I am 74, chose to break up with verbal abusive boyfriend. No other choice. It is a big loss for me, socially, financially, personal, and sexually. I feel totally devastated and grief stricken. Any suggestions on how to handle?

I take it that couples therapy is out of the question and is probably something he won't attend.

Have you considered approaching him with the option of an open relationship ?

The both of you maintain your bond, your finances, your social life but are able to see/ date other people. It may improve your relationship or may make it worse. It's not without risk. It's a bit out there but you are in your golden years and should enjoy life.

Grief is part of the process after ending a relationship. So is adjusting your life. If you were living together it is a bigger adjustment. Just take stock in what you do have an go from there. Life is too short to be spent with someone who is abusive. And socially if people are bailing on you because you left, they were never your friends to begin with. Jus figure out what you really want out of life and go do it.