My Boyfriend Is Really Mean To Me. He Yells And Gets Annoyed At Me For No Reason. He Embarrasses Me In Front Of People And Makes Me Cry. What Should I Do?

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Connor Sephton answered
If your boyfriend treats you badly and disrespects you, there are a number of things you can do. The first thing and the best thing to do is to question why he does it. Confront him in a peaceful manner and ask him why he feels the need to make fun of you and make you cry.

Perhaps he has his own emotional problems to contend with and is just passing them on to you. This is called projection. If he does, perhaps you can get to the root of them and discuss them and then maybe try and sort them out. If he is not happy, you may be able to help, which in the long term would help you.

If your boyfriend does not want to discuss why he acts like this and makes you cry perhaps you can tell him that you expect to be treated better or you will leave him. Life is too short to be in a bad relationship and though the fear of leaving someone can be tough, it is best you do if it seems he is going to continue this out of order behavior.

Perhaps you are also at fault; ask him what his problem with you is. Perhaps you both have to work on this together and then see where the relationship is going wrong. Maybe you can both improve on aspects in your relationship. The only way to do this is to communicate.

Finally, some people are just not suited for each other. Perhaps your boyfriend is just not a nice person. Some people are just jerks and do things for no fathomable reason. If this is the case, leave him and don't even bother staying in contact as it will only cause more trouble in the long run.
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Paul answered
Get out now. Forget about making him realize anything. Get out now. He doesn't care how nice you are. Get out now. He only sees you sticking around as he treats you worse. Get out now. He doesn't care about you. Get out now. He doesn't care about anybody but himself. Get out now. He's a control freak. Get out now. He isn't worth your time. Get out now.
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Anonymous answered
Stand up for yourself. Tell him you are a beautiful, young, intelligent woman despite what he thinks and scream it in his face if you have to and leave him... He sounds like a thick headed, arrogant type and needs to be taken off his pedestal. What he is doing to you is ABUSE and things only get worse. Don't let him take your self esteem. Most of all don't believe them when they say sorry, because they will only do it to you again. It took my mom being beat until she was in the hospital to stand up for herself don't let that be you. Believe me you can do better and with time all wounds heal.
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Anonymous answered
I was in a relationship like this in High School. Believe me you think you love this person, but if they can treat you like this and make you feel bad about yourself then they don't love you. You shouldn't waste your time trying to make him like he used to be. You should be single for a while and realize that you make your own decisions and that no guy should treat you like that. He's not worth your tears!!!
ARINDA GUTIERREZ Profile
Well break up with him, he's not the right guy for you. If he loves you that much, he wouldnt hit, yell, and disrespectful to you. He would understand of how you feel and listen to you, he would always protect you and let you have the freedom. In a serious relationship he would trust you purely and will not hurt you...but if he's not then break up before he hurt you, if you get married with this guy, well it will get worse. Make the right choice, do whats the best for you, and not him. Don't feel bad for him, if he cry or begging you to stay with him, hes only doing that to keep you with him and later hurt you more....be wise and beware.
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Anonymous answered
If he loves you though he wouldn't be treating you in this way. Try talking to him about how you feel and see if he listens to you from that. If he doesn't you should leave him. It will be hard as you love him but it will get easier in time and you will be happier than you are now.
bryan wooldridge Profile
Talk to him about it, tell him how he upsets you and hurts your feelings. If he cares for you he will start treating you better, if he acts the same tan leave him he isn't the right guy for you. Don't listen to people who tell you that you can't find someone better cause you can. Don't listen to zero some people can't handle their problems. There is such thing as the right person. Trust me I've hung around married couples all my life and heard their stories. Hang in there I usually pray to god. You sound like a really sweet girl, and there is a sweet guy out there just for you.
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Sarah answered
If you don't like the way he treats you, tell him and try and reach some kind of resolution. If he won't change and he's making you unhappy, you have to get out of the relationship, no matter how much you love him.

Remember, though, there are women who enjoy being treated in this way (really). If you've somehow (innocently) led him to believe you like him to play the dominant role, then it's not really his fault. As I said before, try and talk to him about it before giving up on things for good.
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Anonymous commented
NO women likes to be treated this way. You need to educate yourself on the dynamics of domestic violence
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered

Leave him girl. Ain't no man should be treating you like that. No
respect. You deserve someone who is gunna treat you like a princess.

Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered

Just dump his sorry little ass, because you should not be treated like that, there's plenty more man out their waiting for you, mr right is out there somewhere!

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Anonymous answered

How much more evidence do you need to leave?  I am perplexed as to why you are still with that loser!  Why allow someone to treat you like crap?

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