How do I stop being jealous? I get jealous with my boyfriend very easily and I even got jealous over a girl who turned out to be his cousin. I keep it to myself though but I have a problem.


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dragonfly forty-six Profile

Work on your self esteem. Do things to encourage your own worth and personal growth. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. I think it's great that you've acknowledged that this could be your problem. Jealousy is unattractive in a mate, and some can get tired of that behavior eventually. It's a good thing you are here to ask for suggestions. You can't work on or change what you are unwilling to acknowledge. Good luck.

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Arthur Wright , Florida Paralegal with a BS degree in Social-Psychology, answered

A little jealousy in any relationship is a good thing as it keeps one on ones toes. Its when jealousy becomes an obsession, that it becomes a problem like when jealousy consumes and takes over ones life. What youre experiencing here is quite normal and we all go thru it but try and understand the difference between jealousy and obsession. Uncontrolled obsession can push people over the edge if they aren't careful so know the difference. Jealousy usually makes people do stupid things  and can destroy any relationship if allowed.  Yes you are border line obsessed with this guy but chances are youre still young and watching too many romance movies and this feeling will eventually calm down and go away but never completely. What I tell many clients is that if you start to feel consumed or overwhelmed by someone, take a step back  and do some soul searching as to why.  Is this true love or is it infatuation where jealousy really shows its ugly head and understand that jealousy can destroy but real true love can overcome all so figure out if this guy himself is causing you to feel this way and why is he doing it, and then try to figure out if this really is the relationship for you or not. Good luck

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