Hey katherynf, I do have to agree with lovelyme on this one. I'm not sure how old you are but I want to enlighten you on the dating life. It is a game to guys sometimes and others it is really the way they feel. Basically anytime a woman likes a man a lot and shows it..a lot, they guy will pull away and reject her. Sometimes it is because he is afraid and other times it is because he is playing a game (kinda like cat and mouse) But lovelyme has a point. And I'm not trying to be offensive but you may not actually be in love, it may actually be infatuation or obsession. Basically it could just be the whole "wanting something you can't have" type of thing. You will find true love someday and you will realize that when you are in love, your boyfriend will not act that way. He will actually reciprocate your feelings.
It sounds strange to me. Why will you love someone more when getting rejection? I guess it's not love. Love is a mutual thing and is from both side. I guess the relationship by your definition is like a war. When the enemy gets more powerful, you have more desire to beat it. You may change when you find true love, and good luck!