What Do I Do If My Married Girlfriend Isn't Getting A Divorce?

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Sarah Klimko Profile
Sarah Klimko answered
First of all, i don't think you are going to make her not sound like a spoiled selfish child. If she wants so badly to be divorced then tell her to file, and quit complaining. Secondly, if she is the reason for the divorce, she doesn't deserve to get money from the divorce. And what makes you think she won't cheat on you if she is cheating on her HUSBAND.  She took and oath before god and everyone that she would be FAITHFUL to him.  It really sounds like she is doing both you and her husband dirty, just so she can have her way.  You deserve better than that! Everyone does (even her husband).  I don't think she sounds like a very good role model for her son either. What is he going to learn about life from this situation? It is okay to manipulate people as long as you get something from it.  There is no sense in you wasting your time waiting around for something that may or may not happen.  Surely, you respect yourself more than this? 
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Phil Bradshaw
Phil Bradshaw commented
You make some very points but God doesn't really factor into my belief system. Sorry. I have met her husband before and I know the way he is. He shows no feeling and it was so easy for him to move out. He is the type of husband that is there and not there at the same time. Always in the other room and doesn't care. He doesn't want to be around their son and that is sad to me! I do agree that she should file and we have talked about that many times before. I love her enough that I am willing to wait for her and she knows that. I'll keep you posted on how it goes from here. Btw, I do respect my self, but I know when I have found the one for me.
Sarah Klimko
Sarah Klimko commented
Only you can truly know what you are up against, so please make sure you stay honest with yourself, and don't waste a lot of energy on someone who isn't putting the same effort forth for you.
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Mati green answered
If she has not cut ties with her current husband to be with you by now, then she Isn't going to. She is playing you. You are just a fling to her and she is using you for her own fun. DUMP her and find someone who is really available and will treat you right.
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Phil Bradshaw
Phil Bradshaw commented
Let me go into more detail to get a better picture. We have talked about this before and I know for a fact that she isn't playing me. We love each other and we both say it all the time. We spend as much time together as physically possible. She loves the fact that I understand her situation for the time being and there is just so much she can do right now. She made him move out in June, like i said, and he is living in an apartment with his lease running out in January. They still text back and forth but she tells him all the time she doesn't want to be married to him anymore. She keeps saying we have to be careful so she doesn't get busted and lose a lot of money in the divorce. She wants to keep the house and wants him to file for divorce and not her because it would make her look guilty. He gets her wonderful son every other weekend, so he really does not care about their son and that is really important to her. Of course, I still haven't met her son yet.
I have met here husband before because we used to play basketball together at a local school and he knows about me in a round about way and of course she had denied it to his face that we have been together. She mainly just wants the child support from him and to be able to keep her son in the same school with all his friends. She really just wants to be rid of him but doesn't want to look guilty for the divorce. I truely believes this is what she wants!
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Anonymous answered
Why don't you try to talk to her about the status of your relationship. I think it would be better to ask her now, because maybe she's also having a hard time with your relationship and having difficulties in deciding the right move.

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Phil Bradshaw
Phil Bradshaw commented
We talk about the status of our relationship all the time. We are in a relationship(boyfriend and girlfriend). There is very little we can right now until he makes a move. She comes to see me whenever she doesn't have her son. She tells me to chillax and be cool, that it will happen and to just give it time. She isn't with him and I know that. He will make a move if she keeps this up. I just want to be with her as a couple.
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Anonymous answered
Your last sentence is key. Why do YOU think she is distant? This is not a healthy relationship. These relationships usually do not end up on a positive note

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