Why When I Have The Guy I Want, I Always Want Someone New?

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Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Your emotional development seems that of a 13-year old girl.  I suspect that you see the ability to form interpersonal relationships as an indication of your worth and a romantic relationship as a solution.  A rewarding experience would be for you to see how much you can add to someone else's life instead of how much you can take.  My advice on how you can hold your focus is to keep track of how much you contribute.  Set a goal.  Think carefully because not everything you think of at first will be a positive contribution.
 
I could be all wrong.  You might just be surrounded by dweebs and need to find a better crowd to associate with.
Penny Kay Profile
Penny Kay answered
The grass always seems greener on the other side of the hill. When you like a guy, he has all these imaginary qualities, that you expect him to have. When you get close to him, he does not live up to your expectations. Your expectations may be a little unrealistic. There are no perfect men or women out there. However, there are good men and good women. When you get close to someone, do you focus on their faults, or on their assets? I agree with Slammer, you get out of a relationship, what you put into that relationship. If the first time a guy fails to live up to your expectations, you start looking for another, you may end up being a lonely person. When you care about someone, you learn to live with their little defects of character. I am sure you have some unpleasant habits of your own. It takes time and patience to 'fine tune' a relationship, rethink your expectations and think of 'the long run'. A man who truly loves you and is responsible and hardworking, beats out Mr.' Good Looking', the world owes him a living. When you are truly mature, you will find that out.
thanked the writer.
maya gogo
maya gogo commented
i think you are very very very smart and mature you are totally all right because the same af what you said happened with me with my husband "my cousin" you know the story about we are in love from 8.5 years when i was 14 years we were broken up in this years many times because of me only me and my expectations but he was really loved me and stay near from me for years i was found him in all my hard times even we were not in relationship and when i told him that i am stay in love with him even we were separated and me and him tried to knew others but finally we were came together again after any relationship soooo, before our marriage i thought deeply about him and why he waiting me all this years and all the times i was broken up with him for months and have a problem suddenly i found him with me and all the times i asked him to get back together he agree because of all this things iam finally knew that after 8.5 years from my starting a relationship with him and leaving him very quickly with out any reason and try to forget him by anew relationship i found that my expectations toke me away from the right way and make me lose very special things ,,,,so i think you are all right about your answer ,,,,,,, she must rethink about her expectation and try to be more mature to see how is deserve her love and he also loves her.with out losting years from her life
Michelle New Zealand Profile
I agree with Pencil and Justness.  I was in that same situation.  Yes and sometimes you do think that the grass is greener on the other side.  I use to go out with all these sexy guys but the only thing about sexy guys is that they are every bodies man and sometimes that's all they have is the bodies.  Well, I eventually got married to a man which was the total opposite of all the guys that I use to date but I knew that he was the one I wanted to spend my live with.  Nobody could believe it but looks are not everything.  We were together for 19 years.  He was a wonderful man but I got board and the grass was greener on the other side.  To make a long story short.  I lost my man and the other guy, well as soon as he found out that I'm divorced he developed wings and flu away.  So now I end up alone.  Well my husband and I still love edge other very much and we don't see other people but its gone take a long time for him to trust me again and enough to take me back.  Well, I'm doing everythings in my power now to win my man back because the longer I wait the more change there is that he can meet someone ells and then I've lost him forever.  Now the lesson in this is.  If you are young and still dating then good for you.  Its good to explore your horizons but if you are involved in a relationship and you cant stick to one man then you got a serious problem because you must remember you are not getting younger and your looks if that is the case will not last forever and you are going to end up all alone if this is the case.
mai Vang Profile
mai Vang answered
I very agree with pencil and slammer. I believe that we human will always look for satisfactions to fit our expectations. We wont stop until we find it or realize that we are expecting too much and need to eliminate some.
In your situation I'm not sure if you meant as in relationship wise, just sex, or both. See when we see someone we think fits our category we want them badly until we open the book and read it and it turn out boring. You need to find out what you are longing for? What is your desire? Until then you'll never stop doing what you are doing.
Take the time to learn how to love what you have. If you keep doing what you're doing you might just end up like justness. She's lucky to have him waiting for her. What if he didn't wait? What if you lost him forever? I'd say rest the dating for now and find your inner self first.
maya gogo Profile
maya gogo answered
You can read the comment in pencil answer i think my story may help you to say your relationship by different way,,, thanks
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
You shouldn't worry about it. I have the same problem. Just enjoy the concept of dating right now until you find the perfect guy. Good Luck

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