Do You Believe It's Possible To Have A Long Distance Relationship With A Guy In Another State?

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Pat Merrifield Profile
Pat Merrifield answered
In October of 1974 I met a girl in Texas who I dated/hung out with for a week. Left and went overseas keeping in touch by letters and a very occasional phone call. Occasional as calls were $3.00 a minute when the ship I was on happened to be in port. When I returned to the states in August of 1975 I married her and next month we will celebrate 33 years together. Takes some serious commitment and communication to succeed but it can be done.
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Becca McGee
Becca McGee commented
I really wish that this would work out, but it's really hard considering we only saw each other for a week. We're not dating or anything yet, but he admits that he likes me and i admit that i like him. we're talking as friends first, but it's hard not knowing if this could work out or not. I know a lot of people say that being a junior in high school is way to early to get serious and i'm not saying i am, but we really have a connection here, even if it is just as friends. I've been hurt a million times with guys before so i'm really cautions about what guys i get close to. It's hard for me to admit that i have trouble with relationships, but it's true, yet somehow with this guy it's different. He's really nice and we can talk for hours at a time and i don't mean just flirting with each other, it's about serious stuff too. When i go for a guy though i don't mess around because i've been hurt by too many guys doing that to me to even think about it. I have to be 100% sure that i like the guy and that he will treat me right first. Do you have any other advice on how we could make this work??
Pat Merrifield
Pat Merrifield commented
healnheart, far be it from me to think any advice which I offer to be correct or guaranteed to work. Can only tell of what worked for us. Initially I thought here's this woman who is so smart, beautiful, talented, and perfect that if I didn't get her right away then someone would come along and snatch her from me. Just about soured the relationship with being pushy. You're basically at the beginning of the part of your life where choosing a partner is all consuming. Don't push or try to rush into anything, as decisions you make concerning relationships have a long lasting effect. If a person doesn't want to take time to develop the relationship then their probably too immature to be in one, anyway. Sounds as if you already have the communication thing down, just don't lose it. You being a junior in high school or your chronological age does not, to me, carry alot of weight. A level of maturity or lack of it makes or breaks a relationship. I know people older than myself who are still too childish to sustain a relationship. Could preach all day long concerning don't fall too deeply too soon but with matters of the heart it's often impossible to control those feelings so won't even try. Keep your word at all times. Rise above the jealousy stumblingblock as once doubt creeps in is very hard to salvage trust. As with matters of the heart another item you should work on is an interest outside of your love relationship giving you something to fall back on should your dreams be destroyed. I'm not talking about having someone else, can be anything which you enjoy; public service, a school activity, a pet, a hobby, you probably get my drift. Hope this helps. Am not real good at expressing myself and wish I could give you more definitive solutions.
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I rarely have ever heard that they work, you have to know one another very well, and have to have complete faith in one another. It doesn't just happen, it takes a lot of work, even living together, there is constant work in communication and devotion to one another. It's a common thing in Alaska for marriages and relationships to end because so many men work up on the slope and they are away for so long, anywhere from 2 weeks on , and 2 weeks off. Others work 1 month, and get 1 or 2 weeks off. Seldom do they ever work out. Hope this helps.
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Pat Merrifield
Pat Merrifield commented
Tig, had the woman who became my mother-in-law not have seen what a tremendous catch I was (sic), Linda probably wouldn't have agreed to marry me after only being around me for the initial week. You are absolutely right when you say it takes faith in each other, devotion, and communication. These traits must also be practiced continually for any relationship to endure.
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paul williams answered
Personally i don't think long distance relationships work. I have yet to see any work out but have heard the one in a million story of it working out. I think its best to set clear expectations and realistic goals for a relationship to have any chance at all distance or not. Communication is key. Good luck hopefully your the one in a million.
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Becca McGee
Becca McGee commented
See the problem is i meant him in kentucky and we only knew each other for a week, but when we talked everything just seemed to fall into place. We have the same expectations of the other and we have the same goals and interests. I only know him through a friend, but when we talk on the phone there's never any awkward silences because we both enjoy the same things.
maya gogo Profile
maya gogo answered
I think it depends in you and him are you and him really loves each other , i think the distance will make your love hot , but if not so it will be the excuse for the cheating... Be sure about him and your self first
Brittany Lynn Profile
Brittany Lynn answered
If there is trust in the relationship then yes,but if there is no trust at all then it isn't going to work trust me i know!!! And yes it will be hard.

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