My Husband Says He Loves Me But Thinks He's In Love With Another Women. What Do I Do?

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terry rossignol answered
Is this the same guy that was getting strange phone calls and you couldn't find out who it was? I would sit him down and talk because you don't need to be put on the back burner and wait for him. life is too short and you deserve better then that!!!! Best of luck rossi
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susan dixon answered
He sounds like he wants his cake and eat it, don't be a doormat tell him it is her or you there is no in between. If you love him fight for him if you don't love him let go and enjoy your life as well. Hope this helps
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Anonymous answered
I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am in the same boat as you. After 14 years of being with each other 9 married my husband cheated on me with a girl he met at his work. He said that he wants to work on our relationship and wants to fall back in love with me again but I do a little snooping and find that he is still contacting her through a friend and also visits her facebook often which she conveniently leaves open for anyone to see. I am at wits end. He has been the love of my life and I know our relationship wasnt the greatest the last couple of years but I would never have done what he has done. I confront him and he says that he just wants to make sure that she is ok. He has confessed that he still has feelings for her and it will take time to get over it. How can he get over her when he still makes contact with her one way or another. I wish I had an answer for you. All I can say is stay strong and be true to you. Make sure if what you are fighting for is worth it. I am starting to wonder if this battle that I am fighting to make this relationship work is worth my tears and heartache.
Hang in there and God bless
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jason
jason commented
Hi. I am in a similar situation. My husband is 53 and is having an affair with a 20 year old prostitute. He pays for her apartment, gold , motorbike, clothes, shoes etc, and gives her money so she does not have to sleep with other men. He says he loves her. When I tried to leave him he broke down and said he will kill himself if II go. But now he says he can not leave her or me. I am only staying for a few more weeks as I have had all I can take. I think he is having a breakdown.
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Anonymous answered
Alright this may sound weird but I would snoop around... But don't get too carried away... And talk to him and talk about the trust game and tell him if he can't choose between you who he has "loved" for 18 years than somebody else I wouldn't waste my time with him..unless you have children together under the age of 16 cause it hurts them worse than you know... But after you are with someone for that long love just becomes just another word like hey.. And if none of my advice is working than try to spice up his life a little more to make him realise this is what my marriage is all about!! :]
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paul williams answered
I would leave him as clearly he doesn't respect you. You have been together for many years and he is focused on someone else. Let him know this is unacceptable if he wont budge he uis history. Good luck if he is cheating he is no man anyway. It takes more a man to say no to others advances and makes them more respectful a person to say no.
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Anonymous answered
He doesn't want to work very hard on our relationship if he doesn't want to give her up. Why ARE you putting up with this?

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