I have a boyfriend that I have been with for about a year and a half. He always checks out girls in front of my face. He knows I am already self-conscious about my looks and I have repeatedly explained to him that when he does check out other girls it kills me inside. It makes me feel ugly. And so he tells me "It's not like I'm ever going to see her again" "I'm never going to cheat on you" "You are over-reacting". Guys just aren't worth your tears and stress. Play it back to him. Check out guys in front of his face. Make him see how it feels. That's what I did and he felt bad and hasn't been doing it much lately. And when he does, I do the same back too him by spotting out some hottie :)
If a man starts looking at other women when he is with you, he is being disrespectful to you. Maybe you could let him know how you feel by looking at him while he is looking at her. Keep looking at him until he looks back at you again, so he knows you saw what he has been doing. Tell him, "If the shoe were on the other foot, you will also not like it."
The it's "NORMAL" & "MEN LOOK BY NATURE" is BULL! Of course a man is going to say that to make an excuse! That's the excuse they use to make it seem like you're overreacting. Well it's NOT normal and don't put up with it. Nobody should be disrespected that way no matter what!
No guy should ever make a girl feel that she is loved if he will notice other girls.. that does not make us feel special or loved... so note to ALL GUYS: stop making your girls feel like they are not good enough .. this is a very common problem..... discuss with your man the issue at hand and if he doesn't fix the problem then he isn't worth your time...everyone deserves to feel like they don't have to hide in the house to get attention from a guy.. woman wants to feel that wherever she goes with her man that he will only pay attention to her and her alone ...that's how it should be period!!!
My boyfriend does this. He's basically the best thing I've ever had, we've been together for two years, but he makes no secret of every girl he thinks is hot. As in he'll not only look, he'll tell me all about it. The thing is, he's not a jerk; he's just an idiot. The moment I spoke up about it he shut his mouth and never said another word. Don't expect a guy to be able to read your mind. If you HAVE talked to him about it, and he's brushed you off as insecure, kick him where it hurts and walk right out. If it makes you insecure, he should stop; it's not up to him to decide your feelings.
P.S. Nope. I don't check out other guys. No, not even celebrities, because 1) I know it would hurt him and 2) I'm happy with him. Plus, I'm anonymous, what do I have to gain by lying?
If she is grabbing his attention away from you in any way then you shouldn't be with him anyway, or express to him that it bugs you when he's checking out another girl, if he still does it, dump his stupid ass.
Its a hard one because it depends on how he treats you in general . Does he kiss you when you visit him . Does he compliment you regularly . Is he interested in what you do or have to say . Does he tell you your special . If in general he is treating you correctly and you have no other reason but to trust him then him checkin a girl out is not a big deal . But if he lets the girl know by making eye contact or stuff like that more than say a few seconds and more than once then he is sending signals to that other girl that she does it for him and to us women it then from the other woman's point of view look s like . Either your man is a sleaze ball or that he ain't happy with his girl . There is nothing worse than being neglected and then wearing your best then going on a nice meal or evening out and knowing that your fella would send them signals to other women . But whether your insecure or not that is something men can not get away with . Its a pride thing as well . But you treat us women correctly then we can forgive a bit of eye wandering as it is silly to expect you to only be attracted to the one person . Women are generally in love and could not imagine being with any one else but even us after a few days of rowing with our guys can end up having a little look and a giggle . But in general the difference is for us is . . Women can be dressed in a 1001 different provocative ways and men just look smart . So us women have a lot more competition regardless how attractive we may be . . So the key is keep your eve simple . Respect the one your with and grow up you men who think the grass is greener . Unless your being treated like dirt .
You should look at other guys when he looks at other girls, see how he feels about that....maybe he'll get the point
Its not YOUR JOB to avert his eyes. Its his job not to look at other women. Thats disrespectful to you. If you generally can't handle other women looking at your man then don't get a boyfriend either. But never let a man disrespect you.
I just don't even know. It just depends how YOU feel about it. Everyone has different morals and feelings about things. Most people don't seem to really grab the concept of COMMUNICATION. Say what you feel, regardless. Someone who truly loves you should respect your feelings, and you should always talk about things, because it will just build up and then something worse could come out of it. I personally don't like it when my boyfriend checks out other girls. He admitted it to me. But girls, you need to know not to overreact about things. Don't explode and freak out. Think about it, take time to get to know what you feel and what. Then firmly state what you believe. And if it doesn't work, dump him. Don't let your boyfriend say the excuse of "Oh it's just a guy thing" or something like that, it's a terrible excuse. His actions shouldn't be made up for by the rest of the male population. Relationships are tough, sometimes even being single for a while without dating and getting to know yourself is healthier.
First of all If youve taken the time to let him know how you feel when he's still doing that then theres no other reason why you need to pull out crayons and color anything in for him. He should of gotten it and one because one your his lady the other because your A LADY! If he needs to look at others in front or beind you then he's looking fior someting more. RESPECT! RESPECT! And it doesnt show very much of how his mother or father brought him up. Men can be 21 or 50 it doesn't matter its whats in his heart toward that person. Things should come from inside,of how they want to be treated. I was in the same situation at one time and no I didnt stare at him till he looked at me,not going to degrade myself like that at all! I waited and when I got home I asked him if he could just hear me out think about what I was going to say and then in about 20-30 minutes if he could come back and let me know what he thinks about what I had expressed to him. NOT TELL HIM! Express! Men don't do well when, us women are on the edge and they feel under attack. You have to say that the outcome can be good as long as he's willing to think about or it can go a better way and you both break up. That just goes to show that he wasn't willing to treat you like the women you are and theres something in store for you,which will be way better!!!!! So if you have to go through the heartache do changes to you're self inside and out to leave the old and pain behind and find the crazy,bubbly, outgoing person you know you are inside. Shoot! Everyone has that somebody inside of them,everyone! Good Luck and remember you are a lady and deserve to be treated like one!
