I Had A Fight With My Boyfriend Because I Got Jealous Of This Girl. He Said That There's No Reason For Me To Be Jealous Coz They're Just Friends. When I Continued To Insist, He Started Hitting Me. And He Hit Me Hard Coz I Had A Lot Of Bruises After?

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michael finnegan Profile
And you still consider him your boyfriend? Answer your wake-up call immediately!
Maybe you played the jealousy card too much for the circumstances, but physical violence is abuse, and just a sign of what's to come. You might like him too much to press charges, but like yourself enough to get away, protect yourself, and find someone 'worthy' of your affection.
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yolanda wilson answered
First off you shouldn't go back to him because any boy or man that will hit you once will hit you again.Second,if their involvement was strictly friendship he wouldn't have got so upset and hit you.He felt guilty because you were on to something.If he was innocent he would have let you express the way you felt and tried to reassure you that he was.When your in a relationship your suppose to be able to communicate well enough to where something like this doesn't even happen.Hope this helps.
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Anonymous answered
Don't even think about being jealous, Just broom him, Kick him to the curb, tell him to kick rocks, In other words if you have a brain in your head break up with him lose his phone number and if need be take out a restraining order on the A-Hole.In fact you should get one just so when he does hit you again ( and he will ) He will have a prior and will be arrested. If you don't, you are an Idiot. Men who abuse women don't stop, they only get worse if not helped or locked up, and you will end up in the hospital or worse, in a box!
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Anonymous answered
First of all any person who hits you is not right for you. Once they hit .....they will hit again. Don't let that happen to you. This person is not worth it. Let that boyfriend go. If he can't be honest with you then he was not meant to be.
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Joan
Joan commented
I don't care how honest the guy is or how good looking he is, or how smart he is or how much money he makes or how funny he is or how many times he says he is sorry...if he hits, shoves, kicks, slaps or verbally abuses, he is not worth the dirt on your shoes. The first time will not be the last time. I repeat - RUN, RUN, RUN.
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Anonymous answered
Go to your local salvation army or to a licensed therapist Salvation Army is free.  They have groups of ladies young and old.  That are or have been through what you are going through.  You have to go to build your self esteem.  You deserve to be HAPPY, To be LOVED and to be in a relationship built on trust and respect.  Also,  I found it helpful to read books on codependence or Adult children of alcoholics.  Best book is HEALING THE CHILD WITHIN... CHARLES WHITFIELD...
GOD BLESS YOU...  One thing to note... You can't change him.  But you can yourself.
WHAT EVER YOU DO don't HAVE KIDS WITH HIM.
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Anonymous answered
Run run run away, run like hell !!! This person is toxic. You will end up a battered person. Take my advise weather or not you are in love or not. It does not matter your safety and well-being is first. Please stop going out with this guy. He is trouble. Best wishes (hope your strong enough to leave him).
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Mami I will be honest with you I just went through that and I was with the guy for three years and once he did it and I took him back he kept doing it.  Untill now that I just left last week and moved to another state...I'm not saying that you have to do the same but you do need to get away.  Cause my ex started with just a smack and now I have 6 scars including the one on my face that I have to live with for the rest of my life so baby girl please let him go please.
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Joan
Joan commented
LLliana-r, I know it took courage for you to leave the abuser who you obviously cared for. You should be proud of yourself for finally taking steps to protect yourself from your X. I am sorry you are scarred but each time you look in the mirror, you can tell yourself, "I am wiser and braver than I was 3 years ago." I hope your self-esteem took a big boost when you finally made the decision to leave, it should have. You are a strong, brave, wise lady and I wish you well.
Megan Nugent
Megan Nugent commented
You go girl. Good luck with your new life. God Bless. I agree with you, I been abused by my own daddy, Aint that something? Yeah I put up with it for 23 yrs he would hit me, smack me, pull my hair, he even kicked me one time so hard it almost broke my ribs, He punched me, I know sometimes I get smart mouthed with my Dad, I know I am not perfect but I dont think I deserve this kind of treatment, DO I?. I moved away 6 months ago I moved in with my Boyfriend and now I feel safer, Good Luck.
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Lady D Bell answered
If your boyfriend started putting his hands on you, then its time to moved on because the guy is crazy.
