A Person Who Does Not Accept Responsibility For Anything That Happens In Their Life, Manipulative, Aggressive, Verbally Abusive, Can Be Physically Abusive At Times, Self-serving, Self-absorbed, Cannot Work Well With Others, Must Be In Control, Must Always Be Right, Sexually Inappropriate, Incest, Thumb Sucking Adult, Lying, Cannot Take Direction Or Suggestion, Blames Everyone For Anything That Happens, Hates Mother, Hates Sister, Jealous Of Sister, Sex With Brother As Adult, Threats Suicide, No Lasting Relationships, No Healthy Relationships, Resents Being Asked To Help Another, Thinks Everyone Has Ulterior Motives, Tries To Turn Family Members Against Each Other, Sixty Year Old Female, Child Like In Behaviors And Mannerisms, Low Self Worth, Grossly Over Weight, Seek Attention, Seeks Attention Through Childlike Mannerisms These Are Just A Few Of The Characteristics Of This Person. What Is Their Problem?

I think she ought to be evaluated and receive intense therapy. She is very intelligent, had a master's degree from Smith College, a very prestigious university. It is frustrating because she has the intellectual knowledge but is totally detached from applying it to herself. I was just wondering if there was a diagnosis like sociopath, or narcissist for example that I could share with my mother as she is very concerned and gets the brunt of her violent outbursts. The other concern I have is that she works mostly with children and while she seems to get along very well with them, the adults around her suffer greatly. She is a self-employed, a master puppeteer. She never has been able to work for anyone, because she does not like to be told what to do in any way shape or form. If anyone can give me some clue as to how to deal with hthis I would appreciate it. We live in NC.

I have no background in psychiatry at all but have run across a few people in my life that remind me of this person. I always attributed their problems to low intellect, selfishness, and laziness. Sadly, I never saw much change in them over the years, in fact, they seemed to be very resistant to change, and never improved appreciably in any respect. A shame you have to deal with this person, must be a real strain on you. There are facilities (in Texas, anyway) that accept people like this on a full time, full care basis...

It sounds to me like this person has a character disorder... These traits (if you can call them that), sound to me like a combination of borderline , hystrionic and narcissistic personality/character disorders. If you goole them in mentalhealth.com or someplace similar, you can find out more specifics and will see many similarities to her and these diagnosis. I hope this person can get some counsel, as they would most likely have been severly damaged by life to have taken on these behaviors to cope. I'm sorry for her.

Hi revjulie,

Has this information been put into her permanent file? LOL.

This sounds suspiciously like my 55 year-old sister, the one with whom I have had NO CONTACT with since about 1982 and will never admit that I have. She is not worth the stress she causes me (just the thought of her gives me terrible stress! UGH!), and I consider her type to be a TOXIC PERSON.

We grew up in the same house and were born 9 years apart; she was my parents' favorite. In my teenaged years I watched her beat both my mother and my father, torture our dogs, kick me down the stairs and be otherwise reckless.

She also forged my signature on bank accounts to put them into her name (after I moved to Nevada), and she spent that plus all the money my dad had saved up. My poor dad did not even have the money to buy a gallon of milk, never mind his insulin the week before he died.

I don't want to know what her problems are, I don't care, and I never want to hear from her again!

I have never told this to anyone but my husband. Please forgive me for venting on all of you; I find it very borderline but I felt the need to share this with you revjulie. Thanks for listening and please accept my apology if I have been too harsh.

Happy Holidays!!

This person exhibits many signs of childhood sexual abuse.