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Why Does My Boyfriend Get Jealous When My Guy Friends Speak To Me Or When A Guy Looks At Me?

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Joe Gilbert answered
It's natural for your boyfriend to show a degree of jealousy when your guy friends speak to you or look at you, take it as a compliment and don't let it affect you. It only becomes a problem if it is a recurring issue or something that he needs to speak to you about.

People are always drawn to members of the opposite sex, it's a fact of life and your boyfriend would be more concerned if no one else ever looked at you!

When he does comment on it, laugh it off and let him know that it doesn't mean anything to you and shouldn't mean anything to him. It's him that you care about and there's nothing that you can do about how other people react to you.

In time this should become less and less of an issue as he begins to trust you more realising that your thoughts are only about him.

You could also mention to him how girls notice him and speak to him;  putting the boot on the other foot should get him to think a bit and realise that you are not encouraging or seeking the attention and interest of others.

Your instinct will tell you whether this is a real problem with him, if it is there isn't much that you can do to help him. His insecurities aren't your problem, you've shown him that you think he's special but if he is racked by insecurities it's his job to deal with that rather than for you to change your ways.

These sorts of issues are common at times in relationships, it's about finding out about yourselves, how suited and compatible you are and your true feelings for each other. Time and instinct are the best judges of these types of matters.
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Anonymous answered
Maybe your boyfriend sees something that you don't when your friends look at you. Guys are more observation than us, especially when it comes to someone that he cares about. But if he comes to protective or maybe harsh, seek help.
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nate answered
As a guy my self, it is because the way you ladies act different around this so called friend, It is the way you act or do thing different with the friend. Whats more important, your friend, or the one you say you love? Think about it. Would you get jealous if his best-friend was a girl that was hot, and they acted different around you. I always say, Put the shoe on the other foot and see if it is the same
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My boyfriend is the same exact way but its kinda a good thing and then again uh maybe not. Jealousy can lead to a lot of things including him putting his hands on you, you cutting your friends short, him controlling you e.t.c jealously is a good thing in some ways but its when it comes to the part to where you can only do things he approve of the best thing ti do is to let him know ahead of time that you have guy friends and that just because you talk to other guys doesnt mean anything and that he also needs to trust you to talk and be around other guys without him thinking negative.
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Anonymous answered
That is a built in defensive mechanism. Guys know guys, and we know generally what the other is thinking. But, you should tell him, you know he's going to do it, but, let him know you trust him enough to stand with you if some guy, does or says something intentionally to make him mad, and be sure he knows you'll do the same.

He may think you a bit gullible and feel he has to compensate for your defenses or lack thereof.

