My Friend Won't Talk To Me And I Didn't Do Anything Wrong. What Should I Do?

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Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I have fallen out with a mate over some silly argument as well, but I do reckon you need to just give them time to miss you. Don't contact them or send letters just say your apology and leave it at that. Then leave it up to them. If they don't come around there not worth having in your life then because true friends would let it go and forgive you. But the more you contact them the more they will pull away.
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Anonymous answered
Step one, accept some blame (it takes two to argue). Two: Give him/her a little time (maybe a day or two). Three: Apologize (even if it's just for arguing back). Four: Try talking to him/her as though nothing had happened.

Easiest way is to make them laugh or invite them to the mall or something.

If at any time he/she wants to talk about it, make sure to listen and don't let yourself get angry. As long as you are two individuals, you can never agree on everything.

This is not a promise for success, but it's more or less how I've handled such things in the past.
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jenny smith answered
Don't hound her for conversation. Give her time and space and she will talk to to you. If she explains what the deal was then great. If she doesn't its on you if you ask why she wouldn't speak to you. You know your friend better than me so that s your call. If she doesn't speak to again then keep it moving to the next relationship. If she can't tell you whats going on then she isn't very mature. Friendships grow and change...maybe you should consider that change now
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Anonymous answered
I'm in middle school and I'm having the same problem. My friend has done this before. Today I tried to ask her what did I do wrong. Then she told me that she would text my other friend to tell me what was wrong. I told her that I was tired of all of her bullcrap and I walked away. Sometimes you have to confront somebody and move on. Don't let people play with your emotions like that!
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Anonymous answered
Sometimes people need their space. There may be something going on you don't know about give it a few days and give them their space. After a few days if nothing has changed approach them with how you feel about the lack of communication.

Good luck
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April Victorine answered
Best friends never really hate each other, some times best friends say that because they are just so frustrated with the situation at hand, I would just let them cool off for a couple of days and then try to talk to them...good luck
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Anonymous answered
I'm going through it too. We didnt talk for 2 months then we talked again for about 3 months now I send her emails, messages, phone calls, she wont answer. I'm just gunna give her space and time to cool down. It gets easier it really does.
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Anonymous answered
First you must admit to the problem that you were fighting about and then you must accept that you are wrong or right and you must be willing to let it go and put it behind you.  Then you need to talk to your friend if they will and apologize for the problem and let them know that it is behind you now and ask them if they are willing to let it go.  If they want talk to you write them a note and apologize let them know that you love them and you were wrong and you want to make up. If you make up do something that they like to do and have  a great time doing it. Remember to always live life to the fullest and never go to bed mad we don't know when it will be the last time. Say what you have to say while you are here because flowers can't tell the story if you are not.
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nettie answered
Make more friends,don't rely on one person as your friend because that will make them feel important,when they don't want to talk to you, it makes you feel bad so get more friends so you won't miss one when they decide they don't want to communicate with you.....you always have me good luck baby girl,but that is a part of life and growing up,don't worry she will be back wanting to talk and will be talking about one of the people she is friends with now...good luck and do shout.....  
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Anonymous answered
You need to get together it could be on the phone or at school then you need to say what you feel and she needs to say what she feels and if that doesn't work then you know that something else is bothering both of you and, you just need to write down all the questions you guys have then answer them for the other person and don't forgett that sorry means that you will do something about it!
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It depends on what happend. But whatever you do, don't say anything rude or hurtful. Leave your friend to cool off, BUT be civil. Friends need to have other friends, and space too. X
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Anonymous answered
It's not really your fault that he likes you, and I can understand why she's mad at you.
But she shouldn't be getting upset or mad at you over a guy, you can't really help that he likes you.
And other people have their own opinions, and if you really had tried talking to her many times, I suggest to let it go because if she's sticking to her own belief and opinion about the situation and not listening to you she's not going to change her mind.
If she was a good friend, she'd listen.
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Anonymous answered
Well, best friends always have a little spat here and there that is part of living! People are not always going to agree on every little thing but in the end if you are true to each other and honest and open you should not have any trouble at all moving on with you friendship! If it is something that you did or said just apologize and be very sincere and let them know that you did not mean to hurt them in any way and that is the last thing you would want to do to your best friend!
