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How Do You Say Sorry For Cheating?

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Your sincere apology, admitting your mistake, and request for his forgiveness is a good start. But we know that some people find it easier to forgive than others, and he may not be able or willing to give you his forgiveness. Unfortunately, one of the natural consequences of cheating is that it erodes or even destroys the trust that is so important to relationships of any kind, whether our friends or our loves. It may be hard to accept that your boyfriend may not be able to feel trust for you, and may not be able to forgive you or be friends with you again.

Regardless of what happens, be kind to yourself and forgive yourself. You already realize your mistake, and remember that we are all vulnerable to making them. Many people cheat and remain dishonest about it. Some people seem to have no conscience about it at all. It would probably help you to try to understand what caused you to do this, so you can recognize when you are vulnerable to making that kind of a mistake and make a better choice in the future. I hope you both can move forward from this, and I wish you the best. I would appreciate it if you would rate my answer if you have a moment so I will know if it was helpful to you.
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Lucy Jones answered
I too cheated (sorta) on my boyfriend of 2 years. We were not communicating well and I was so lonely. So I went out with some guy I met off the internet. Me and this guy off the internet never even touched and I had told him I didnt want to date him, just be friends (he was  seeing some girl anyways). We just had dinner, some good conversation and enjoyed a movie at the theatre.  But my boyfriend found out about my online profile and was deeply hurt. My online profile even said I was not single and not looking but I flirted with the guys who emailed me because I liked the attention and their emails was something I looked forward to. I know now I should have talked to my bf about the way I was feeling and yes I should have maybe gone out with my girlfriends or other guyfriends that my bf knows about just so I couold get things off my chest. My bf said he felt betrayed and he never wanted to see me again. Course, I was devastated over the pain I caused him and it was not even worth it. I have apologized to him. I gave him some space.. About 3 weeks (hell for me). Now we've started talking again. I'm making sure to not be overbearing and give him space. He has started telling me he loves me and I of course love hearing that. I prayed a lot while we were broken up. I would cry rivers. I was so stupid but also felt very misunderstood.
Can he, will he completely forgive? Will YOUR man completely forgive? Only time will tell.  Good luck to you. And don't ever lie to him again... Not even for the smallest things. It is NEVER worth it!
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Farah Faith commented
You are really lucky nbk2yle...!! I wish the same happens with me! Well...it has already been 5 weeks..but I didn't get any positive response from him! Even I am praying a lot to get him back...crying everyday with my heart out!! Already lost 5 kilos due to excessive tension and depression! Don't know what's in my fate!
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Well I can tell you that after three years together I proposed to my girlfriend who happily accepted. The next day she tearfully admitted to me that she cheated on me two weeks prior. I am still with her but its been 2 months and I don't think I can do it because that feeling of only being with one another can never be again. I forgive her on a personal level but starting to realize I can't forgive her as a lover. She's asked me many times what she can do to make it better and the answer is: Nothing.  All you can do is be HONEST with him and yourself and if you really love him, show him every day the best you can and hope he stays (if thats what you really want)
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Can I ask why you cheated on him if he was your everything and you love him so much? I just don't understand why people cheat..NOTHING good can EVER come of it..only heartache and pain to the innocent partner. You could start by apologizing to him and let him know exactly what made you make such a terrible mistake..After all, we are all human and make mistakes..and yes, he CAN forgive you. After all, God forgives us, so who are we not to forgive each other. But, don't expect it to come easy for him, you've stepped over the boundaries and hurt him terrible, so be patient as you will have to earn his trust. Word to the wise: Don't EVER do this again. He doesn't deserve it!
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alicia smith answered
There is no way other than telling him that you are sorry explain why you are sorry and if he has any questions answer them honestly and let him make the decision wheter you to can still be friends and boyfriend and girlfriend probly would never work again cause in the back of his mind he is always going to ask the question again about wheter or not your cheating on him it would not be fair to you nor it would not be fair to him and time heals almost everything. Give him time and space to think things over
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Ashton Kirkman answered
My heart is breaking right now. My boyfriend and I have been dating since I was 16. When we decided to go to different colleges about 2 hours away from each other, it was really tough on our relationship, but we made it work. I love him to death. Over the last year, I've been through some really rough stuff. I developed an eating disorder and just felt pretty worthless. I ended up going to a party one night with a bunch of guys from work. I was kind of drunk and was going to call a friend to come get me. One of the guys told me to just crash at his place... He made me feel special and wanted which is a very dangerous way for someone who is not your significant other to make you feel. From a mix of insecurities and alcohol, I ended up making out with the guy. No sex. I woke up the next morning instantly feeling awful about what happened. I called my boyfriend that night and told him everything. He was so hurt. We broke up right then. It sucks because I'm so ready and willing to fix our relationship, but I know that I need to fix myself first. I know that it isn't easy, but I'm finding comfort every day knowing that God has a plan for me, no matter how bad I mess up. Only he can change hearts. I know he has something really special planned for me, and all I can do is work on myself. I want my bf to forgive me more than anything in the world, but all I can do is know that he knows I'm sorry, and the ball is in his court.
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I m just in that situation now...and I feel really sorry. I told him tonight that I ve cheated on him with my ex.... I felt so bad all the time. The problem is that we have a long distance relationship... And I don't want to tell him without looking into his eyes.... But today he was asking me on the internet chat... I can't lie to him when he was asking me... So I just got to tell him... Ohhh I was crying so much. I can't live without that man. I love him more than I can love any other man ..... He means so much to me... And I can never cheat on him again... But now I think that will be the start of an end between him and me.... I'm afraid of losing him
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There is no easy way to say sorry. Obviously if you had to cheat then he wasn't the right person for you. He may forgive but I'm sure he won't forget and that would just leave a big strain in your relationship. Without trust you have nothing.
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Lucy Jones answered
I understand somewhat where you are coming from. I (female)was in a 2 yr old relationship and me and my boyfriend were fine except for lately, we had communication issues. I didn't sleep with anyone but I created a profile on a dating website and went out for movies and dinner with a guy off the site. We didn't kiss, hold hands or anything and I had told this guy I couldn't date him, I only wanted to be friends. My reason was, I was
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It's been 2 years of the best of my life with you. I know when I say this you'll think it's a lie and I'am just being stupid but this is from my heart and I swear to my life. That I'am sorry , but I know that you'll never take me back so I'am hear to say that I'am sorry and I can't be friend's or boyfriend with you anymore...
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JJJJJJ BBBBBB answered
Acknowledge that you are not mature enough for a committed relationship, break up, and move on. There is no real future in your relationship at this point. Even if you twist his arm or get pregnant to force him into marriage at some point, he will resent you. If he wants to get back together with some point you may have a chance but for now it is dead - bury it and move on.
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Honestly, telling him it meant nothing and you thought of him the whole time is a high school response that all guys and girls will fall for. If your over the age of 18 then I would sit down and tell him exactly how you feel, I am going through this now and I am about to sit down tomorrow with my boyfriend and tell him that I am sorry and just pour my heart out to him. Building trust takes a little time, building trust back up takes even longer. You have to be ready to take the possible break up, don't think just cause you open up he will say ok its all fine. He could break up with you, or just say I need time to think about this. But you just got to prove yourself. Actions speak louder than words.
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Really there is no way to say sorry just ask for his forgiveness and tell him how you feel about him now and everyday make sure he is the person you want to be with I know sometimes things happen and you might not have wanted to cheat so just try your damnest to make it work I'm going through a kind of similar situation myself!! ;0
gerlie bakiskisan Profile
We do mistake cause we are just human being, maybe it happens cause everything has a reason and has a purpose.
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kya bush answered
I think you should prove to that person that your sorry and really show them.
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How? I kissed another person and realli realli want to make itup to my bf so we can still stay parntners and i will never do it again i know i can keep that promis but he was already lost all trust in me how do i prove i am sori and realli do respect him
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I have a problem lying to my ex (with whom we have been trying to work out our relationship). Its over the dumbest things. Like other girls I've talked to and who I've liked. How do I get past the lying????
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I cheated on my boyfriend and I'm scared hes gone leave me but I'm so sorry
it was just a one night stand my boyfriend means everything too me
I know he wouldnt do nothing like that too me SO
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LORENZO JR answered
Say I cheated and did wrong but if you ask me life is life and its going to happen.I cheated on my girlfriend marie the only reason I did it cause she didnt like the things I did or girls I talked to...if you got an x and you talk to her as a friend and she think you in love with her ...what would you say
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Tell them how you truly feel like never before.Tell him that it was nothing, I thought of him the whole time. Say that you didnt want to tell him because you were afraid to tell because he will feel angry,betrayed and hurt.
Tell him that was an unforgivable thing to do that, ask to start all over again as friends then carry on from there...
 
