I'm not sure)
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Anonymous answered
Well, I found out my best friend liked my brother from her text messages.
I feel like she comes to my house for my brother.
And then one day she made out with my brother. And we arent as good of friends anymore.
Your friend might appreciate the honesty, but if you're not going to tell her first, then I don't recommend telling anyone.
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Anonymous answered
I have the same exact problem! But I Like both of her brothers!!!! One of them is like four years older than me so I'm thinking about going for the one thats younger. But he doesn't even have a clue that I like him. I don't see him that often, but when I do my heart skips a beat. When I close my eyes it's him when I daydream it's him. He has a disease like a brain tumor or something. So I don't know if I should get involved. But I am truly madly deeply in love with him. My best friend knows I like him but we don't really talk about it that much what should I do?
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Abbey Nelson answered
It was just yesterday when I really liked my best friends Brother... We went to a party and I saw her brother.. So me and my friend hung out with him and his friends. So my friend did understand. I told him I liked him and he started hanging out with me.... It was pretty werid but I really liked him, It doesnt matter what age it just matters if you like him or her and whats going on about that... :)
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Anonymous answered
Before, I liked my friend's brother too. I told my friend that I did. She was fine with it but she didn't like talking about it. But, she said if I wanted to go for him, I could and she would be happy about it. I'm explaining what happened to me. Everyone is different. If you decide to base your decision on my experince, let me warn you that things could go either worse or better. Good luck!
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Hope Clen answered
I have the same problem. I have liked my best friends twin brother since I saw him. In sixth grade I had this mega crush on him and every one knew! Now I am in ninth grade and yesterday at school he came up to my locker and started talking to me. Then this guy cam up and pushed me and my best friends brother beat him up for me!!! Then we walked out together. I like him a lot. I don't know what to do. I am going to not tell any one and I might let him make the first move if he does like me
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Anonymous answered
I'm going out with my best friends brother, and my best friend is totally okay with it, she even tried to hook me up with her brother (other brother.)
I say if you like him just explore the possibilities, but don't rush into anything.
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Anonymous answered
I have the same problem only I'm out of high school so I hang out with people of different ages. My friend (who is also my co-worker) is about 4 years older than me and her brother is older than me but he's her younger brother. Now I'm the oldest in my family so I know how an older sister can be protective so it makes me nervous when I think about telling her that I like him. Some days she jokes I'm too good for him and other days she hints at setting us up.
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Meganor X answered
This is not a answer but a question.basically I really like my best friends brother (lets call him Joe) but he is like 3 years older than me. I have recently started going round her (lets call her Martha) house A LOT and I have been on family trips with them loads, most times he does something really stupid and I laugh. It all started last summer when I was invited on holiday with their family. He came into my tent when my friend was Talking to her dad her brother was about to say something but she came in. Then today I tried to tell Martha how I feel about Joe but she is the kind of person who takes pretty much nothing seriously. So I was like I am stating to love. Martha then went me and I just had to say yes as it was her birthday and I had to choose the worst day to try to tell her. He keeps lime showing off whenever I am over hers they aren't that close either so if I went out with him it would be really Really Aquard.
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Madyson Sprague answered

I have the same thing going on but now my best friend lives in a different state with her dad and now it's just me and him. I really like him and he gives me mix felling one day were talking and then we sit real close. Then the next day he's talking about all his friends who are girls and I just sit there and listen( most of the time I am like shut up please). I am also 13 and he's 15 and we have a lot in common and we always talk. I need to know what to do should I tell him?

