Okay, I'm a girl and I'm in this position. My boyfriend's ex friend keeps hitting on me but we've been best friends since gradeschool. I told him that I'm with my boyfriend and he says he understands. If it were any other guy, I would just stop talking to him, but he's been my best friend for a while now, so its hard to just say goodbye. My boyfriend gets really jealous but he acts like an ass about it. The minute the guy says hi, he flips out on me and tells me that I am a bad girlfriend for not getting rid of a problem that causes him stress. Don't BE THAT GUY. As long as she still treats you the same way, she still likes you and you have nothing to worry about. Its okay for a girl to have guy friends... But when she starts blowing you off for him, thats when you ask her what's going on and if you have anything to worry about. For now, it seems harmless.
Heres the best short answer to everyones problems. If your bestfriend continuously hits on your girlfriend: A: Hes not your friend and B: If it continues warn him, than take the boots to him. Its pretty simple if a friend is willing to medle in your relationship, hes not a friend. If your girlfriend has eyes for another guy than screw it shes wasting your time
If you love some thing you first must set it free. If you question her loyalty then she will leave you. Bottom line you are calling her a liar when you question her. You can't control some one. You don't own them. Your a team. Your team against the world. People will try to steal her. But if she is loyal then you have nothing to worry. The more time you spend thinking is she running around does she want to leave me wah wah wah the less you accomplish. Woman are like men only cleaner. And the more you worry then the more you will push them away. Seriously folks. And if your in high school well then sorry for your luck 90% chance youll be with some one else by the time your 25 if not next year. Besides your gunna want to be single for college or university. Good luck kiddies
I have a similar problem too but in my case this friend has known my gf longer than I've known her, he is my girlfriends sisters bf. So that may not be a major thing. The problem is, that this guy is far more talkative and witty than me, we are both the same age but the difference is that he graduated already in the same studies as my gf! The other thing that I noticed was that this guy has much better fashion sense then I do and there have been many times on Random occasions where my me and my gf would go shopping and she would bring up the subject how this friend wears something like this, and he wears that! Now, that may seem far-fetched but I find that highly unusual for your own gf to admire another friends fashion sense. Overall, I think you would have to talk to her about it and I would follow mome2cute advice as it seems the most sensible one. Approach it in a subtle way and see what she says, all in all she will probably think your a bit nuts but lemme tell you something - there are thousands of guys out there who been in our situation so there is nothing to worry about. Hope this helps. Much peace and love
Why don't you suggest to your friend that you will help him find a girlfriend of his own. Then also ask your girlfriend to help! It also would not be bad thing that when your friend is talking to your girlfriend, why don't you start a conversation with someone else at the table preferably a female. This will take some of the attention off of you feeling left out and also it will give you a chance to focus on someone other than your girlfriend. You can still be serious about your relationship, just don't isolate yourself to just dealing with your girlfriend. Have other female friends in your life! And if your girlfriend starts to have a problem with your other female friends, then that will be a good way to open the door about the way you are feeling when your friend is around. And if you break-up (heaven forbid!) don't be scarred! Your other female friends can be a a great source of comfort if you have to make the transition back to being single. Really work hard on getting your friend his own girl!! Good Luck!
When me and my gf were 'talking', I introduced my best friend to her. At first he didnt like her but now they're like best friends. When we hangout I feel like I'm not getting any attention. I want him to talk to me about anything but it turns out he tell sher everything and nothing to me. I feel like my best buddy for a long time is becoming closer to someone I Love than with me... I don't know what to do
I would say ask her who she likes. Me and my boyfriend always ask each other occasionally every 2 weeks or so who we all like and were honest about it. Also be honest by telling her you think that. Just simply say I think you like my friend and I want to know if you do because I don't want to loose you and I have a feeling I might loose you. But don't be all suspicious freak-o boyfriend. If she says no, drop it. If she says yes, ask who she likes more. If she says you, no worries. If she says him, you might have to work things out and talk more.
If she seems distant that could be a sign that she is thinking of someone else. If she cancel plans or does not call you when she says she is going to call that could also be a sign. You could always just ask her....and hope she tells you the truth.
One of the things this world is losing is honesty. It is so painful to things when honesty isn' t present. In my opinion honesty is something that can cultivated.
I am also having the same trouble, but as a solution I told my gf that I would break up with her if she keeps on sticking a lot to my friend, if your gf really loves you she would gladly follow you but if she doesnt.....
Me and My girlfriend have been going out for a while know and are fine when we are texting / msn hell even when we are together .. But when we are in a group situation she completely ignores me and doesn't acknowledge I'm there .. I'm worried that she might like someone in our group that why she wont speak to me .. Please help !