I can not give you the signs of cheating in a long distance relationship exclusively, but I can advise you on what you need to do to guard your heart, or at least protect it from this day forward. Since you can't see them, you'll never be for sure if there is cheating. However when you visit him, make it a point to check things out. Trust me men are like dogs, they Sh-t and don't cover it up, and women are like cats they cover up their sh-t! (That's another story though) So the obvious is this, pay attention to all detail. Don't make it obvious, but listen to his calls, see if he answers all calls in front of you, notice if his tone of voice changes or he acts a little nervous See if he keeps his cell phone off around you,. Hopefully you have met his friend's girlfriends or wives. Hopefully you can build a relationship with one, but not all of them. Pick the one girlfriend that seems to be 100% real. You in return be real with her. Scope out how she interacts with her boyfriend, which is your man's friend. You two will begin to share things and can also share a friendship long distance. If she mentions she suspects her boyfriend cheats or he hangs out with the boys too much, pay attention. Birds of a feather flock together. Eventually you both will have each others back and she will either expose him to you or you'll feel comfortable in sharing how you feel, and perhaps she'll be able to shed a little light. It's hard to catch long distance cheating, but most of the same signs in a local relationship apply to a long distance relationship. Here's a few to get you started.
Disappearing Acts:
Does he have a pattern of disappearing without a trace. You can't reach him by cell phone, or any other course. Hours later or even the next day he responds with an excuse that he had an emergency, but the emergency has nothing to do with his hands. (Oops he forgot about that one).His stories become more and more unbelievable or unimaginable. He will suddenly lose his cell phone, the battery died, he didn't hear it ring, his homeboy went to jail, his dad is in the hospital, his homeboy died. It goes on and on. It's not that these things can't happen, but he has a sudden onset of them every few days is the catch.
His attitude changes toward you:
He becomes distant and uninterested. He cuts the calls short. He's now slow to responding to your calls, emails or texts. He suddenly has a high interests in doing things with his homeboys rather than spending time with you even if it's just by phone. He's stop referring to you and him as we, and now refers to himself. Altogether he is just not the same.
He talks about other women:
When men are trying to deceive a woman, they try to act as if they are being honest and upfront about everything. So they will tell you about women friends in their lives, their exes, their problems with their exes. This way they think you trust them because they share everything with you even though they really aren't. Just in case you hear a rumor about him being seen with any of them, it will be justified because they already told you. Only the very experienced cheater is smart enough to do this. Most men would not give you the slightest hint that they are cheating. You have to read between the lines and very carefully so. There are men that really do have women friends, but some of these men are romantically involved with these so -called women friends.
So the key here is to pay attention, he will expose his owns self in due time. Just save your heart, Pull it until you find the truth. There's no since asking because most men won't tell you the truth.
Meanwhile invest in yourself, don't be too available until you've got your answers. Show him you have a life outside of him and enjoy yourself. Make you happy! He will see two things. If he's cheating you are not going to give him the benefit of breaking your heart, nor are you going to wait around for his next lie, next disappearing act, or next deception. Remember Be Free! No man should complete you but instead compliment you.
Disappearing Acts:
Does he have a pattern of disappearing without a trace. You can't reach him by cell phone, or any other course. Hours later or even the next day he responds with an excuse that he had an emergency, but the emergency has nothing to do with his hands. (Oops he forgot about that one).His stories become more and more unbelievable or unimaginable. He will suddenly lose his cell phone, the battery died, he didn't hear it ring, his homeboy went to jail, his dad is in the hospital, his homeboy died. It goes on and on. It's not that these things can't happen, but he has a sudden onset of them every few days is the catch.
His attitude changes toward you:
He becomes distant and uninterested. He cuts the calls short. He's now slow to responding to your calls, emails or texts. He suddenly has a high interests in doing things with his homeboys rather than spending time with you even if it's just by phone. He's stop referring to you and him as we, and now refers to himself. Altogether he is just not the same.
He talks about other women:
When men are trying to deceive a woman, they try to act as if they are being honest and upfront about everything. So they will tell you about women friends in their lives, their exes, their problems with their exes. This way they think you trust them because they share everything with you even though they really aren't. Just in case you hear a rumor about him being seen with any of them, it will be justified because they already told you. Only the very experienced cheater is smart enough to do this. Most men would not give you the slightest hint that they are cheating. You have to read between the lines and very carefully so. There are men that really do have women friends, but some of these men are romantically involved with these so -called women friends.
So the key here is to pay attention, he will expose his owns self in due time. Just save your heart, Pull it until you find the truth. There's no since asking because most men won't tell you the truth.
Meanwhile invest in yourself, don't be too available until you've got your answers. Show him you have a life outside of him and enjoy yourself. Make you happy! He will see two things. If he's cheating you are not going to give him the benefit of breaking your heart, nor are you going to wait around for his next lie, next disappearing act, or next deception. Remember Be Free! No man should complete you but instead compliment you.
