A Person Who Does Not Accept Responsibility For Anything That Happens In Their Life, Manipulative, Aggressive, Verbally Abusive, Can Be Physically Abusive At Times, Self-serving, Self-absorbed, Cannot Work Well With Others, Must Be In Control, Must Always Be Right, Sexually Inappropriate, Incest, Thumb Sucking Adult, Lying, Cannot Take Direction Or Suggestion, Blames Everyone For Anything That Happens, Hates Mother, Hates Sister, Jealous Of Sister, Sex With Brother As Adult, Threats Suicide, No Lasting Relationships, No Healthy Relationships, Resents Being Asked To Help Another, Thinks Everyone Has Ulterior Motives, Tries To Turn Family Members Against Each Other, Sixty Year Old Female, Child Like In Behaviors And Mannerisms, Low Self Worth, Grossly Over Weight, Seek Attention, Seeks Attention Through Childlike Mannerisms These Are Just A Few Of The Characteristics Of This Person. What Is Their Problem?

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Julie McKay-Wilkinson Profile
I think she ought to be evaluated and receive intense therapy. She is very intelligent, had a master's degree from Smith College, a very prestigious university. It is frustrating because she has the intellectual knowledge but is totally detached from applying it to herself. I was just wondering if there was a diagnosis like sociopath, or narcissist for example that I could share with my mother as she is very concerned and gets the brunt of her violent outbursts. The other concern I have is that she works mostly with children and while she seems to get along very well with them, the adults around her suffer greatly. She is a self-employed, a master puppeteer. She never has been able to work for anyone, because she does not like to be told what to do in any way shape or form. If anyone can give me some clue as to how to deal with hthis I would appreciate it. We live in NC.
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eugene hunt answered
I have no background in psychiatry at all but have run across a few people in my life that remind me of this person. I always attributed their problems to low intellect, selfishness, and laziness. Sadly, I never saw much change in them over the years, in fact, they seemed to be very resistant to change, and never improved appreciably in any respect. A shame you have to deal with this person, must be a real strain on you. There are facilities (in Texas, anyway) that accept people like this on a full time, full care basis...
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Narcissists are akin to sociopaths. There is no cure for their malevolent behavior. They must be quarantined, controlled and neutralized. I know what damage malignant narcissists do. I am one. I have injured so many decent people that it is no wonder that I am a social pariah. Narcissists are not, contrary to pop-psychology paradigms, "wounded" people who just so happen to inflict their wounded selves on others. Narcissism is innate. No bad experiences create narcissists. We narcissists are the embodiment of what ethicists and theologians would call EVIL. We prey on the vulnerable. We prey on the weak. Particularly, we target women. If any class of human should be exterminated it is the narcissist.
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My ex likes to have his ass kissed, things bought as if his best friend is his mom. NPD people have either been abused by their parents or pampered too much. They also were complimented when not needed and not balanced of an upbringing. Just as his friend is fighting alcoholism, yet he takes her 2 parties & protects her from drinking, by telling ppl she does not drink. She is bipolar as well. She thinks it is support, when it is not. He is angry, depressed, very obese, and a loser.
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Those who are SMI people need to stay away from if they have not got help to control their behaviors. All they do is destroy lives because their life is out of bounds. Everyone has mental problems and every family is dysfunctional, but there are different levels and the levels is what depends on the way anothers life is effected with dealing with this person who is SMI. Some want help, but most don't even try to do better.
suzanna mathison Profile
It sounds to me like this person has a character disorder... These traits (if you can call them that), sound to me like a combination of borderline , hystrionic and narcissistic personality/character disorders. If you goole them in mentalhealth.com or someplace similar, you can find out more specifics and will see many similarities to her and these diagnosis. I hope this person can get some counsel, as they would most likely have been severly damaged by life to have taken on these behaviors to cope. I'm sorry for her.
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Julie McKay-Wilkinson
It appears to me, having grown up in the same house, that the damage did not come from my parents. No they were not perfect parents, but they were loving, supportive and always available for us, even to this day. From the moment I was born and she had to share the spotlight, so to speak, she has resented me. There is so much incorrect informaiton in her mind and thinking, that if she would just be willing to look at it more realistically, she would be better off. I feel sorry for her as well because I know she is not happy, never has been. My mom and I have done everything we could do to make her life easier. We have assisted when she was in need without question. But she disregards that and says no one supports her. What do you do with that?? I am concerned for her because she eventually shows herself and the people around her stay away. She will be alone completely and that concerns me as she has threatened suicide several times in the past when things were not going the way she wanted...
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This sounds very much like my husband. Although I don't fuel out histrionic or borderline, and both are difficult to deal with and treat, the one you should be concerned about is narcissism. Most narcissists also have a sever victim complex. Nothing is ever their fault, everything in life that makes them unhappy can be blamed on someone else. Be especially careful not to enable this person as they can seem to genuinely need help. Narcissists are masters at manipulation, charming when they need to be, gracious whenever they receive help to the point that is is difficult not to assist them. However it is the absolute most harmful thing!!! Revjulie said she and her mother try to make the woman's life easy for her, that sounds suspiciously like enabling. Be careful.
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Jo W. answered
Hi revjulie,

Has this information been put into her permanent file? LOL.

This sounds suspiciously like my 55 year-old sister, the one with whom I have had NO CONTACT with since about 1982 and will never admit that I have. She is not worth the stress she causes me (just the thought of her gives me terrible stress! UGH!), and I consider her type to be a TOXIC PERSON.

We grew up in the same house and were born 9 years apart; she was my parents' favorite. In my teenaged years I watched her beat both my mother and my father, torture our dogs, kick me down the stairs and be otherwise reckless.

She also forged my signature on bank accounts to put them into her name (after I moved to Nevada), and she spent that plus all the money my dad had saved up. My poor dad did not even have the money to buy a gallon of milk, never mind his insulin the week before he died.

I don't want to know what her problems are, I don't care, and I never want to hear from her again!

I have never told this to anyone but my husband. Please forgive me for venting on all of you; I find it very borderline but I felt the need to share this with you revjulie. Thanks for listening and please accept my apology if I have been too harsh.

Happy Holidays!!
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Julie McKay-Wilkinson
No not too harsh...I understand! Vent all you need to! Have a peace-filled holiday!
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Wow poor you
Jo W.
Jo W. commented
Dearest Revjulie and Crazygirl1,

Thanks for your kind thoughts; please know that they are truly appreciated.

As I just informed this 'guest', who managed to tick me off in short order, my sister died yesterday of kidney failure, a complication of her diabetes, 10 days after her 57the birthday on June 13.

Thanks all for your kind thoughts and the prayers that I know will follow.

I love you all, and thanks again!

Jo
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This person exhibits many signs of childhood sexual abuse.
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Jo W. commented
She was not sexually abused.

And by the by, just for everyone's 4-1-1, she died yesterday morning of kidney failure, a complication of her severe (morbid) diabetes.

Thank you.
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Wow they sound crazy to me! You should get them help.
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Wow, YOU think they sound "CRAZY"...to YOU!?!? Yeah, inside your own fabricated twisted molded feeble mind of yours they sound "crazy", but in the TRUE reality, they are NOT crazy; In fact, they are VERY normal!! You like to THINK inside your own molded fabricated weak mind that they are "crazy", but that's because you have been brainwashed into believing so, but people who carry these behavior traits are IN FACT VERY NORMAL!!! YOU are the one who should be having people getting YOU some HELP!!!

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