I gave a 100 dollars gift card to a guy that likes me for his birthday. But for some reason he wouldn't accept it? He told me that he would rather take a pic with me and to write on the back of the picture "Happy birthday". He also said that seeing me is a gift itself. However, for some reason it upset me because I wanted him to accept the present that I was giving him. He told me that I was too kind and was worried that other people might use me. From your point of view, why wouldn't he accept it? The odd thing about this situation is that before my friends have told me that I shouldn't trust him and that he flirts with many girls and I am one of them. Also, what is your opinion on him from what I have told you about him here?

I would like to put it simply because I would feel the same.

$100.00 would probably be spent within a week, max.

The picture would last a life time and be a great reminder of a happy memory. The memory would be worth more than anything a $100 could buy.

Well the only certain thing I can say is that when you gave him that size gift---and in cash essentially as well---he decided he was uncomfortable with accepting it.

As a man, I can say I would most likely have felt the same way---whether my intentions toward you were honorable or not.

And certainly I would characterize his declination as certainly both gracious and graceful.

I would be inclined to suggest you give him the benefit of the doubt with regard to an ongoing relationship.

Simply dial down gifts that have a monetary value and which can thus be outwardly compared with other gifts.

Best of luck !!!

$100.00 is just over the top!  It's just too much.  He isn't your fiancée or long term boyfriend.  He was right to refuse.  You would have been putting him in a position where he would owe you.  He doesn't want that.

Are you writing a book?

Not sure why you're giving such a big gift to someone you just "like".  Are you trying to buy his love or something?  I think it probably made him very uncomfortable .. Maybe with some strings attached. 

Its was his right not to accept such an expensive gift card. Maybe he feels you are trying to "Tie Him To You". It seems you're trying to buy his love or attention. Not a good idea. Chatty teen girls will say anything, especially in a group. He's not your boyfriend, therefore he's free to flirt. Slow your roll, take a pic (with your clothes on) and chill with him. Lastly he sounds like a caring young man. Based on your words.

Giving him money, never mind the amount which was excessive,  made him feel uncomfortable.  By giving it back to you he is showing you that he is a decent bloke. He has told you why he has done this by saying he thinks you are vulnerable,  what he means by this is some other guy would take that money. You need to get things in proportion,  which is why he said about a photo which shows where his values lie (at least with you) ie a photo will keep giving but cost nothing, whereas the amount of money you are giving him costs $100 alot of money for "a friend."

The fact that you've mentioned that he flirts with other girls tells me that you are interested in him more than a friend or otherwise this wouldn't be important to you. He may flirt with all the girls he obviously likes to feel attractive, but he isn't interested in them. What he did with you was the right thing.

I think he was a decent guy. If he was a real douche, he would've accepted it and ignored you after that.

But I think he was right about that. Giving a random guy that likes you a gift card with that much money is kind of... Yeah, it makes you seem like a pushover. I don't know, maybe your family has a lot of money and $100 to you is like $5 to him.

I just wish more women would do that when a guy likes them. That would be absolutely amazing. You know, that should start being a new trend for women, lol.