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Is It Normal To Get Bored In A Relationship?

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Of course it is normal to become bored in a relationship especially after that first excitment and rush of that new love feeling ends. Then reality hits and life happens. It gets especially boring when you have the same routine each and every day in and out. It does not mean that you should break up or that the other wants to leave. Its a stage that every relationship goes through, especially after a long long long time together. To try to fix that for eachother you should discuss with your partner new and exciting things you can try together such as places you have never been, traveling, vacation, or just something romantic to try to get that spark back. If you are young and think that there is someone else better out there and you want to take a chance then go for it! It just depends on your situation I guess. Because I am in a long term relationship of 6 years, where not married he hasn't asked me I got bored probably 2 years into the relationship but I knew he was the one I wanted to be with! So I hope it works out for you and good luck! :)
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Elizabeth Jones commented
Well I do agree with your thought if you are young and single then you can move ahead but if you are married then you should have given second chance in your love life!!!!!!!!!!
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E Jacobson answered
Relationships always (or usually!) start off with intensity and longing, counting the hours till you see the other person again, thinking about them all the time and planning what to wear, what to do together etc.
Then gradually things even out and routine sets in. This is usually the test for any relationship, when you see each other tired, grumpy, she is hormonal or he just lost out on promotion etc. Boredom can creep in and if allowed to fester can signal a terminal decline in the relationship.
So in some ways it is normal to have some boredom in any long term relationship. But a relationship needs to be worked at and you need to find ways to overcome the boredom and still treat each other as special.
Try breaking out of your routines and doing something different, forget about the household chores once in a while and just go out and enjoy yourselves. And keep the spark alive in your relationship or it will soon be doomed to failure !
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Yes, this is quite common and does not mean that a break up is in your near future. When we settle and get comfortable with someone, we often grow listless and things feel stale. Try shaking this up, do something surprising, suggest a new, fun activity the two of you can do together to get that spark back. Good luck!
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I'm in high-school and have been with the same guy for a year, and I love the boy, but I am starting to get bored. We don't go on dates (his mother hates me), I don't see him outside of school and frankly. I'm bored. One of my good friends likes me and can do stuff with me, but I don't know if I will ever pass this boredom stage. I don't know whether to leave him, or just hang on.
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Well it can happen, sometimes you need to change things up.
It is important to talk about it if your feeling this way because your partner may be feeling the same way.
Don't let that feeling go without talking about it.
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It is quite normal.. But you need to do something.. Maybe you can play something (eg: Game).. The point is activities and you could do  something both of you have in common.. So, hope you enjoy your relationship.. Good luck to both of you..p/s: Beware, getting bored may ruin your relationships just like what I did.. If I can turn back time
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It is normal.... But there might be an underlying problem to why it is. It's VERY IMPORTANT to talk to your partner and try to figure out what you all can do to spice up you'lls relationship!
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I get bored so easily in relationships. I was with a boy for a month and I don't think I would have hung on,, I just get so bored !! I really think something is wrong with me because when I get the boy that I like, I stop loving him and I just want to be in proper love. I'm in high school so I don't know whether it is normal. But your not the only one.
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Okay how about this...
I moved to another city where I thought I would only be for a short while until I met a guy and we feel head over heals for eachother. Now two years later we live together and we still very much love eachother and have a great time every time we see eachother.

I am growing so tired of this hell hole and frankly I just want to leave because I am certainly not happy. Everyone says to do what make syou happy but what if that is chosing between the love of your life and your home. He has a very successful company here and unfortunately I as he has told me he wouldnt move back home with me ever.

What do I do?
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Bambi Bextor answered
I have been in a great relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year now, which for me being in high school and him in college, it is a big deal. Although I seem to be getting bored and can feel myself drifting away. And I also found him messaging another girl that I don't know. I'm worried that he is interested in her, but I don't want to say anything because I haven't found any hard evidence and he deleted the messages between them. I don't want to break up with him since he has given me a promise ring and we have already talked about marriage. But I feel as though my life is too planned out.

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