If My Girlfriend Keeps Breaking Up With Me An Getting Back To Gether Again What Do I Do?

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Senzy M Profile
Senzy M answered
You take control of the situation. She keeps doing because you let her. Talk to her about it. She could be in an emotional turmoil and constantly feels the need of being wanted so then she keeps breaking up so that you start begging which gives her that satisfaction. She should set things straight, you cannot gamble with other people's feelings.
Joan Profile
Joan answered
Just how much turmoil in your life are you willing to put up with to be with this girl?  When being with her is not worth the stress of being with her, it is time to make the break final.  She is not the only girl on this planet.  There are other girls out there who will appreciate having someone like you in their life.  It is up to you to decide when (and if) you want to dump this girl and find one that is appreciative of what she has.  You may think she is worth the on again and off again romance but you will have to decide if that is true.  If you have decided to end the relationship, today would be a fine day to tell her you think it is time you both moved on and found someone more compatible.  It's your decision.
erica molston Profile
erica molston answered
Sounds like my situation I don't think that person will realize what they have until it is gone, there just playing games because they no they can always have someone to come back to
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Anonymous
Anonymous commented
I was like this with my ex. I always break up with him. Now he doesnt want to take me back again. I have begged, cried, pleaded for 3 days. I promised i will never do it again. But he wont forgive me. :'(

I break up with him cause i get so frustrated i want to escape. At the moment when i want to break up, i feel like there's no hope. And then after a day when im calmed down, i will realize my mistake and i will get back with him again.

Now this time, he had enough. It's so hard knowing that it's my fault and i did it without thinking. I dont know why i get too wmotional sometimes especially when im pms-ing. I hate my life right now. It hurts too much. I have lots of regret.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
This seems to be woman thing...My girlfriend does the same thing... My mind tells me to walk away and find someone more deserving of me...my heart tells me there isn't another woman for me.
Lily Moon Profile
Lily Moon answered
Try to find out exactly why she's breaking up with you each time. Is it the same reason or different reasons each time? Maybe and this is just a theory, that maybe she is possibly testing out her other options as far as other people are concerned and when they don't work out, she comes back to you as a fail safe because she knows that you'll take her back.  But first things first, if you don't know already, find out why you guys are breaking up each time.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
My girlfriend keeps doing it to me. I have never cheated.
It hurts a lot and she can't see that. She tells me she wants to be with me but how can she when shes breaking up with me all the time?
About 6 times in the last month. Only to get back together the next day.

We have been together 2 years and 5 months.
She was my first gf. In all honesty I just want to be happy and at the minute, I'm not.
I just want her to wake up
I feel for everyone here.
Goodluck!
chelsie richardson Profile
Maybe it means she loves you but she doesn't want to get so close to you because she thinks you might hurt her or she not quit sure what she wants from the relationship
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Okay , well this happened to me plenty of times (FACT;* With just one guy) This means you guys weren't meant to be you know? But it was just for the best. & when you let go for sure you will feel free instead of being confused.
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kaytee aldag answered
You do not need hr. She is just extra drama in your life I have a friend bailey who dates another friend dylan and off all of the time it gets so annoying! She only sees him as a possesion and only wants to date him when he is thinking about dating other girls shes most likely emotionally unstable.
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Anonymous answered
I did the same shitty thing to my poor ex boyfriend and he broke up with me for good. I guess. I'm trying to get him back but it's been 2 weeks and a half and he doesn't even want to listen to me. I will never ever to that to anyone again. God help me I want him back so bad :[
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Anonymous
Anonymous commented
Wow....well so as a guy going thru a somewhat similar situation, I got to ask, why did you break up with him so much if you have such strong feelings? I just don't get it, how you could you treat some you want so bad?
Anonymous
Anonymous commented
You should anaylze why you acted this way. Maybe you had good reason. If he stops talking to you without trying to figure out why you are acting this way then maybe its best he is gone. If someone kept breaking up with me Id want to understand why first.
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Anonymous answered
My girlfriend keeps breaking up with me and then comes back.  She will break up with me around February of every year, and last year in 2009 she did it we got back together in April; then she broke it off again and we went back in October of 2009.  She once again broke it off in February of 2010 and came back to me in April when I just lost my sister.  What am I to do?  I meet this young last year in June and I like her a lot, but I hurt her when I went back to my exgirlfriend  twice and I did not explain to her.  She even asked me to let her know if I was to go back because I would already know if I was.  I didn't want to hurt anybody
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Anonymous answered
Shes playing games tell her if she think it is for the best but tell her not to come back wanting to go back out that your tired of it
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tshombe harper answered
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I'm in the same problem right now reading this forum defenatly helped
thank you all so much I'm going to talk to her a.s.a.p. I'll comment back
soon
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Anonymous answered
I have the same problem except my gf broke up with me everyday last 3 months and then calls me 10 minutes later making up things like she seen me somewhere or someone else saw me with girls while I'm actually home all day and all month working> so if anyone has the answer help us lol
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Anonymous answered
I have done that with my boyfriend. The reasons he males me so angry And we think very different. I do not like disrecpect And when he does it I cannot stand it. So I break up but he later said that he understands And that he has changed. He gets back into my life as a friend And them he Seems he has really changed And we get back together. The truth is he convinces me but deep inside I know we are different And he is not the one.
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Anonymous answered
I have broken up with my boyfriend a few times and about to do it again, and it's because I am unhappy with him, I break it off and then he won't leave me alone and says he's changed, and like an idiot I believe it. But I have finally come to the conclusion that he's a controlling person and won't change. Maybe she's nuts or maybe you're doing something to drive her away. Examine it.
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I am on the same situation right now.  She breaks up with me for no reason.  Everytime she breaks up with me, she would apologize the next hour or day.  I used to beg n tried to content her after breaking up with me before .  Sometimes I would even apologize even though I didnt do anything wrong. Now, i dont do that anymore.  

