Why Won't He Call Me His Girlfriend?

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Yo Kass answered
There are a number of reasons that a guy may not want to refer to you as his girlfriend, but unfortunately none of them are good news. If he feels strongly about you, defining your relationship as that of girlfriend and boyfriend should be fairly straightforward. The fact that he has reservations about taking such a simple step would suggest that there's more going on than meets the eye.

Why doesn't he want to call me his girlfriend?

Whether he's doing it on purpose or subconsciously, the usual reason  a guy gets uncomfortable using the term 'girlfriend' is because it will rule him out of the bidding when it comes to other women.

Either of the following may be plausible in this situation:
  • He has someone else in mind that he doesn't want to discourage. Until he openly refers to you as a girlfriend, what you have is just a casual fling that other women won't feel bad about interfering with.
  • He wants to keep his options open in general. He may not have a particular person in mind, but he's happy with things the way they are and doesn't want to commit himself to something that'll be difficult for him to bring to an end.
When will he call me his girlfriend? The above answers are very likely the reason why he is finding it difficult to use the term 'girlfriend'. However, before you confront him about it - take some time to consider the following:

  • Has he had any issues with previous relationships? If he's been hurt or betrayed in the past this may have made him wary about relationships.
  • Is there anything to suggest he's already seeing someone else? Guys that don't do 'relationships' may find the idea of multiple casual relationships more appealing. If this is the case you should drop him faster than a radioactive cow-pat!
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Barbara Lopez answered
Well, if a boy doesn't call you his girlfriend then his is just being a jerk. Talk to him and tell him how you feel; and ask him why doesn't he call you his girlfriend. Maybe he's embarrassed - he shouldn't be, but ask him -'ll you never know until you do so just go for it and p.s. Good luck.
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For the most part we spend a lot time together, so I know there isn't anyone else... But I think he still wants to appear available. But he also tells people he's seeing someone so... I don't get it. He always tells me he loves me and to communicate with him in our relationship, but how can you call it a relationship, which it is, if he can't call me his girlfriend? Nothing would change but a title. I feel embarrassed to even bring this up to him.
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Anonymous answered
He might not call you his girlfriend because he might have another girl on the side, in which case you shouldn't want him - or he might just be afraid of commitment.

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