Oscar De La Huerte answered
It sounds to me like your girlfriend has made it perfectly clear what she wants from the relationship - so maybe it's time you gave some thought to what you are looking for too. If it's companionship and a good time, you could be on to a good thing, but if you're looking for a meaningful long-term relationship, it sounds like you're in for a disappointment.
Why doesn't my girlfriend love me?
The very idea that you're having to ask this question suggests that alarm bells should be ringing. If a woman has made it clear that she doesn't love you, it's unlikely you'll be able to change her mind by clinging on to the relationship.
It may seem confusing that she engages in very personal activity with you (having sex and bathing together are about as personal as it gets), but you need to bear in mind that people have different ideas of what a relationship is all about.
Rather than spending too much time analysing why your girlfriend doesn't love you in the same way that you love her, you should be focusing on what you want from a relationship and how you're going to set about achieving it.
Breaking up and moving on
Whilst I can't really give any specific advice on your situation without knowing the full details of your relationship, I am a firm believer in the idea that everyone should strive to be happy in life and love. There's no point trying to make your relationship something it's not.
You may be having great sex and enjoying the joint showers (and if that's what you're after then don't rock the boat) but if you want more, it's time you stood up and admitted it.
Breaking up and moving on is by no means an easy move, and some people spend years in unhappy relationships because they struggle to sever themselves from the idea that things might change. My view is that, if you've given it your best and it still isn't working, it's just not meant to be.
If you're looking for some inspiration, you needn't look any further than the most famous love story in the world: Shakespeare's Romeo & Juliet. At the beginning of the play, young Romeo finds himself besotted with a young girl called Rosaline.
A few scenes down the line and Rosaline has become a nun, Romeo meets a girl called Juliet at a party, and the two of them fall head over heels.
Maybe it's time you ditched the nun and found your Juilet, so to speak (hopefully, without the double-suicide part!)
Why doesn't my girlfriend love me?
The very idea that you're having to ask this question suggests that alarm bells should be ringing. If a woman has made it clear that she doesn't love you, it's unlikely you'll be able to change her mind by clinging on to the relationship.
It may seem confusing that she engages in very personal activity with you (having sex and bathing together are about as personal as it gets), but you need to bear in mind that people have different ideas of what a relationship is all about.
Rather than spending too much time analysing why your girlfriend doesn't love you in the same way that you love her, you should be focusing on what you want from a relationship and how you're going to set about achieving it.
Breaking up and moving on
Whilst I can't really give any specific advice on your situation without knowing the full details of your relationship, I am a firm believer in the idea that everyone should strive to be happy in life and love. There's no point trying to make your relationship something it's not.
You may be having great sex and enjoying the joint showers (and if that's what you're after then don't rock the boat) but if you want more, it's time you stood up and admitted it.
Breaking up and moving on is by no means an easy move, and some people spend years in unhappy relationships because they struggle to sever themselves from the idea that things might change. My view is that, if you've given it your best and it still isn't working, it's just not meant to be.
If you're looking for some inspiration, you needn't look any further than the most famous love story in the world: Shakespeare's Romeo & Juliet. At the beginning of the play, young Romeo finds himself besotted with a young girl called Rosaline.
A few scenes down the line and Rosaline has become a nun, Romeo meets a girl called Juliet at a party, and the two of them fall head over heels.
Maybe it's time you ditched the nun and found your Juilet, so to speak (hopefully, without the double-suicide part!)