Sorry if it doesnt work out ...hope things do.
GOOD LUCK!
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I cheated on my boyfriend of three years, we were planning on getting married next year, but because I needed money to register for my school I meet this other guy through my aunt and she pushed me into dating the other guy and I had to lie to my boyfriend so that I could get to see the new guy and my three year boyfriend found out that I wa cheating and he is really angry, dissapointed and betrayed. He says he still loves me but he does not think we should continue with our relationship. I truel and deeply love this guy with all my hear and soul but I don't know how to tell him that I love him and I'm really sorry, have tried to say sorry but he does not belive me. What should I do. How do I say I'm sorry.
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Just try to apologize and explain to the person how you feel and hope they forgive you. It's going to take some time, but maybe you will be friends. That's really all you can do. Good Luck,
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Scott answered
You have to pay for your decision to cheat on him. There is no forgiving you for the pain you caused him.
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T D commented
Forgiveness is always an option. Forgiveness is not for the one who violated, but rather for the one who was violated. It frees a person to move past the hurt, so that they are not damaged. Also, when a person forgives, it allows them freedom in their next relationship.
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I don't know I want to say sorry to my bf but its really hard I been crying ever since I cheat just once and I feel really bad
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jess peret answered
Well you would be very lucky if he took you back, if I was you, I would learn from this mistake and move on.
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Leprechon answered
What happens happens I hope he understands oh and play THE PUSSYCAT DOLLS-Stickwitu
during your apology
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You don't you should have never done it in the first place and you wouldnt be in this kinda situation now would you so tell him what you did and if he doesnt forgive you I don't blame him
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Just say it and then fake cry or pretend to care
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Mizz Chick commented
Fake crying is stupid. If you pretent to cry, then you don't care. Because IF that person that you told to that you cheated on them, see's you crying and then at the next minute jumping around and acting stupid with some friends, then he will know that you pretended. So pretending isn't really necessary. And also, why would you waiste your time pretending when you could use your time wisely such as getting things done that will make your life better. But if pretending makes your life better. Go for it.

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