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Anonymous answered
Oh god, I'm in this situation at the moment. My best Friend does this over the smallest things. To be honest I think its childish. Just pretend that you don't care, she'll see that like how your hanging out with other freinds and es specially when she's around laugh EXTRA hard, look happy ect. She probably will come to her senses and forget
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Rose answered
Figure out what you did to your best friend. If you did something wrong and that leads to hating you so much..then try to apologize. If she/he decline then just move on with your life....Remember best friends can walk out of your life anytime soon. And I know I am not helping at all.  It's not like you are going to die.. Life goes on. Good luck..
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Anonymous answered
Sometimes people are over-sensitive, especially when what you're saying it true. You don't say how old you are but a short note rarely goes wrong. Mention that you feel badly, that you didn't want to lose her as a friend again but that you were only trying to help her realise that she's letting people walk all over her. As a good friend, it's your duty to protect her from things like this.
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Anonymous answered
If your really sorry ...apologise to her!!...if shes still mad at you...don't get annoyed ....keep smiling n be normal...give her a sweet sorry card...write about your times together,your songs...also write about how much she means to you....throw in some quotes and jokes .....if she smiles after reading the card, that means she has forgiven you....give it a try....I'm sure it'll work!!
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Anonymous answered
Good idea: If you did something mean to him/her, try to apologize. But if your friend doesn't say anything, move on. And if he/she's done something bad to you, get new friends!
Bad idea: GET REVENGE. If you do that, your soon-to-be-ex-BFF will hate you even more! :(
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Anonymous answered
Here is how its going to work. You need to give them time. The number one problem with most friendships is that voicing yourself can be taken more as a criticism than a constructive one. If she cannot forgive you or understand what your true intentions were then she is not a suitable friend. I really only have one side of the story so a reasonable response is hard to come by perhaps I could help more in depth if I had more info.
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Anonymous answered
If the friendship is a true friendship and it is something that you both want, then yes it can happen. Sometimes, even after resolving your disagreement, the friendship is never the same. It just depends on what happened, how long before you tried to talk to one another about the problem. I wish you luck and if the friendship is something you truly value - let that person know.
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Julie Woods answered
Just give her some space for now.  Be pleasant to her.  Eventually, she will get to the point where she will allow you an opening for a discussion.  If she is and was truly your best friend, she'll come around.  If she wasn't a loyal friend from the start, let her go.
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dj rocks answered
After the fight ,act in such a way that your friends behaviour has broken your heart . After that send her a message that you r really very sorry to your friend and you are leaving the town forever.... And also tell her that you will miss her so much..  And after a couple of seconds your friend will surely talk to you.... Try this, its really effective...
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Anonymous answered
The best way to get your friend to like you again is to just be honest. I went through the same thing with my two best friends, when they didn't like the guy I was going out with. I fixed it by reminding them of all the fun we used to have when we were all friends, and then I apologized. Make sure you do this with sincerity, and let them really know that you care. Also, make sure you apologize in person, as it may not sound the same over Texting. I hope everything turns out alright with you and your friend(s), and don't forget ...hoes before bros!! Chicks before dicks !!! (I learned the hard way..no pun intended) teehee...xoxo
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Kass answered
Find out why, and then try to talk out the situation. If they wont talk to you about why they are angry, give them some time to cool off and then try again.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Sigh. My best friend hates me too. Ah well. What I did was right and I'm not going back on it. If she wants to be a bloody prat then that's her decision.
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Anonymous answered
Has your friend if he/she is mad at you.Or what did you do wrong that you caused her/him to not talk to you.
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Anonymous answered
I just found out that my best friend who was like my sister wants space from  me. She doesnt want to talk to me or anything. We did everything together and now she doesnt even want to talk to me. I have some mental issues and I just thought she understood but I guess she doesnt. She has problems too and I have always stuck by her but now when I have problems she backs out. One of my other friends told me she just wants time to breathe and she will talk to me when the time is ready. I am just wondering how long that will be. Its just really hard we dance at the same dance studio and I just don't want to go back.
Oh I found out she doesnt want to talk to me or anything by my dance teacher. She told my dance teacher to tell me. I just feel betrayed.
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Anonymous answered
Confront them. If they persist these actions. Well their probably not worth your time.
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Anonymous answered
My best friend hates me. I don't get. I said no to hanging out once and the bam my other friend and my bestfriend hate me. Out of nowhere. I've been crying since I found out and I can't stop
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Anonymous answered
I said to my friend I don't want to be friends anymore but I do so how do I become there best friend again
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dejae dejae answered
I was the only one she had we were bestfriends I got attached to her and her son and her boyfriend got out of jail and she doesn't talk to me anymore it kills me its been a year and I still think about her everyday and still cry every night I hate this feeling I added her on facebook and she asked how I was doing and now she wont reply I can't stop crying I can't take it she was my bestfriend.
