Even in the most loving of couples argue from time to time. By far the biggest cause is lack of communication: So many disputes could be avoided if both parties spoke about the issue as soon as it arose. The most common reasons for arguments include jealousy, selfishness, and money. 
How To Resolve Conflicts Without Heated Arguments
How To Resolve Conflicts Without Heated Arguments
- Don't raise your voice if you can help it.
- Remember, this shouldn't be a head-to-head: Work together. You're not enemies!
- Try to think very carefully before you speak, and don't say anything that you'll later regret.
- Compromise.
- Arguments aren't always black-and-white. Usually, they're big gray areas, and neither party is strictly right or strictly wrong.
- Don't hold back. Make sure you're honest about what's bothering you. If you let it all out, you'll have a better foundation to build your relationship on.
- If you're sorry, apologize. Don't wait for your partner to say sorry first.
- Don't interrupt. Listen to what your girlfriend has to say.
- Try not to make accusations; start with "I feel" or "I think" rather than diving right in with "you're too controlling."
- Remember what you're arguing for - you're not trying to win, you're trying to resolve an issue in your relationship. It can be hard to keep this in mind in the heat of an argument, but it's very important that you do.
