Oscar De La Huerte answered
Getting over an ex can be pretty tough. Relationships invoke a lot of emotions and feelings, and shedding them overnight when a relationship comes to an end is impossible.
In my opinion, the best way to get over an ex-boyfriend and break that cycle of 'obsession' is by following these steps:
Getting over someone you've been romantically involved with isn't meant to be easy. Good relationships are based on strong emotions, bonds, and feelings. These aren't things you can just switch on and off like a light bulb.
Putting someone you once cared for behind you is extremely hard, which is why I recommend taking a structured approach.
Here are 7 steps that will guarantee he becomes history faster than those UGG boots everyone was wearing last year.
In my opinion, the best way to get over an ex-boyfriend and break that cycle of 'obsession' is by following these steps:
- Give it time
- Keep some distance
- Address your feelings
- Talk with friends
- Get rid of your memories
- Keep busy
- Find something else that makes you happy
Getting over someone you've been romantically involved with isn't meant to be easy. Good relationships are based on strong emotions, bonds, and feelings. These aren't things you can just switch on and off like a light bulb.
Putting someone you once cared for behind you is extremely hard, which is why I recommend taking a structured approach.
Here are 7 steps that will guarantee he becomes history faster than those UGG boots everyone was wearing last year.
- Give it time- Healing takes time. Just as you avoid touching a graze on your knee when you fall, getting over your feelings means going through a period of pain. Don't rush things and keep focused on the fact that there is a way through.
- Keep some distance- Don't hang out in places he's likely to turn up at, don't try and move on to being 'just friends' too quickly. Space between the two of you will help things cool down a bit.
- Address you feelings- There's nothing worse than pretending everything is fine when it blatantly isn't. It may sound like a line used on an AA pamphlet, but admitting there is a problem is the first step.
- Talk with friends- It's in times of hardship that you find out who your true friends are. Having a night out with the girls might sound a little 'Sex and the City', but there's really nothing like friends (and Cosmos) to get over a guy.
- Get rid of your memories- Burning his favorite sweater that he left at your house can be cathartic. Take a big box and fill it with all the things that remind you of him. Then nuke them. You'll feel as if a weight has been lifted off your shoulders and you'll also have a great bonfire to roast marshmallows on too.
- Keep busy- Sitting around the house watching reruns of The Big Bang Theory isn't going to get you anywhere (especially considering Penny and Lenard's on-off relationship!). Get out of the house and keep busy. This will take your mind off him, and will also help you realize there are so many more things in life to get excited about. Going to the gym can be a great way to get over a guy: It keeps you fit, introduces a routine, and you're also more likely to meet a tall Swedish guy with a hot toned body and abs like Jesus.
- Find something else that makes you happy- The biggest mistake that girls make is to jump into the another relationship right after they've broken up with someone. Moving on should only happen when you're emotionally and physically ready for it. When you are, don't hesitate. You deserve to be happy, so if someone catches your eye, don't be afraid to explore your options.