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Morgan menoli answered
I'm going through the same thing. I don't know what I did, but I keep my head up high and remember: Things have to go in your life, and if they come back; then you know it is yours forever.
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Anonymous answered
I myself have a best friend, well.... Don't know if I have one anymore. Its a male and he used to be so kind... So caring... So loving. He used to always put me first but now, he seems to be going off a lot on his own with his other group of friends that hes just recently met. He doesnt seem to care anymore when we get into rows, he seems to hate me. The past couple of months we have gotton very close with eachother and ive been loving it because I really like him but he has a girlfriend. When I'm with him, he treats me like I'm his girl, his only girl and that he will do anything for me but just recently, hes showed another side to him. A side that is sick to death of me, a side that I can just tell he would rather be with his other mates then me, whose been best mates with him for six years. I am so scared of loosing him but on the other hand, he makes me so unhappy, hes changed a lot, its not him anymore, so why would I want to be with someone who has become like that??? I love him, I want to be with him, It sucks because, hes part of me, ive spent every moment with him, every memory ive got is with him. Sometimes, things just get to a point where theres nothing you can say or do that can fix the problem. Me and him have been through too much together and it has torn us apart. We have said and done things that we have regret but I don't think we can save our relatioship anymore, its just gone too far. I'm so dissapointed in myself and him for letting it go this far. Sometimes I blame myself for it getting like this. I just don't know what to do anymore. People say it will work out for the best but what if the best is to not see him at all anymore and to let him go???? I couldnt imagine living without him.
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Anonymous answered
Don't worry about because she going allways tell your other friend that she can't talk to you just don't worry about her ass she will try to get you back then what you going to do after that now she tell your friend that what should you tell the friend that you are talk to right now
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Zeina Jason answered
Say for him in a paper sorry can you forgive me the last time if he/her say no leave her/him until her/him feel their sorry but if you want them to come back you need to now does she/he love from staff and when she/he come to ask you that you can let them use it you need to say 'didn't you not be my friend if youu want to be my friend again never ever not be my friend k deal only thx
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Anonymous answered
My bestest friend in the world hates me because someone told her that I talk about her behind her back. Ive only done this twice and I no she talks abot me behind my back a couple times too. She ates me and I just want to be friends with her again but she wont alk 2 me. WHAT DO I DO!!!!!!
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Anonymous answered
Well I'm in the same situation where one of my best mates isn't talking to me its been 4 weeks now ,and she has done this before last time I sorted it out but this time I'm not really that bothered because I knoe everything I will forgive her and move on the more she will do it,I'm just going to forget about her now ,its just uncoimfortable though that she in my every class and we use to do everything togetehr and now we don't becase of this we hardly speak or look at each other we act like each other aint their ,
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Then they are not your best friends... You should accept each other who or whatever they are...
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Me and my best friend got in a fight and now she doesnt want to be my friend anymore\11
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Julie Woods answered
If your best friend hates you, there must be a reason.  Let it go.  Give your "friend" some space.
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Horsecrazy answered
My best friend HATES ME becase I was always there for her and did what a friend should do! Some people are brats just leave them they might come back for your friend ship you never now
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Anonymous answered
I'm going through the same thing yes it hurts but it will get better you wont think so at the time but trust me it does give them time and let them see there not everyhting you have and theyll be back always do
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Ruben Oldbury answered
I also recently lost my best friend. I really don't know what I have done...
I was so close with her she was like my girlfriend and she loved me too. We've been through so much together I can't face losing her. I almost feel like commiting suicide.... Her best friend always gets jealous and starts being mean to me and because we were such good friends and my best friend was getting more atencion than her best friend she literaly ripped us apart. And because they both like me they're always arguing over me. I really don't know what to do... I miss her so much... I hate the other one now because shes always telling on me to other kids at school. Shes making the one that I love hate me... And now I can't even trust them and they don't want to talk to me and I see them whispering to each other while looking at me and then they just laugh.I have no other friends... I cry and I cry and I just don't know what to do. I'm lonely. PLEASE HELP! :'(  :'(  :'(  :'(  :'(  :'(  :'(  :'(  :'(  :'(  :'(
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emma danish answered
You can see where shes coming from here can't you though, she just got dumped then told he likes you and you don't like him but yet your still hanging out with him why not tell your friend you would rather spend time with her as shes your best friend ever and tell her her ex is not worth the hassle and she should move on and that you are there for her  
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Anonymous answered
My best friend for three years. I'm in junior high and she absolutely will have no conversation with me. And I'm positive I did nothing wrong. Maybe she needs space. I'm pretty clingy. I'd call her name and she'd just look at me then run off to her friend screaming her name.
