You WILL feel better but it will take time, lots of it. 15 years is a big investment in a relationship and whilst I don't know the reasons for your marriage ending, because it wasn't your choice makes it harder to cope with.
A relationship break-up is very similar to a death - there are distinct stages that follow and no-one can predict how long each stage will take. The first stage is shock followed by a numb period which represents denial. This second stage might last for years! Emotions will follow after this - anger, bitterness, resentment, grief. It's only when all the anger and even hate is washed away can you pick up the threads of your life again once you have reached true acceptance. My guess is you're at stage 2 now and you need to honour those feelings by not judging yourself or trying to cover up either. Some people rush into a new relationship in order to kill the pain of loss and loneliness but that's not the answer. Take this unique opportunity to learn from your failed marriage, heal and grow and look forward to feeling better some day and starting fresh.
A relationship break-up is very similar to a death - there are distinct stages that follow and no-one can predict how long each stage will take. The first stage is shock followed by a numb period which represents denial. This second stage might last for years! Emotions will follow after this - anger, bitterness, resentment, grief. It's only when all the anger and even hate is washed away can you pick up the threads of your life again once you have reached true acceptance. My guess is you're at stage 2 now and you need to honour those feelings by not judging yourself or trying to cover up either. Some people rush into a new relationship in order to kill the pain of loss and loneliness but that's not the answer. Take this unique opportunity to learn from your failed marriage, heal and grow and look forward to feeling better some day and starting fresh.