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Isn't really an answer but oh well. Here it is: I am in love with my best friends brother and have been for the last almost 8 years. I'm not sure if he likes me too, he always pokes me or tickles me when he sees me and I think we have a strong bond. Everyone says I flirt with him and so far I don't think the flirting disturbes my friend too much, I don't really realise I do it, it just feels natural. Since me and him becoming closer, my best friend, him and I have come closer as a three. No one knows how I feel, not even her. Sometimes he asks me whether I have a boyfriend or whether I've ever had a boyfriend, I'm not sure whether that's because he's interested or just conversation. He's not conventionally gorgeous, but he's beautiful to me, he isn't friends with many girls really, he isn't majorly popular, he has friends though. Neither of us (from what I can tell) have ever had a boyfriend or girlfriend. He is 16 I am 15. And I know some people will say "go for it and if he doesn't like you it isn't the end of the world" but it's different I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Over the summer when we became closer in the evenings we'd all be in the dining shelter (at camp) and we both would lie with our heads on the table faces almost touching, but I'm not sure if that was platonic or romantic. Once or twice he's said stuff like "my sisters best friend" but that might be trying to out us off the scent. Anyway I think my friend would probably be ok with it, but I don't want to tell him if he doesn't feel the same way. He isn't the same as most guys so his behaviours might mean different things. Sorry it's long, please help me!

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Anonymous answered

BE CAREFUL!!

My best friend and brother started dating about 6 months ago. At first I was happy for them, open minded, and supportive. Then they became joined at the hip and now I barely see either of them.. I've tried SO hard to accept it, but I can't help how I feel, which is that my best friend stole my brother and then abandoned me. I'm so lonely now that I have neither best friend or brother around much. I've made other great friends, but my friendship with my ex-best friend is OVER. And she won't last long with my brother if I don't like her, so she'll be out of my life soon!

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I have the same exact problem. Don't worry about it! Tell your friend carefully, and make sure they're in a good mood. I did the same and the results were great! She helped me find out if he liked me. Perhaps your friend will do the same, and even if she doesn't it's not like she can be mad. Do you and him hang out a lot? If you do why not watch what he does and says carefully. If you don't, try to get to know him a bit better and become his friend.

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Well tell your best friend and she will help you to make him love you because she should know every thing he likes and does
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Anonymous answered
Ive got the same problem, my friend knows I love him. I flirt with him all the time, but you shouldnt. She feels weird ans uncomfortable
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Anonymous answered
Love is free and you can tell the boy you love him.if I ,I would tell to him.be brave.
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Anonymous answered
I like my best friends brother and he almost kissed me and my best friend didnt care but if I were you I would give suttle signals that you like him then wait for him to take the right move.
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Nikki Ainsworth answered
Me and my friend have been inseparable since kindergarten.  Now that we are freshman in highschool, we are starting to get really serious about boys.  Ever since around 6th grade I have had the biggest crush on her older brother who is 5 years older.  Of course, I have always believed that a relationship like that was forbidden, but I guess I was wrong.  He finally started showing some attention and interest in me.  One night, we held hands under the covers at my friends birthday sleepover.  He kissed my neck when everyone left the room (except for us) to get ready for bed.  Then he texts me and it says stuff like meet me downstairs",  I didnt. Then  "my bedroom door is open if you change your mind", I didnt.  I kinda regret NOT going though.  But ever since then he has acted as though it has NEVER happened  I mean, I know that a lot of college boys just want to hit it and quit it, but I mean, I'm still trying to figure out what that night was about. I still can't even tell my other friends because I'm scared they would tell my best friend. And also I mean isn't 5 years apart pushing the limit? As in REALLY pushing the limit.
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I am in love with my two best friend's older brother (they are 2 sisters). We are a year apart, me & him, & I do not want anything with him now, I want him as a possibility for my future like to get married & stuff, so I just tell them I have crushes on 3 guys, but I don't tell them I like their brother, but he is taking me to prom...all I want now is to be his friend and for him to trust me & see me as a friend. The bad thing is that he is going away to college so I won't see him as much anymore. I clean his bathroom whenever I sleep over, & when his sister's tell me to sleep over I give an excuse & he says something to make me reconsider & sleep over, or if I say I don't have my contact case he'll say he has an extra one, small things like that...He is really cute, but I don't think he likes me in that way, just as a friend, and I don't want him to, at least not yet, I want him to have his fun & then be with him in the future like in a few years maybe when I'm 20 or so, (I will be 18 soon), he's 18 now, I just don't want to lose him though... What should I do?
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Anonymous answered
I have a the same problem , its just that my "best" friend keeps me at arms length and when I do go over to her house she is like all over this neighbour she fancies.
So me and her brother always talk and joke around together but he is like 2 and a half years younger than me so it would be really weird if we went out, oh and because its like a big family bbq or something all of her family puts hints about me and him going out and winks at me .
Plus my friend hates her brother and always tells me embarrassed stories of when he was little and I am like oh umm cool, she hasn't noticed that I like him yet , she just talks about her neighbour and I am like shut up for one second !!

