Undoubtedly, they adults are judging this teen too harshly. He needs support and guidance as he's a minor and not an adult. To say he's "a trouble maker" and "probably no good", is to not to judge him strictly on his behavior and not on his need to grow as a person. He doesn't know boundaries yet, he doesn't know himself yet.
Scientists have stated that a teen doesn't know boundaries, have impulse control because not only are they not mentally mature yet, their prefrontal cortex in their brain isn't fully developed yet. He will be a man, in about four years. But as of now, he needs strict discipline combined with love and understanding. To give up on him now, would be to give up on someone who can be a fine and upstanding person in five years. Love, understanding, discipline and forgiveness is what this kid needs. And he needs it soon.
Too bad the boys weren't puppies, somebody would step forward to care for them. But if they were puppies, they would exhibit more pack loyalty, almost automatically...by instinct they would have picked up the slack and started to circle around & guard, the packleader...aka Pop! I'm thinking, if the snotty family members stepped back, they have to be fraternal side and quite underwhelmed by Pop's past performances, and may have witnessed the 'boys' less than polite engagement with their circumstances and life in general, they could be a chip off the old block or not, but that seems to be Grannie's take on the whole ball of wax! HOPE FOR A JUDGE WITH INSIGHT, minimum confinement with a lot of counseling. Romulus has shown poor judgement and less abilities to steal, so there is some hope, even Remulus can get 'educated' in this side show, if he is conscious & alert through all of this!
Judge Judy and I concur on this one.....next case...hurry along, we ain't got all day...here...
On the information given it sounds as if they are giving up on him.
But are they really? They know this boy better than we do, maybe he has been going wrong for a long time and they feel this is needed to shock him into pulling himself together. We just do not know enough to make a judgment.
Sixteen is an awfully young age to be cutting this kid loose from the family. Juvenile detention isn't going to make things any better, but it could definitely make things worse. It doesn't sound as if he's had much parental supervision or any kind of relationship with his parents. The stunt he pulled could have been done to get attention. For some, negative attention is better than none at all. The grandmother and aunts don't seem to be particularly caring. The kid needs more than anyone is able or willing to give him, but I don't think detention is the answer. A foster home would probably be better. It's not ideal, but it might be better for him to be with an actual family.
Don't ever give up on a kid..Show him love and discipline and show by your example what an adult is supposed to be. If you can earn his respect and show him that he is important to you, you have a chance to get through to him, and put him on the right path to growing up to be a responsible and happy person. If this kid doesn't have somebody like that in his life, then it is a sad situation. Hope things work out for him.
I know it sounds harsh and i am unaware of the motive behind their decision not to keep him out of detention, but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. If i work on the assumption that he will get help and counselling and be kept safe then i could see benefits for him. Sometimes there are things going on behind closed doors in family matters that not everyone is privy to. A man whose son was out joyriding in stolen cars got to the point when he asked the provisional IRA to kneecap his own son. His father was stressed out because he knew in his heart that his son was going to kill someone or himself. The lad had no fear of the police or of killing someone. During the 3 months he was convalescing at home his father stated that it was the best 3 months of his life and that the whole family were at ease with each other. It was the turning point in the lads life. Now i point out this example to demonstrate that when people have tried repeatedly to help they can end up resorting to extreme measures. So, perhaps this stay can turn out to be a positive thing that may help him to get some perspective on his life.
A teenager is entering a very confusing time in their lives and this is when they are in the most need of guidance. Play tough love later after they have had time to grow up. Now is the time in their lives when they will need you the most.
Birds push their babies out of the nest, and that's Mother Nature, Sissy, But this definitively sounds like some trained intervention and a chance at new direction would be beneficial or at least worth a try! If they are still in school I would say no way!
The State has got some strong info from their investigators in this case, it sounds, and that needs to be considered too!
However I'll Bet they're thinking like this psychology major Sissy!
I say hell no don't turn a family member out. He sounds like he has a hard up bringing- he needs to know that he is capable of being loved and that someone believes in him- then I believe there is a big chance he will believe in himself and do great things. Whoever takes him in the needs to be honest and blunt with what you expect out of him and what you won't accept. Although, if he can't respect you and what you are doing for him- then let him learn his lesson in juvi
I think that no matter how badly off you are,you should NEVER abandon your own kin.After all they have the same blood as you.And as the saying goes 'Blood is thicker than water'.
Sometimes it works out for the better it makes them appreaceate u more and they grow up faster mine did anyway.
Hell no!!!! If they do that then they are trash and they are not worthy of calling himself parents.