I was feeling jealous until I read a lot of your responses. Most of you are very immature and selfish. Men think about sex about 80 % of the day against their will, and yes, they cannot help but look when a beautiful girl walks by. Like my man says to me, "It's enjoyable to see a beautiful person and it is you who I come home to every night. Most of those girls may look good, but I'm sure a lot of them can hardly carry on an interesting conversation." I understand feeling jealous if your man is making serious eye contact with another woman or very vulgar comments. And if that is the case, yes, your man is most likely a sleaze. I am more upset with myself for getting jealous than with my man for looking, and I think a lot of you should be thinking that way as well. I think that all women should begin to appreciate the beauty of other women. You all know that the only reason why you get jealous is because you are insecure with yourselves. I know that that is why I do. If you were to agree that a woman is beautiful or even let it turn you on a bit, your man would find you even more attractive... Because confidence is the most attractive trait, and if you haven't noticed, that's probably why your man is looking at the other women in the first place. Thanks a lot for helping me put that all into perspective by realizing how ridiculous we all sound.
Men will look at other women. Its biologically inbuilt in them to react that way. As long as he is not flirting or sending them signals or commenting, ignore it or dress up sexy so men will look at you and see if he likes it. Don't worry about it too much unless its obvious and you think might lead to cheating. Otherwise, be confident and don't compare yourself to someone else.
I am 12 week and this is not my first child the father always looks at other women yes it gets me very mad if he was looking at a teen like she was 16 or younger to me thats sick. My boyfriend will be 40 and I am 36. I have a next door girl that lives down stars from me.. He talks to her for hours and don't let me know sometimes. And yes I get mad because she have a boyfriend that lives with her that he works and never home. And she is alone all the time but when she see my boyfriend they talk a lot but when I am around she never talks to me it seems she talks to him.she is very young she is 26 and very pretty.I like to say yes my mad goes on porn every time and yes I get mad because it make me feel that I don't look good to him.and yes he is crazy about sex's every day I can't do that sometimes ...and yes when he looks at a women or a young girl he just don't just look and turn his head he just star..thats bad for me...
Well I'm a freshmen in high school and I'm with this peron and ive been with him for 8 months and when he walks me to my classes .....he stares at this girl and I caught him actually doing it and I was talking to him and he didnt hear me and hes all like what sorry can you say that again?and I was so upset and sad in class, I really didnt feel like talking, I felt like she was taking him away and its something that I fear of because ive never felt this before.and then when the next day comes he does it again and again and again! So! I was so tired of the same thing every single morning.. He tells me that it doesnt mean anything so he says that he loves me and blah blah blah....all guys are like this, its so impossible to find someone that actually understands you and the way you feel.. But what he did in front of my face is disrespectful and will never forget that day.that was a horrible feeling.
I'm also lookin for advice, and have been readin everyones answer. Its honestly really hard to trust someone. Everyone that I have ever trusted did me wrong. And now that I'm with this girl, I think she is going to be just like everyone else. And its really hard for me to trust her. I work all day and she currently don't, and I don't know what to do...I don't want to be without her, but I don't want to be unhappy worrying either...
Men by nature are visual creatures. Ever notice how much art has the female form? The curve of sculptures that are pleasant to the eye? Wether they admit to it or not, most men look. He is just obvious about it and oblivious to how it makes you feel. I will point out that most men will flatly deny that they know wether another man is attractive or not... Not true. We know, too many of us are just uncomfortable admitting it. He should not be looking at women if he is with you, but he is going to look. Women are beautiful, they are a pleasure to look at. If he is staring at a women's breasts, or watching some girls butt... Well that's a little different (not much but a little). But if he is looking and appreciating beauty, it doesn't mean that he is thinking of pursuing her or thinking sexually about her. It is like the difference of looking at Hustler or looking at Playboy.
JUST dress it up. If there's a chance that you've let yourself go since being with him it's time you change and put on your best outfit everytime you go out. If that doesn't work and he's still looking you have to get rid of him because he's probably just lost interest and you can do better.
If you were secure with your self and your relationship then you shouldn't care if he looks. He is a man they are going to look. If you no that you are pleasing him and everything is good on the home front then don't let yourself stress. It makes you look like your not confident in yourself. Like your second guessing you.
It sounds as though you have trust issues. Guys, by nature, will look at other females just as females look at other guys (and usually will not admit it). Granted, guys are much more obvious. It does not mean that a guy likes you any less or would even imagine cheating on you. You should talk to your guy about your feelings and see if he can be more descreet in his actions as he may not know that it bothers you such as it does. You must also trust him and know that it means nothing and that he will be true to you.
Well don't be so jealous just trust him and play along with it . It will be more fun ..