Oh and we always play stupid games like hide and seek and her brother always goes with me and we go in random places like under beds and up trees and no one finds us so we are on are own so I am scared something is going to happen !!

So what should I do ?? Go out with him??? Or try and ignore my feelings ??? Or tell my friend ?? :s
help
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Anonymous answered
I have been head over heels for my best friends brother since he first kissed me a few years back. At the time I had a boyfriend s nothing became of it. At the time my best friend was totally against it. I respected he wishes but I never got over him. Now I am with him thanks to my best friend. Just give her time and if it is meant to be she will see how great you would be for each other. I hope it all works out for you in the end ^_^
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Anonymous answered
I'm in the same spot and its torture!! I get mixed signals and sometimes he flirts and other times he stays in his room when I'm there. My friend has even told me we should date without me telling her that I like him. He is friends with tons of girls though so it is confusing. Best of luck!
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Anonymous answered
Depends how your bestfriend would take it. I just found out my friend likes my older brother. I did not take it so well because my last bestfriend was all over my brother. That's why were not friends anymore. So I think if you would like to keep your bestfriend just still talk to her brother sometimes, but keep a certain distance. It's hard to find good friends. Good luck!
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Anonymous answered
If you really care about your friend, don't do it.  I have lost two of my best friends because of this and I'm on the third. It really hurts me to think that they chose a two month relationship over a lifelong friendship. Best friends tell each other everything, your friend won't want to hear about you and your brother so it causes an awkward wall in your relationship and secrets. High school relationships are fun but it's not like you're going to married. It just isn't worth it. Your friend may try to tell you she doesn't care, but trust me she does. She'll wonder whether you ever really liked her or you just liked her brother. I'm not saying you've always had motives but you can never really prove that to her.
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Amyy Carl answered
Hey,
I have the same exact problem. I like my friend's brother. He is my age and I am 13. He is a month and 19 day's younger than me though. My friend is in 9th grade.He doesn't like me though because I stick up for my friend's because he is really mean to them. He hates me and he knows I like him but he is mean to my friends and nice to me. Just remember your friendship is more important than a guy! Sorry its true.
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Anonymous answered
I have this friend and I just recently found out that here brother that is only a few months older than me likes me... I guess I should have saw this coming because when ever I'm over there it seems like he always has to be around... And my friend can be really judgmental sometimes like talking about how her friends are fat or something of that nature... And my question is will she hate me if I told her that I was into him to?? I just don't know how to tell her I was thinking that mabey I could take both of them to go and get ice cream but what if she asked why I invited him I don't know what I would do.... I just need some advice....
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Rubie Jones answered
I'm in the same situation :'( and I don't know if its Love or just a feeling well anyway I have liked my best friends brother well ever since I have met my best friend,and well he always sends out mixed signals but anway he has a girlfriend and hes in love with her and wel I dumped my boyfriend(we had been going out for a while ) because partly over the feelings I had for him and like I so feel like crying right now what do I do :'((
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I like my bff's brother too and he like me but my bff didn't mind it at first but then it bothered her tht I talked about him all the time I'm soooo in love with him and he loves me but my bff won't let us date so we do stuff together tht she doesn't know about . But I'm afraid she will find out and permanantly separate us. Ooooooh I wish she would understand. :(
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OK, I have a giant crush every time I close my eyes my bf bro is there, anyway he is like 2 years older than me my bf knows and she is annoying somtimes because every girl likes him because he is very good looking and girls at his school somtimes follow him around with cameras and I really like him but he is cocky and he probably dosent know I exist, I talk 2 him somtimes, because I obsessed 2 know about him and he thinks I'm just another girl that is "obsessed" with him, but I think I might be falling in love