I have told her that we both are adults and that if we love each other like we say,  we should start taking the relationship seriously.  (We have been dating for more than 2 years.  I am 26 she is 23. )  She says "ok baby". But she keeps breaking up with me.  She broke up with me on Friday.  She texted to me that night to apologize and to ask me if I was mad.  I didn't forgive her this time.  I told her how I fell, and she didnt seem to care about it. 

On Saturday, she texted me but I didnt reply.  Today is Monday and she texted me "I have nothing to do with you so, I can do whatever I want, right? "  I replied " yes, whatever you want.  Just don't text me anymore and dont tell me what you do or what you don't.  Please take care."  

I love her.  I really do. I did my best I could in the relationship.  To be honest i thought I was the only one in the world in this situation.  It is good to know that I am not the only one on this boat...

Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I have broken up with my ex 3 or 4 times but it's because he is still flirting with his ex and he doesn't make me feel special...are you doing something like that?
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Anonymous answered
My girlfriend dumped me 17 times,just because she dint want to be with me,as she dint love me,IN one yEAR.....she just doesnt listen..don't worry we all sail int he same boat.
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Anonymous answered
My current girlfriend has done this to me twice before. Many years ago we met at a campground as teenagers and dated for two summers during vacation from school. After graduation we went our separate ways and she got married very young. Her husband left her after 19 years together and it was pure chance that we began seeing each other again after all these years. I live 45 minutes away in another state & visit on weekends. She has custody of their 3 children and has been pressuring me to move in. I'm sure anyone would agree that this is a huge step for me as I have no kids of my own. I have refused because her kids have fully taken control of the home and she allows it. The two older ones are 12 & 10 years old and should be assigned basic chores to help her. They have none. They constantly fight and wreck the home and always leave it for her to clean up. She says that I'm too demanding and tells me I have issues to deal with! I'm not expecting her to run her home like an army barracks, but there needs to be some basic structure and guidance. I have assisted her at her job, around the home, and even helped her financially. She has broken up with me twice before only to call me 2 weeks later crying.
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Kyle Benoit answered
My fiance does the same thing. She won't leave me but she'll try everything in the world to get me to leave her. These little episodes keep getting worse. She's in an extremely emotional roller coaster because of her father. He wants her to take over the business he owns and she doesn't want to. And he wants her to be with a guy that he works with. He's making her move in with him. When the episodes happen I know they're like a hurricane extremely bad at first but then they get better. All I have to do is hang in there. I feel these episodes are tests because everytime right after she says she's sorry and that the very last thing I say makes all the feelings for me come rushing back. Last time she told me she was going to sleep with the guy video record it and send me the video of her getting pregnant. I was hurt extremely but she explained that her family is just messin with her head too much. She has had 9 anxiety attacks because of the situation this past month
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Anonymous
Anonymous commented
I am impressed. You are right. I go through the same episodes because of abusive relationships from my past. I have serious trust issues but my man seems to understand that. The only thing you said though that makes me think you need to stand up for yourself (and not make excuses for her) is the threat of sleeping with someone else and video taping it. I would never say that to my man. Im not trying to hurt him, I am trying to keep from being hurt. I would confront her on that.
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mj john answered
My gf ask me to move in with her  and her son  2week  later she said that she don't what to be with me  So I moved out and then she call and  said that she what to see how it goes  but now it like waiting for her to text or just to talk to me  I love her so much  but don't no if I what to levee her or what plzz help x
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matt knight answered
I have been with my girlfriend for fifteen years we have split up many times .every time its her leaving me she. We split for a year one time and she became pregnant for another guy who then fled when responsabilities arrived she asked me back into her life and I took full responsibility for the child but I find it hard because she is always telling me what I do wrong but never what I do right and when she drinks she turns into a diffrent person who I can't trust but I can't seem to let her go 15 years is a long time what should I do
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Anonymous
Anonymous commented
hey. I saw ur post about ur ex gf and the 15 year relashionship. I can identify with u. I had the exact same happen to me.
If u wanna exchange stories lemme know.
I feel like an idiot but its releif to know t here r others who have experienced the same.
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