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Anonymous answered
My best friend hates me too now, and she wont talk to me. My other friends that know her are telling me that she thinks that I'm 'mean' to her. I think all you can do is try to be nicer, and they might forgive you for whatever you did.
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Misaki Ayuzawa answered
You cannot take it away for a BFF to hate you for that reason. I mean, the guy likes you right. And you cannot take it away for a guy to like you. So this is what you do. I think you should avoid both of them. Ah... Wait. First, talk to your BFF about this. Then, after that, avoid her. Let her realize that hating you is not a good idea. Then, talk to the guy who likes you... And then.. Leave him. Just avoid him... Let him realize that he's just a waste of time. Then, if they realized that you are right, your BFF's ex might go back to your BFF and she would like you again. ;)
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I would  wait  a  while  and  let  things  cool  down  and  than maybe
Just  sit  down  and  write them a  letter of  apology  if  you need  to  and send it  to them or  possibly  call  them  on the phone  and  see what they say
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Anonymous answered
I have tried talking to her, and she wont talk back. We grew up together. And I couldnt bear to lose her but I can't make her like me again but you can say sorry but that sometimes doesnt work. You have to wait it out. If they don't come crawling back then they werent your bestfriend. The truth is some people don't know how to be a true true bestfriend. I hope this helps someone.
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Well, I guess just say sorry 2 her/him. Rite now I'm in a fight with my BFFL just and I still want to be BFFLS with her. But theres another girl thts takin her away from me. And it hurts a lot because I wuz my just'S just 1st and now its like I'm not even there anymore :'( I just feel like cryin because she wuz my just and we had soooooo much fun 2gether until another girl came along. I told her I wuz sorry but she wont accept it. I want my just bak so plz if you guys have an answer 2 my problem plz help me.
-DiNoLuV3r and CuPcAkElOv3r
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Anonymous answered
You may need to apologize even if you feel as through you were right. You can say you apologize for the way everything came about.
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Mitch Cameron answered
Great response Sunny. Also tell the loser boyfriend to leave you alone, he's hurt your bf and that's not cool!
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Anonymous answered
I just found out my best friend hates me and I did nothing wrong at least I think I cried when I found out it was horrible if any1 knows how to fix this please tell me because I hate being with out my best friend:(
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Please help me!! I figured out that my best friend hates me and now we haven't talked for 2 months!! But I know she is my best friend because we've been friends since 2nd grade!! Please help me!!! I hate knowing my best friend hates me!! :(:(:(:(:(
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Anonymous answered
Well with me it's the other way around. I'm not talking to my bestfriend. I think that even if she isn't talking to you, you should attempt talking to her, even if all you get is silence. Just hang around, eventually she'll talk to you
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I don't know really noe what to do but usually I ask what id wrong,and what can make it better.Right now I'm going through the same thing whit my friend but its complicated...
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Wow, my best mate has tons of problems like not cleaning around the house for his mum, yet he blames it all on me, says all this horrible stuff....he hates me when I have done nothing wrong....guess I don't know what to do, I feel alone now.
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My friend is also not talking to me.. I waited for 2 3 weeks.. Still she is not talking to me....
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HELP ME TOO!! SOS! I found out my best friend/4th cousin hates me and she wont answer my calls,she banned me on facebook,and she wont talk to me when I say hi.she has been my best friend/4th cousin since 3rd grade!! I've tried making up with her but she wont tell me what I did!! I'm too the verge of hurting myself but I'm too afraid to...
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Anonymous answered
Me and my bff had a bust up yesterday and I still don't know what to do she wont talk to me she doesn't speak about me unless its something bad I feel so sad all the time now. :/ :'(
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james penny answered
Trust me just ignore them and they will regret breaking up with you. When ever they enter into a room you go out. Trust me they'll be begging for friendship.