plz help me
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This is not a answer but a question.basically I really like my best friends brother (lets call him Joe) but he is like 3 years older than me. I have recently started going round her (lets call her Martha) house A LOT and I have been on family trips with them loads, most times he does something really stupid and I laugh. It all started last summer when I was invited on holiday with their family. He came into my tent when my friend was Talking to her dad her brother was about to say something but she came in. Then today I tried to tell Martha how I feel about Joe but she is the kind of person who takes pretty much nothing seriously. So I was like I am stating to love. Martha then went me and I just had to say yes as it was her birthday and I had to choose the worst day to try to tell her. He keeps lime showing off whenever I am over hers they aren't that close either so if I went out with him it would be really Really Aquard.
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I like my friends brother Michael and I think he might like me back.I don't know if I should tell my friend because she is a blabber mouth.But I never stop thinking about him because he is so hot and nice to me.I'm afraid to tell my friend.What should I do?
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I like my best friends brother again. Last time I told my best friend I liked her brother she told every one. I am not telling any one until he tells me he likes me
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You should ask him out.  Try not to be so afraid of him, maybe he likes you too. But you should tell your friend first. I told my friend her bro is hot and she's TOTALLY ok with it
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The same thing happened to me.  If she is a good friend, she'll accept it.  Don't get upset if he doesn't like you back.  Its ok. Just make sure he knows you aren't just her friend to get to him.
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I really like my best friend's brother for a year know. He only hangs out with my brother. The only thing keeping me talking to him is that he lives in another state. My mom keeps trying to talk me into tell his mom. What should I do?
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Don't tell his mom yet, find out if he likes you back, and if he does then you should tell his mom. IT also depends on how old you both are? And is he coming back for the summer to your hometown? Because if he is thats wonderful, if he is not then long distance relationships are very tough...it depends where you are at on your studies on how far you are willing to go for this guy. Y ou can maybe invite him to an event, saying you need a date, see if he will go & see if there's a spark from there
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I have the same problem but a little different my best friends brother I liked for a long time but then I got tired of waiting for him  to get over his x girl friend so I tried to forget about him but then I started to like her other brother  but the only problem was he was 3 years younger then me he was 13 I was 16 I have never like anyone younger then me before so I know it could never be but I had to try to forget him too but then I started to see her older brother as a best guy friend but then I started to come back like in him so I don't know what to do ether and I can't tell his sister cause I'm too scared and I'm still not over the 13 year old ether wow I guess I'm just messed up  lol
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Well for all the girls out there I say that you should GO FOR IT. I don't lie this is happening to me right now! I fell in lov with my bff's bro / let me just tell you his to die for ex. He has green eyes HOT! Well I'm not really a shy girl so I told my bf n she was COOL with it! N just to let you know I'm 11 n his 14 but who cares!                                                                                                                                                        GIVE IT A TRY!                  AND don't BE AFRAID!                                             GO FOR IT:)
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I'm in the same situation sort of I like my bffs brother to! Me and my bff have been friends since like kindergarden. Ok so I'm a Junior and I've never had a bf sad rite I noe!!! Anyways so I like my bffs younger bro he's younger I think by about 2 yrs,but they're is a few big problems to take into consideration; like for starters he has a new gf like every 2 weeks, maybe month if its going good, 2 I don't know if he likes me, I know at one time my bff told me he liked me, but I didnt go for it in fear of making things really awkward. Also I'm afraid if I do go out with him and it doesn't end up working out, it will be beyond awkward because I pratically live at my bffs,another big thing is that he has had a lot of gfs I havent even had 1 bf,let alone my 1st kiss!
PLEASE SOMEBODY TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO!
