I Asked My Boyfriend If He's Angry Or Upset Because I Ditched Him To Be With Another Guy, And He Keeps Saying 'I'm Fine'. What Does He Really Mean?


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Tracy Koroma answered
He probably means that he's not happy, but he's accepted it, and is trying to get over the whole thing.

To be honest, I think it's pretty unreasonable to expect your boyfriend to be okay with what happened - if you ditched him for someone else, and then got back with him, it's natural that he's going to feel wounded.

It'll probably take some time before he's okay about it.

What Might My Boyfriend Be Feeling?
  • Hurt
  • Wounded
  • Insecure
  • Confused
  • Jealous
  • Annoyed
  • Frustrated
The fact that you're back together is a good start - you should be grateful he took you back at all, as many men wouldn't have done.

Every time that you ask your boyfriend if he's okay, you're reminding him of what happened, which isn't going to help him get over it. In fact, it's probably just going to make him feel worse.

If you've already had a good talk about what happened, and have both said everything that needs to be said, then all you can really do now is try to get on with life as normal.

It's going to take time, but if you work at it, there's a chance you'll be able to get your relationship back on track. If you can't, then you're just going to have to accept that.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Sounds that he is not too bothered about being ditched. Perhaps he too had doubts about the relationship working out.
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lj Garcia answered

I guess that would depend on what kind of relationship you guys have and how good your communication is. If you have a good communication, don't worry, he understood and knows you well enough to trust you. If comm. Is not so good or he is getting a little cold, he needs some explanation or a little talk.

To avoid this, just remember to be as clear as possible as what the expectations in the relationship are and what is tolerated and what is not in regards to friends of the opposite sex. That might help.

Good luck!

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Anonymous answered
"I'm fine" means he's okay with the arrangements. "I'm fine" is one of the biggest lies told in relationships, and usually, those saying "I'm fine" are not.

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