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My ex GF of 8 months always breaks up with me and I always reach out to her. Recently we broke up for a couple weeks and talked a bit Then got back together. Then she breaks up again after a few days. I haven't contacted in a week. Will she try to contact me now? If she really convinced me to come back I would as bad as that sounds. 

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Walt O'Reagun Profile
Walt O'Reagun answered

Why are you allowing it to happen?

Get some self-respect, and end this cycle of drama once and for all.

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Moe  Moe
Moe Moe commented
I think she is expecting me to contact her because that's usually what happens. (She breaks it off, and I convince her to get back) this time she broke it off and I haven't shown her any sign that I want to return. I feel like she may get antsy
Skip  Gentry Profile
Skip Gentry answered

It seems to be an ongoing thing, so probably so. Your relationship seems to be at a dead in road. It would be best for both of you if you let each other go and move on with your lives separately.

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Moe  Moe
Moe Moe commented
I really really like her and she knows that I do because I got so upset when she left me recently. Usually I would respond to her and try to get her back. But this time I haven't said a word to her since I saw her last.
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PJ Stein answered

If it has been an ongoing thing, i would presume so, but why would you care? This is a relationship built on drama. Who wants that. Move on and save you both some grief. Do not go back out of guilt or comfort.

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Moe  Moe
Moe Moe commented
I wouldn't go back unless she really really worked to get me back. Because in the past it was me trying to get her back. This time I haven't tried to contact her at all.
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Danae Hitch answered

She loves me, she loves me not. Mature relationships don't rely on one person's whim, which this sounds like.

She breaks up with you, waits for you to come crawling back to her, she takes you back, breaks up with you, and the cycle continues.

Do you really think this is the sign of a mutual I-love-you relationship? Is this how you're going to allow yourself to be treated? If you were to do this to her, what would she do? Would she stand around while you treated her this disrespectfully? If the answer is no - then why do you allow her to do it to you?

I do not like drama in any shape or form. I don't like people that manipulate me to behave a certain way so they can get their way.

You can keep playing this game with her or you can accept the break-up and look around you. There are plenty of other girls out there that aren't her. They are all unique and there are plenty that don't treat you like crap.

A person can get addicted to being treated a certain way in a relationship and think it's fine. If this is you, you are setting yourself up to always be treated badly. I hope you have more respect for yourself than that.

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Moe  Moe
Moe Moe commented
I haven't contacted her for almost a week now
Danae Hitch
Danae Hitch commented
Why would you care if she contacts you or not? Be done with this once and for all. You are letting her treat you in a disrespectful manner. Do you deserve that kind of treatment? Walk away and be done.
Moe  Moe
Moe Moe commented
If she could convince me enough and apologize. Then I would forgive and forget. But I turned the tables because I haven't responded at all. And I just feel so strongly about her

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