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Yea I knw how you feel. I like my bestfriends older brother. He's 16 turning 17 and I'm 15. I like when I go to her house its for her, not him, but people always say and tell  her that I'm probally there just to see him, but thts not it. I don't even talk to her borher, unless he ask me something, she doesnt understand me though... Like whenever I bring up his name and say something bout likeing him shes just like "whatever" &"he wouldnt date you, your to young blah blah blah". I reallly like him though; for looks I mean &I see how he act around others, hes very kind and funny :) I don't know what to do though. I want to keep my friendship, but I want him just as much. Sometimes I think you got to just pick whats more important if its just not working out.
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I like my best friends brother ever since the other day he got my number coz we went bowling for my friends birthday., he is 14 and I'm 11, We text every night. He texted me one time and said . You should come and see Laura......so I can see you... Or go to the river. The next day  said wont it be rude if I come ova your house without permission off her. And he said yeh so then he said jst go to the river.. Coz think of what you will be wearin...a bikini...and you look good in a bikini... Don't tell anyone that" so I said thanks and he said "well its the truth". And evertime when he has to go to sleep he says ilyxx. And then just about half an hour ago he had to go so he said "iloveeyouu xoxoxoxoxoxo" and I'm not sure if he likes me!! I hope he does (and I told my friend erin and she told Laura and I had to Denie of liking him do you think I should tell Laura?)
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If he says he loves you in real life believe him. Over text you should ignore it bcuz you dont no if its a joke
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I liked my best mates older brother too. She was fine with it, but she also didn't like talking about it or getting involved.
It will probably be a bit weird at first, such as when you go over their house, but your there as his girlfriend not just as the best mate. Give it time.
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Yeah I'm having the same problem..My best friend's older brother is gorgeous!! And I really like him but I don't know if he likes me he gives me mix signals and even my best friend jokes around and says that she thinks he likes me..everytime I go over their house he always stays in the house to hangs with us and picks on me and makes fun of me..?? Does that mean he likes me or should I just forget about it?
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He likes you!!!! Ask your friend how she feels about it but you should for sure ask him out...make the first move
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I'm in love with my best friend's brother. I told him that I liked him, and he asked me to wait until we could met and talk about it.
I didn't tell anything to my best friend because, I knew she would make a scene over nothing. THeir aunts told my friend that I liked her brother, but I haven't told them nothing. Now she discovered, and thinks I told them. She doesn't speak to me for a week now. And I acknowledge that she is going to talk with him in the same day I was. What should I do? She is angry and is calling me liar. I never lied to her.
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I've been in love with my best friends older brother since I was 10 when I first started sleeping over her house. I'm 18 and he is about to turn 20. We use to have a lot of fun together along with my bff and their younger sister. They moved out a state a couple years ago. So I don't get to see them. I try to stay in touch with them. Every time I'm on the phone with his sister he wants to talk to me just to say hi. What do I do??
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I'm in the same boat!!!! But I wld never tell my best friend because ALL her other friends think her brother's hot 2! I'm the only one that "doesnt". So I wld never tell her she wld never understand...... So I think its best 2 maybe keep it between you and him or just 2 urself. Like I do I keep it 2 my self and sum other friends who do understand.
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Well I like my best friends older brother and I told her she was completely fine with it and she helped me but just tell her and see what she says ")
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Don't go for it.
My best friend likes my brother and she has no idea how badly it's hurting me.
I always feel like she'll only come over to hangout with my brother, and everything will just be ruined if they go out.
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Don't DO IT. I just found out this weekend when we were at my lake house, that my best friend and my younger brother have been dating for 4 weeks. WORST WEEKEND EVER. I cried the whole weekend because they have lied and never told me for that whole time.When I found out they were texting I told her not to & she said she would never text him again, and she didnt know how strongly I felt about it. But when I went to babysit during the week they would secretly hangout. I mean come on! Its my brother! What happened to girl code and "Never date your friends brother" let alone best friend! Me and my ex-best friend havent talked in days now.I feel betrayed beyond belief.  Its horrible , so just save her the pain and get over it.
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You have to shame yourself. You love him that is your friend's bro. You must leave him.

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