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My bf is totally the same and it annoys me sooo much sometimes but I no he cares a lot bout me and doesnt want some guy liking me I totally understand but l8ter on he will trust you if you give him reason too and he wont be as jealous trust me
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Nathan Hughes answered
Because he thinks that you will be taken away by these, "guys friends" because you might feel closer to them then you do to him. Sometimes that can make him feel neglected or Useless.
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shush =) lol answered
It is normal for your boyfriend to get jealous if you are talking to other guy, it means he loves you and he cares for you. Talk to him, make him feel better, make him feel that you are honest to him and you will never cheat on him.
Cat McD Profile
Cat McD answered
Sounds like he's a controller. I'd get out of the relationship if I were you.
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Anonymous answered
Its perfectly natural..it is a good sign that he gets jealous because it does show that he cares a lot and your his girl and know one Else's. But if it gets out of hand talk to him asap
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kanta sutton answered
Maybe he feels jealous tell him how much you love him you can't stop talking to people just because your boyfriend gets jealous
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Anonymous answered
Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years on may 30th I know he goes on my  accounts and deletes guys who talks to me and he even declines there request I love him so much I have a son too him and I just want him too trust me does anyone have any useful advice for me thank you!
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hannah. answered
That just shows that he cares, and he wants you all to himself because he can't picture you with any guy but him. Its completely normal for him to get jealous. Just simply talk about it with your boyfriend and calmly let him know that there is nothing to be concerned about.
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Anonymous answered
You should tell him to shut his mouth:) that he should know that he is the only guy you want to be with and that a relationship is built on trust and that he shouldn't go around getting severly jealous just because you two are friends he probably has girl friends of his own:)
Secrent Agent Sam Profile
Number one rule. Don't talk to the other boy! That never helps.
just tell him you like him and the other guy is just part of the past, and feel good, because the guy cares enough to be jealous!
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B.e.e J.a.y answered
He obviously really likes you and wants nothing to get in between the two of you. Consider yourself lucky.
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rinku sawant answered
C jealousy is a part of love..if he will talk to a female..you would feel da same...yes there's a limit for it...you should talk to him about this...you tell him you want your space.... He might b feeling that will leave him... You just have to make make him believe that you wont leave him... Guys are like that only... Huh
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Anonymous answered
There is a big difference between jealousy and being protective. Does he have female friends that he talks to? You need to sit down with him and tell him that it is very normal to have friends of the other sex. He needs to trust you until you give him a reason to not trust you. He should be proud that you have friends of both sexes. Good luck
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Anonymous answered
Just tell your now boyfriend that you care only for him and not the other boy. Plus actions are louder then words. You shouldn't talk about the ex. With the new one. An you shouldn't be seen around the ex. It will get back to the new boyfriend. Most jealous people have low self-esteem issues. What you do and say can help or hurt. If the new boyfriend still acts up after you tell him you care only for him or if his jealous escalates you may want to find a new boyfriend. The low self-esteem issues may be to big for you to fix. A.k.a. Something happen when he was growing up,or home life. Hope this helps you.
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dori nunya answered
Just tell him that what you had with the other boy is in the past and try to get a way to get over him. You shouldn't be confused you need to choose the one you love more. Just because this other guy is a grade higher doesn't mean he is any better. People your age are better because older people take advantage of things like that. No scratch that you need to be with the one who shows you the most respect and cares for you more. If your boyfriend is going to let this guy come between you guys then he really doesn't care all that much. And if the other boy is going to let you walk away with your boyfriend and not do anything about it then he really doesn't care all that much either.
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Teri Boyd answered
Do what you feel if you think you still have feelings for this other dude then talk to him. If you want to continue to be with your current boyfriend then make him feel like he is the only one. Stay away from the other boy if you don't want to cause problems..
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Carley Castro answered
Because he cares about you a lot. Same thing happens with me and my boyfriend. Sometimes its too much but then again it feels nice to know he cares. And hes just watching out for you. But if the jealousy gets too far, just talk to him about it. HOPE I HELPED!
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Anonymous answered
My boyfriend can get pretty jealous when I am around other guys,but the big problem is he won't tell if I am doing anything to bother him....He does not like to make waves but sometimes I wish he would just tell me if there is something I am doing with other guys that he doesn't like. Our relashionship can get really hard at times because of this!
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Anonymous answered
R you serious about this question? The answer is because he laves you. You should be happy about it by the way because jealousy is great and if their he does not get jealous that means he doesn't love you.
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Anonymous answered
I do it too , and it's horrible !!
Just try to control and try talking to him first!! Tell him you love him and another men are just friends .. Make him understand in any way! I've had thousand problems because of that!
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Anonymous answered
It's true what the others commented. He gets jealous because he loves you, he wants to be with you, the only one that you see. He doesn't want anyone interrupting the relationship and he's probably just scared that you'll fall for someone else. Just reassure him that you're not going to cheat. I have problems like this all the time and it hurts me but I try to put myself in his shoes. It's totally normal for guys to get jealous but if he hurts you to the extent, you got to call it quits.
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Alyssa Smith answered
Tell your bf that you like the other boy, but you could only care and love for him and him only...If he's still jealous then let him be...
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Anonymous answered
He cares about you a lot and hes just insecure. He doesnt want you 2 like someone else more than him.

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