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My best friends hate me at the moment & iv don't so much wrong but i6ts nothing got to do with them, iv been crying for ages & I think everyone is going to hate me. My bestfriend told me she will never be bma's with me again :'(;'(
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Well,you need to tell her sorry.and tell her don't let people control you thats stupid.and tell her how to tell thoughs people not to control her.
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My friend won't talk to me cause I admire someone she hates.I like both of them eqully.
I tried talking to her she does not respond . But I really like her. What should I do? I have other friends but I like her most
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Anonymous answered
I think he dumped her for you because your probly preetier  than her and she should still be you   friend the same thing happend to me I know how you feel
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Lucy answered
I Have a Friend That We Fought Over A Rumor And Like She Was Close To Me I Would Always Be The Bigger Person To Apologize Then I Said Sorry Two Times And Like She Doesnt Forgive Me The Rumor Was I Was Suposeably Talkinqq S*** About Her but I Never Have I Always Talk Nice Thinks And She Gave Me Everythinq Back That I Gave Her Wen We Were Friend Letters,friendship bracelet, etc I really miss her and wen I got to school I see her there actinq to play it off :/ help
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I lost a freind too but she wanted to fight me ova a boy I didnt even want. It was no connection or anything I didnt say hi to this boy...but it all started close to our jr. Yr. An when school ended we end up fighting but she tried to jump me but that never happening on me watch... So we fought and then she fought ma freind too but try and find out you because it must be a reason you she dislikes you...girl nothing to worry about but beat ha up if she come uncorrect...p.s ma ex freind drop outta school became a stripper an sleeps where ever ha head lays all because of this boy... I neva let a lil boy get me dnw to were I drop out...but if you looking silly trying to fight ova a boy who ant up to nothing I would nt go back either ...lol sucks 4 ha.
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Lenalee Lee answered
What you need to do first is to just give her a sweet present with a card saying that you want to be friends with her again. Next, meet with her at a very niece or peaceful place, for example the beach. Say that you are very sorry about the fight that you made with her. Ask her if you still could be friends with her. At this point, I predict that she might forgive you.
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My best friends were fighting and they are cousins, I said one day you arent goin to be mates anymore if you keep fighting and then my bestfriend started started shouting at me and I said I was going in and I heard her talk about me. She said something and I said shut up and she shouted all over the park or what and I walked out, five minutes later I got a text saying sorry !!
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Let things blow off for  a min. Sent  a card or something to say I am sorry or could we still be friends again.
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isaac white answered
Well find out why he hates you ask him if is has anything to do with you and ask him he needs help tell him you will always be there for him no matter what happens and that you care about him
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Anonymous answered
I dot know. I'm trying to figure that one out myself. My best friend (or so I thought) hates me now. So, crap.
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Chinno answered
Ask them to forgive you and you both have been friends too long for this to happen.
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Kumo Suturifu answered
Am having the real same thing her its so killing me , shes my soulmate ,, ive been bugging her to know whats wrong she talled me that it was her anniversary with afriend that left her ,,
its killing me .. She have been away .. I used to wake up on her morning whispers to me with the luck .. Now shes not there ,, now even when I ask her " how is it goin " she jus say " fine " thats so not her .. I feel very dead without her ,, I mean when I look at me ,, I care only about her ,, if I was sad she wud blow my sadness away ,, why can't I jus do the same to her .. Wud it be that she love me less ? ,, I MISS HER so much .. I promised her once I wont leave her ever ,, n I will protact her from every thing ,, I don't know if giving her  a space considerd leaving ?! Uh am really having a rough time 4 her ! ="
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It really depends, how big the fight was, I have a idea but its extreme, and is probably only useful if the fight was massive, but here's my idea...
If you have myspace you should dedicate your profile to her, just for awhile, like you should get a picture of you and her or just her and set it as your background and then make you about me about her, for example.. (say her name was danielle melanie smith)
DANIELLE MELANIE SMITH~
you are truly a great friend...
I don't want our fight to get in the way of our friendship
can we please move on..
Etc etc etc.
Then set your song as.. Please remember by leann rimes.
See how it is extreme. Then set your status.. "danielle" please forgive me and please read my profile. Xx darbee
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Anonymous answered
My best friend hates me, but hes also my cousin :( I love him heaps and hes hated me for ages. It sucks. I just want to be able to hug my cousin like I am in the photo I keep crying over :( HELP
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Anonymous answered
Well what do I do cause my friend thinks I called her fat when infact I didnt wad do I do!

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