Nicole EM Profile
Nicole EM answered
What are you still doing in this relationship? If he's hitting you there's obviously something wrong, who knows if a guys messed up enough to hit a woman then I'm probably sure he's messed up enough to cheat you know what I'm saying?
Joan Profile
Joan answered
I have 3 words for you to put in your memory bank - RUN, RUN, RUN. This is not a person that you should be with. He cares nothing for you or he would not have hit you. Do not allow this to continue. You deserve to be treated with respect. Nobody has a right to put their hands on you for any reason at all. It is usual for the abuser to try to make the abused person think it is their fault that they got hit...IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. No doubt, he will beg your forgiveness and swear it will never happen again - it is a lie. He will do it again and he will once again blame it on you. Stay away from him. Please do not allow yourself to become his punching bag. Find a boy that will love you and will treat you with respect and will appreciate you. You deserve much more than this abusive boy will ever give you! RUN-RUN-RUN!
Do not take his phone calls, do not answer his text messages, do not answer his e-mails..stay as far away from him as you can. If you know he is going to be at a certain place, make sure you are not there. Do not send messages via friends. Act as if this guy does not exist. Any communication will only spur him on. If he makes any threats at all, tell your parents, call the police and let all your friends know that you are afraid of this nut case. Ask for their help in avoiding him. Anyone that beats someone like he apparently did you is dangerous.
I do not know if you have proof of what he did to you (pictures or friends that have seen the bruises) but if he should lay his hands on you again...call 911 immediately. I would advise you to do it now, but I suspect that you did not take pictures of the bruises or show them to your friends & it would be your word against his without proof. It is fairly common for the abused person to be the one that is ashamed or bashful about the beating. I will say it again...it is not your fault. If you feel brave enough or have some proof of some kind, I think you should call the police. Let the police deal with the no-good. I am sorry you have gotten yourself involved with a woman beating coward. Stay away!
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Anonymous answered
There is no reason for any woman or girl to be hit. And besides I feel like if he knows his friendship with this young lady is the base of you insecurity then he being your man show do what ever  it takes to comfort you , but to become defensive or abusive when the subject arrives is not tolerable, and I would leave simply because he hit me all men say they will never do it again...
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kanta sutton answered
Please leave this person. A man who hits a woman is weak. This sounds like its going to get worse. Please find some one who will love and cherish you. Your boyfriend can't love you as he hit you. Violence can take place in many forms. We women are better. Leave him please
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Anonymous answered
I have a lot of disrespect for a poor excuse of a man who fights or hits on a woman. You need to wake up and smell the roses honey, you should never allow anyone to put their hands on you or abuse you in any way shape or form. God bless
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Anonymous answered
Get away fast!! That is abuse and it will continue. You should think more of yourself.
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Anonymous answered
That is abuse! You should dump him because he left some bruises on you. Don't fall for him saying I'm sorry I didn't mean it because you can't take the chance of that trust me
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Megan Nugent answered
I agree with Fo on this one, Girl wake up call, If he hits you over something like this, Imagine what the future could be like for you. BREAK UP WITH HIM NOW better fish in the sea dump that zero and find yourself a hero. Good Luck.
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Joan
Joan commented
HarleyGurl, I am sorry you had such a abuser for a parent. Be proud though that you finally said enough is enough. Many women do not and find themselves in the hospital or in the grave. Congratulations! I know it was a hard decision but certainly the right one. Good Luck!
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Wesley answered
Let him go once he hit you , you lost respect from him even when you don't think so right at this minute and he lost respect from you and will do it again and again. When they are just friends he should not have gotten so mad that he would hurt you !!!
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Anonymous answered
He had know right to have had his hands on you, and he's probably seeing that girl behind your back. You deserve someone better. If we were going out that wouldn't have happen.
judy aaron Profile
judy aaron answered
I think you should this guy,because if you don't it will  get worst everyday.plz  stay away from him for your safety
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masami sato answered
That is abuse. And if your still going out with him then he still loves his ex thats y he gets mad and btw you should dump him cause no bf should hit his gf
Carla Taylor Profile
Carla Taylor answered
LEAVE HIM NOW NOW NOW HE IS AN ABUSER AND HE WILL ONLY END UP REALLY REALLY HURTING YOU GO GO GO GIRLFRIEND!

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