They do it because we allow it to be done. If you didn't make excuses or buy things he needs, he would have no choice but to get a job..but instead we try to make things easier for them. If they smoke, don't by them ciggs. If they drink soda, they don't get soda. If they watch tv all day, get the cable turned off. Do not allow someone to live with you who is not willing to put forth the effort that you do. Do not pay thier bills, tell them to go live with thier momma if they are looking for someone to take care of them. All your going to do is end up resenting him and everything he does. Don't allow someone Else's problems to become yours. You don't feel sorry for every bum you see on the street, so why feel sorry for the bum sitting on your couch..because he has better clothes on?! I am ashamed on what generation x men have become..sure there are some decent ones but the majority can not fix a car, they are too lazy to get jobs doing labor intensive work, half of them don't work and instead they run around town in their girlfriends car all day. Think about how many times you have pulled up to a wigger or wannabe rocker and they are sitting in the passenger seat of their girls car. Men are not what they used to be. To the good guys, this shouldn't offend you because you know you take of yours! If you are offended..take a good look at yourself!
Why does my boyfriend think that I am his maid and if I want to live in a clean house, why should I do IT ALL!!!!!
I'm in the process of fixing the same problem :) what has been helping for me is giving him a day in advance to gather himself for what I have scheduled out for us. But whatever you do don't make it to easy for him to be lazy, like if you want him to get a job, DON'T go get applications for him, you can take him to apply somewhere though, or if you want him to clean something don't eventually do it for him after asking him to do it a million times, tell him you NEED his help. I've learned with my b/f when I tell him "I NEED" something I usually get what I need to be done, done.
Make absolute sure that you do things that aren't lazy that he would want to do. Try out watching sports with him or something for a while and then say "I did what you wanted to do, now you show me some respect and do what I want to do too!"
Do things he likes to do, buy him some vitamins or a energy drink.